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Will he cheat on me if I don't have sex with him?

I've been in a two month relationship and yes believe it or not I am a 24 year old sexually inexperienced virgin. It scares me because the guy I am currently with is 30 years old. He is very experienced, and has no idea I am a virgin, or maybe he does I don't know.
Two months into the relationship and I am not ready to take things further than him touching and fingering me (He is the first guy to finger me). We dry hump often, but I still never touched him. I really don't want him to get bored of me, but at the same time I want to take things slow because I am not comfortable with taking things further yet. I am also scared because I don't know how to satisfy him. Should I talk to him about this or is it a turn off? Also is 2 months too much for me to go that slow? Also will he cheat on me because guys need to have sex every so and so? My friend said he will definitely cheat on me if I don't give him sex, because men NEED IT. And that he did already, no man can wait 2 months without sex.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You are going to talk with your friend (s) because that is what all women do. However, it is a mistake to believe what a woman says a man will do or will not do regarding sex. Anything she says is based on her erroneous opinions about her experiences; and, like in this case, will be false. In fact, nothing is definite because there is so much variability in human males. Most men often go a long time without sex, certainly much longer than two months.

    Whether or not he has is having sex with others is based partly on his ethics and mostly on the opportunity. And, the opportunity is based on how picky he is. Some guys will only fuck a girl if she is pretty. Most guys are far less picky and a few guys will fuck anything that wears a skirt. If your guy will fuck a fat 50-year-old woman, he has lots of opportunities and if that doesn't violate his ethics, then certainly he is fucking other women. On the other hand, if it violates his ethics or if he is very picky, then it is unlikely that he has fucked another woman after meeting and dating you. And, if you are important to him and if he knows that is important to you, then most likely he will not be looking elsewhere for sex.

    You are near the maximum age where virginity has value. I see nothing attractive about a 28-year-old virgin. Not only has she lost her bloom but to be a virgin at age 28 implies there must be something wrong with her. Certainly, virgin girls in their teens are more valuable and far more desirable than a non-virgin girl when all other factors are equal. However, after age 21 or 22, virginity begins to lose its value and the libido of the girl becomes suspect.

  • Whether he cheats or not depends on his character. There are some cases where people cheat as a mistake, or because they make a bad decision in a difficult situation, but this isn't that. If he's a decent guy, he will dump you if he cant' wait, not cheat.

    If he doesn't' know you're a virgin, tell him. That way he knows to interpret your slow pace as due to inexperience, which he might wait for, as opposed to disinterest, which will push him away.

    I'd also suggest that as a virgin, you don't need to have sex all that fast … the bigger pressure is you do, in fact, need to start playing with his dick sooner rather than later. Right now, he's pleasuring you, and you aren't doing anything back. No doubt he enjoys it, but still … if your genders were reversed, everyone would be saying that you were selfish, inexperienced or not. I'd encourage you to get over THAT hump soon, because it shows him you like him, like his body and also are excited to please him. Once you start touching him, the pressure to have sex is lower, not higher, because he's getting a level of satisfaction.

    You suggest you don't know what to do, weirdly, guys actually find that … sort of hot. Absolutely tell him you've never touched a dick before, he will be excited it's your first time, and have him teach you what to do.

Most Helpful Girls

  • The bottom line is you need to tell this guy where you are sexually and how uncomfortable you are with taking things further or faster. A mature man can live without sex a lot longer than 2 months. Stop listening to your idiot friend. Talk to your boyfriend. If he cares for you and wishes to deepen your relationship, he can wait and also teach you a few tricks with your hands to keep him happier... It sounds like the start of a great adventure!

    • I love this thanks :)

  • Tell him you're a virgin, that's not a bad thing, he should be able to respect that and wait. If not then find a new man. But at the same time try a little something. There's a lot of sexual activities that allow you to stay a virgin

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  • Transparency and communication are the foundation to every relationship. If you can’t come to terms and tell this man that you’re inexperienced, and how you are feeling about sex; how do you think it’ll end?

    Just tell him! We’ve all been there! It’s literally like you’re trying to hide the fact that you don’t poop.

    Interesting fact. WE ALL DO! We’ve been there.

    Just tell him how you feel, and if he’s man enough, he’ll help you work into the flow.

  • Tell him the truth. It doesn't benefit you to keep it from him.
    It's not a turn off for me, but I don't know how he would feel. When you feel comfortable and when you decide to have sex is up to you. If he isn't okay with it then he is not the guy for you.

  • Your friend is an idiot. Don't listen to him. Sex has no universal standard. Everyone has a different opinion about it. So, the first thing you should do is to talk to your boyfriend. Tell him about your virginity and how you feel. And if he really cares for you then he will respect your wish and wait for the moment, when you'll be ready for sex.

  • very possible

  • well its possible that he wouldn't cheat even if he has no sex but I don't know, all i can tell you is not to rush yourself into it just because you fear he will cheat, if so let him cheat, break with him and find yourself a better guy, you do what you have to do at your own time, not his, if he can't wait then unlucky him that he will lose you, take your time with yourself and make the right decisions because some things can't be taken back.

    • Thanks :)

    • 💯🙏

  • Most probably YES. Sex is an integral part of relationship.

  • How do you know you have a boyfriend, if you haven't had sex yet?

  • Only have sex when you are ready. Tell him you are a virgin and it may take a while until you are ready. If I was dating you we wouldn't have sex before 6 months even if you wanted it since you are a virgin. At the same time I am prepared to wait 2 years of dating for sex with any girl.

    • That made me feel better :)

    • 😁 if it helps my girlfriend was a virgin until 33.

    • That did help cause I do feel so different from others. Thanks :) <3

  • He will probably dump you.

  • Im going on 3+ years without sex. Men can live without it. But you should communicate all these issues with him. Of he assumes, things could go wrong.

    • Woah! Cool respect to you :)

    • A another year closer to death without intimacy is nothing to be proud of but thanks.

  • The more logical consequence is breaking up with you rather than cheating. It takes a certain kind of person to even consider cheating as an option under any circumstance!

  • He might cheat on you but it's not because you're not having sex with him it's because he's a cheater and that's what they do

  • more likely he will, but if he is willing to keep you he might be content with oral, if you think losing your virginity is off the menu right now

    • Are there other ways?

    • you are not willing to give oral either? ok, handjobs still better than masturbating himself

    • I can do that as a step two :) Thanks

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  • If you're not married, it's not cheating. It is fornication.

  • Wow.. lucky guy I don't think you would need to do anything being a virgin as you would probably be super tight and me bleed which might give him the impression that he broke you first and today's society being your age and still a virgin is almost unheard of... I would just say go with the flow and if you get lubed just let him put it in slowly and gently going to hurt the first couple of times but afterward you like it...

  • Just tell him what you think... if he stays its okay if he doesn't let him go thats it 😊 take it easy and don't try to please someone if he meant to be in your life he will stay without any kind of sexual relationship

  • its more shocking to hear of a woman being a virgin this long compared to a guy

  • Yes, it is possible he will cheat on you.

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