Would you stay with someone who isn't willing to have oral sex?

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I've talked to quite a few people that say won't do oral or that their partners won't do it on them. Like i cannot see why people are like this. They must be crazy or something. Especially the people that have partners like this. I woulda cut off my husband day one if he wasn't into oral.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

It depends.
I had a girlfriend who didn't really care about receiving oral. When I tried to go down on her, she would just tell me to come inside her. She loved intercourse and came like a maniac during penetrative sex. We fucked all the freaking time. I didn't miss licking pussy when I was with her, so, in that case, I wouldn't have even considered breaking up with her. In reality, I go down on women to give them pleasure, not so much to give myself pleasure, although I don't mind doing it at all.
She gave great blowjobs and swallowed hungrily. But I never asked for them because I enjoyed fucking her better than getting head. When she initiated a blowjob, though, I didn't mind at all. It's such a wonderful surprise gift for a woman to give to a man. She was incredibly skilled at it, too. But because our sex was so unbelievably good, I could have lived without blowjobs.
Now that I think of it, though, I did ask her to suck me off after I had been fucking her and was about ready to cum. She would do so without hesitation when asked. I wouldn't have broken up with her if she didn't. I'd be glad to cum inside her all day long. But that kind of blowjob is a gift from heaven.
In the end, I'll say that I love receiving oral, but it's not mandatory if the woman is a wild, orgasmic fuck.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

No , I wouldn’t , by a partner not giving you oral just means they really aren’t into you is the way I look at it , I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone that doesn’t like oral period , cuz if I am going down on her and she doesn’t go down on me then that just shows she is selfish and only really cares about herself , so a relationship wouldn’t be progressing , I would be on the prowl for someone else , it’s shit like this that makes relationships fail , I see it all the time , in a committed relationship you should never make your partner not feel wanted , I don’t care how upset or stressed out you are you should still make your partner feel wanted , what people aren’t getting at home is what they will get outside of home , happens all the time , can’t tell you how many married women I came across that were sexually frustrated at home , saying their husbands don’t want sex , they don’t help them around the house , they are never home always going out with their friends etc.. I know Girls do this shit as well to their husbands and that’s the problem with relationships , people r selfish and only really think about themselves , so if I am in a relationship I am going down on her as much as I can and she better be doing the same lol

MissKittyz · Accepted Answer

After I've been with two boring guys in my past who literally made me hate sex, I'm NEVER going back to close-minded guys. My first ex was super vanilla and wanted to receive oral but not give it back. Like ever. Didn't even give me a reason either just that it isn't "his thing". Well, it isn't my "thing" to date a boring man so no, I wouldn't stay with someone who isn't willing to give me oral sex. It is part of sex and I want to be with someone who is open-minded and wants to try many things with me.

I did find a man like this though and he is my fiancé :) so now I seriously love sex. But I'm not dating someone who isn't into oral sex.

tooturntT · Accepted Answer

I only give Oral when I really like or trust a guy to not be a meanie weenie to me Bc Freshman year I had sex with a guy and he didn’t finish so he told everyone I was bad at sucking dick even though I didn’t do it in the first place. So now Bc of that experience I’m insecure and scared they’ll judge me lmfao. Also the first time I sucked dick I was dating a football player and he didn’t shower and it was the worst thing I ever encountered, but I was not about to look like a little bitch all over again. But the smell of his balls are burned into my brain.

chrissykerdock · Answer

I would actually need to give oral sex... so I would definitely need a guy who likes receiving it... not really troubled if he doesn't want to return the favor... I never asked a guy or gave an ultimatium for a guy to eat my pussy.

Vedika08 · Answer

Have been with my husband who isn't willing for oral sex: either giving or receiving but I have held onto him.

sassy1433 · Answer

I’m in a relationship like that now. He’s not into giving it. I’m ok with that.

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

Well, I'm not in a relationship and don't plan to be again at least for quite some time, but I would be completely fine with it, seeing as I have zero interest in it. Actually, one of the many reasons I choose to remain single is because I have zero interest in ANYTHING sexual, which I know is a dealbreaker for 99.999% of guys. I know I can't force myself to do anything I'm uncomfortable with and don't have any desire to.

cheapshotbob · Answer

i would seeing how i can't be made to orgasm that way but if it makes them think i enjoy it and i would i would let them till the cows come home.

Moonchild714 · Answer

Oral Sex isn't the be all and end all. My husband is the first man I'm able to give Oral to and not be Triggered of PTSD. If someone is against Oral they may have a Valid reason. It's a common Trigger for those who were Sexually Assaulted as Children since that is often the First Sexual Assault Act Induced on them.

matchrestore · Answer

I don't need oral sex, so I would. My wife does need oral to orgasm sometimes, so I would if I were here. Luckily I love giving oral, so it's not an issue.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I really can’t see myself ever saying “ I’m sorry sweetheart , while I think everything else about you is perfect , you don’t do oral sex and because of this I cannot be with you “. Lol 😂 really , well good luck with that , it’s about the whole package , when you grow up you will realise this !! 😂

mudie0991 · Answer

The first (and only) guy I ever gave oral to kinda forced it on me... by shoving my head down on his dick (we were sitting) and wouldn't let me up until he was done, despite me trying to push myself back up. Kinda ruined it for me, and I haven't done it since. The guys I've been with never cared, but its always been a "if you won't, then I won't" kind of deal. A bit disappointing, but fair. Only one guy didn't care, and gave me oral anyway... and it was just...👌

Sonorous · Answer

Considering the fact that I'd give myself oral if I could. (no homo) I would not be willing to date anyone that didn't.

JackSmy · Answer

People like what they like, but it isn't a deal-breaker! I have never really liked any lady thinking she had to do oral, and don't really find it that amazing, so I could easily let that go. I love pleasing her, though, but some are nervous and uncomfortable with that too!
I think if you are a good couple, you find your own, personal way that works for both of you!

spartan55 · Answer

No way, no how. Far too many women who have no problem with the bj... next

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

That's my current boyfriend. He won't go down on me, but other than that the sex is great and he's an amazing person... Gotta make compromises sometimes

TheCunningLinguist · Answer

I enjoy going down on a woman WAY to much to ever go without. It's one of my favorite sexual acts. I'd ever enter into a relationship with any woman who doesn't let me or give me an opportunity to change her mind.

babygirlneedsc_ck · Answer

Never been in a situation like that but I like receiving and giving oral a lot so I wouldn't wanna stay with someone who doesn't want to do it ever

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Yeah, I would depending on everything else about her. Of course, I’ll be disappointed that she wasn’t willing to give or receive oral and I’ll communicate with her to see why she believes what she believes.

stanstraykids · Answer

not having oral sex isn't the end of the world. if you really love someone, would you really let them go, just because they're jusy not comfortable with this sex thing?

DevikaButts95 · Answer

I actually don't really give oral to my boyfriend. I do now, but when we first started, that was never on the table. I however, need to be with someone who will give me oral. Lmao.