Guys, Will it bother you if the lady you wil have sex with gets jumpy during intercourse?

[Anonymous]

especially when the woman has not much experience in the sex departmetn therefore it is normal she may be nervous of the whole scenario so she tenses her body and the guy notices that but the guy do not like the lady to be jumpy and uneasy it is a turn off for him. Or there are other things more important to focus on than a lady being jumpy?

Or do you think guys should be more understanding in this particular case, especially when the woman is starting to learn the tricks of having sex. I mean why it can be bad for a man to teach the woman or guide her so she be more comfortable being with him, instead he assumes a woman can't be jumpy or uneasy or nervous, beause sex is just a natural thing like eating and no woman has to be jumpy.

What your the opinion of guys who for them is important a woman should not be jumpy or uneasy during sex otherwise they stop contacting the lady just for that particular issue? Fair not fair? judgmental?

A friend I know went through that with a guy she was really attracted and know for 5 yrs!!! They did had sex in the past but she as not very experienced in sex. They both had sex twice but in both times the friend got jumpy when the guy grabbed her legs for missionary position,, and that was even before the penetration started with the guy and the guy noticed that immediately. The guy change his mood towards her and did not like what was going on, beause he said, (my friend told me ) "Being jumpy I can't fuck you well you have to relax your body for God sake. My friend is new to all this sex experience and she told me "Well in 2 dates I had sex with the guy how can he pretend Im already a connoisseur jsut after 2 times of quick sex? I feel bad that I was a dissapointment to him and I like him very much. My friend even told me that even so the guy contacted her (after ghosting her for several months) to see if they could have a 3rd date together but of course sex as the main issue but in order for him to let her know...

[coolhandroo]

If she's clearly not into it makes it way less fun for me. Part of a guys job during sex is to make her feel comfortable and safe and I feel like I'm failing when she acts uneasy or scared or embarrassed it oesnt do anyone any good. When guys talk a
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A terrible lay at least that's what I usually mean

[pajamasam]

I've stopped sex a minute or so in because I could tell my partner at the time was feeling nervous. Sex is more enjoyable when both parties want it and are comfortable. If she isn't comfortable in sex that needs to be addressed first.

[Asker]

But in that cas you did not bother stop and then resume? I mean this guy in the post seems he dislike the lady being jumpy and the lady had not super experience

[pajamasam]

No I didn't continue in the situation I mentioned. I could see in her eyes she was nervous and I didn't feel comfortable continuing because I knew she was nervous so I stopped and we talked about it.

[Asker]

But that is good you thought of her as you notice she was uncomfortable and jumpy that means you care for her. In he cas of the guy in the post it sems he dislike the lady being jumpy and it was a turn off for him. Liek he did not have time to guide her or teach her or talk to her and do things better.

[pajamasam]

I've heard of guys being like that. Being mad, or whiny, or grumpy when a girl is nervous or wants help. I dont really understand why honestly, because I remember how nervous I was my first time and I would never want to make someone who is already nervous even more on edge if I can help it.

[Asker]

In the case of the guy in the post look at the exchange of the lady and the guy dialogue. I dotn know if age has something to do with it as the lady and the guy are in their mid 40´s This friend was newbie to all of this. How can she enjoy sex if she is not get used to it each time? Why the guy could not comprehend taht. Why he assume that after just 2 times of sex the lady should nto be jumpy or uneasy and that is what bothered him to the point of not talking ot her anymore? I mean my friend told him that she was new to all of this but she needed to get used to it and also maybe the offer to go to have some drinks first maybe she wanted more of a date before the sex exhange converation, enjoy the company, even maybe relaxed a little bit more, knowing that after the meal they were going to ahve sex, cause that is whta the guy wanted int he first place.

[Zach1457]

Should try more easy sex positions like doggy. especially woman at the bottom.

[Anonymous]

I’d focus on mutual oral and fingering get till she was begging to be fucked.