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Do you believe that smacking a stranger's butt (without their consent) is sexual assault?

One of my family members said that a random stranger smacked her in the ass. I said that's sexual assault, and people in my family laughed at the idea that it's sexual assault.

I think it's sexual assault because it's violating someone by touching someone's private parts without their consent.
Do you believe that smacking a strangers butt (without their consent) is sexual assault?
That's sexual assault
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Not sexual assault, but sexual harassment
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Neither sexual harassment nor sexual assault, but still criminal
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Not criminal, but immoral
Vote D
Neither criminal nor immoral
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No opinion
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"What is sexual assault?
The term sexual assault refers to sexual contact or behavior that occurs without explicit consent of the victim. Some forms of sexual assault include[...]
****Fondling or unwanted sexual touching****" https://www.rainn.org/articles/sexual-assault
There's no way you can tell me that a guy smacking a random female stranger's ass isn't doing it for sexual gratification
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  • A person commits an assault when

    (a) without the consent of another person, he applies force intentionally to that other person, directly or indirectly;

    (b) he attempts or threatens, by an act or a gesture, to apply force to another person, if he has, or causes that other person to believe on reasonable grounds that he has, present ability to effect his purpose; or

    (c) while openly wearing or carrying a weapon or an imitation thereof, he accosts or impedes another person or begs.

    Marginal note:Application
    (2) This section applies to all forms of assault, including sexual assault, sexual assault with a weapon, threats to a third party or causing bodily harm and aggravated sexual assault.

    Marginal note:Consent
    (3) For the purposes of this section, no consent is obtained where the complainant submits or does not resist by reason of

    (a) the application of force to the complainant or to a person other than the complainant;

    (b) threats or fear of the application of force to the complainant or to a person other than the complainant;

    (c) fraud; or

    (d) the exercise of authority.

    Marginal note:Accused’s belief as to consent
    (4) Where an accused alleges that he believed that the complainant consented to the conduct that is the subject-matter of the charge, a judge, if satisfied that there is sufficient evidence and that, if believed by the jury, the evidence would constitute a defence, shall instruct the jury, when reviewing all the evidence relating to the determination of the honesty of the accused’s belief, to consider the presence or absence of reasonable grounds for that belief.

    • It is definitely sexual assult

  • Actually, what constitutes sexual assault is a matter that is defined by the lawmaking body of each jurisdiction. In the US, crimes are defined by the legislature of each state, and by Congress for crimes which occur on federal land. In my state of Florida, the state legislature has said that

    “Sexual battery” means oral, anal, or vaginal penetration by, or union with, the sexual organ of another or the anal or vaginal penetration of another by any other object; however, sexual battery does not include an act done for a bona fide medical purpose.

    Touching the anus of another person without consent, regardless of how brief or how lightly touched, is a sexual battery but touching them anywhere else on their butt is not sexual battery. It would be a battery, which is a crime. A simple battery would be a first degree misdemeanor, punishable by up to one year in the county jail, and a subsequent offense would be a third degree felony, punishable by up to five years in state prison.

    • @OlderAndWiser You're missing the point. We're not talking about legal definitions. We're talking about societal standards of conduct. Also, this is a democracy and laws are created by the People (through their representatives.) If a certain law needs to be amended to reflect a more stringent standard and protect the rights of victims, then that law will be changed if enough people speak out and push for that to happen. Human laws are not omnipotent nor are they eternal.

    • @Jamie05rhs No, I am not missing the point but "sexual assault" is a legal term and I am an attorney. If we were talking about societal standards, then the answer is always "it depends on who you ask," and what's the point of asking people if they agree or disagree?

    • @OlderAndWiser Oh. I didn't realize you're an attorney. I guess your answer makes more sense now that you put it in that context. But I still stand behind my argument.

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  • it's sexual assault and believe me when i say i am not a feminist nor a metoo rape victim thing on the internet and i was raped - horribly and tragically but that was sooo long ago and i am not a feminist or anything like that and a boy i love jerked off in my bedspace but slapping a stranger's butt - like who the hell do you think you are? that is sexual assault and you better take it elsewhere or you are gonna PUNCHED in the face and yes i am tiny but i will knock the effin breath out of you and you'll be on the floor in no time and please don't do that to any of my girl or guy friends cuz then you are asking me to nail you to the floor. with a staple gun. or a 50cal. your choice buddy! make sense? i love your questions!

    • like Most Helpful Girls? oh MY GOD! you are killing me with your kindness and beautiful approach! thank you so much for this! thank you a million times over!

  • It is definitely sexual assault! When going through some of the comments I noticed that many people were saying it isn't sexual assault because it isn't a private part of her body. Firstly every part of your body is private and should not be touched by anyone unless you condone it so yes it is sexual assault, especially because slapping someone on the ass can be considered a sexual act. She did not consent to it and last I checked many people take it up the ass too, how can that not be a considered a private part of your body?

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  • In the US, you would almost never be charged with sexual assault (because proving it was sexual would be very difficult, and the ass isn't considered explicitly sexual), but you definitely could be charged with harassment or simple assault. In the real world, sexual assault has a fairly high threshold in practice, even if it doesn't appear to on paper.

    • Try it sometime. Oh, and don't forget to send me a postcard.

    • @JimmyQ I'm not endorsing the practice, I'm merely explaining how the justice system here works (the majority of the time). It's very rare for a DA to charge someone for sexual harassment for this kind of thing on a one-off basis - it would be very different if they could show a pattern of behavior, but that's rare in practice.

    • You obviously have no experience in these maters and men are found guilty everyday just on a woman's say so.

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  • If fondling or unwanted sexual touching counts as assault, then I guess it is... I think the issue is a butt or breast/chest, is not a SOLELY sexual part of the body. We sit on our butts every day and aren't aroused, breasts feed babies and both are rather inert on a daily basis. So it's hard to associate butts with sexual assault. But the definition makes it clear.

    • Well, lips aren't solely sexual. They are usually used for nonsexual purposes, but if a random stranger came up and started making out with you, that would be sexual assault because it is a sexual act with sexual intent. So is groping someone's butt or boobs. Nobody will ever convince me that a heterosexual man deliberately groped a random woman's butt or boobs for anything besides a sexual purpose.

    • Children are spanked by their parents without it being considered child molestation. On the flip side, a gay man who slaps a woman's butt may still be sexual assault, even if it doesn't turn them on. I think the context matters.

    • @Boppy No MAN, gay or straight should be slapping my butt in public PERIOD. I don't care if he's my boyfriend. Any OTHER man is stepping over the line. I don't care what his orientation or transgender situation is. Keep your hands to yourself. I'm not calling it molestation, it's completely inappropriate though. I'm sure in the annals of assault, it would be a slap on the... oh I made a joke... hand... You'd be cleaning up the motherfucking interstate...

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  • It's rude
    Not sexual harassment
    Not sexual assault
    Not criminal
    Borderline immoral

  • Since laws vary depending on jurisdiction, the correct term varies from place to place, too.

    In some jurisdiction, the charge of 'rape' does not exist and is replaced with grades of 'sexual assault' (from violent to less). So, this may explain your family-members' reaction (if laws are like that in your jurisdiction).

    In the U. S., 'sexual-harassment' might be the right term.

  • Not necessarily sexual assault, but usually yes since most consider that a sexual body part and the person who smacks it does it for sexual reasons, I mean if they wanted to smack the person in non sexual way there are other body parts to choose from

  • It is sexual assault.

    It's sexual assault under the law too. I know a guy who was arrested on a night out with his friends, because hevslapped a woman's ass. She approached a nearby cop, and the guy was arrested.

  • It would be classified as sexual assault but I wouldn't put it at the same level as being pinned down or groped all over, etc. I didn't find it right when it used to happen at clubs back when I was in my 20s. Came out of no where and never saw who did it.

  • Based in your link it's considered sexual assault. However I have always thought that touching was sexual harrasment. I guess language makes it seem different?

    In Spain there are (or there were) at least three differences, sexual harrasment, sexual abuse and sexual aggression. Touching someone's butt was until recently considered abuse, which is a bit least than assault but more than harrasment.

    I think lately laws changed here and now all abuse its considered aggression. I think it made more sense for it to be something a bit less than assault. Because even if it's wrong, putting at the same level touching someone ass randomly just once and with any use of force and someone who masturbate another person against their will using force for the victim not to move... Those are way different levels for me. Feels weird to call it the same.

  • Yes, that's sexual assault. And if any guy ever did that to me I would slap his face clean off and I don't care if he's Floyd Fucking Mayweather.

  • I mean it is. Not really my opinion it just is.
    Do I think the kind of people who are slapping strangers on the arse think it is? No I think most of the time that is drunk men or women who think they are being ‘cheeky’.
    But it is sexual assault whether the person goes with it or not, it is still sexual assault.
    And it can be very traumatising and scary for a person.

    • It was at a school so I don't think the perpetrator was drunk

    • Oh so what actually happened to you, my apologies I didn’t realise we were talking about a specific incident. I just thought you’re talking in general. I mean yeah it’s sexual assault. You can’t just be touching or grabbing at people. You doing okay?

    • Sorry that was supposed to say Oh so that actually happened to you.

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  • It is sexual assault difference between felony and a misdemeanor is if the assault was on a child are on an individual that was restrained or unconscious it would be a felony. Anything less than that is a misdemeanor. NFL player Odell Beckham smack the security guard on his ass at the super bowl and the guard press charges and they was going for felony sexual assault but the judge reduced down to a simple battery instead.

  • I'd say it was inappropriate rather than assault. You might slap a work colleague who's hogging the sink and tell them to move but you wouldn't do it to a stranger.

    • Does it no longer fit as sexual assault if you do it to a friend? Technically it has a different feeling, but the action is the same.

  • I would say it's sexual assault yes.

  • Touching any part of a person is an invasion of their personal space and could be considered to be a minor form of assault. To say that smacking a stranger's ass is "sexual" assault is hyperbolic. Now, grabbing hold of her ass or boobs rises to a whole different level of actual physical assault. Putting lips or tongue on someone without their permission is sexual assault because it transfers body fluid. Touching or penetrating a woman's vagina is the most egregious form of sexual assault. But let's not equate that with a slap on someone's clothed ass.
    What the hell is wrong with people to be so overly sensitive to the point of hysteria about relatively minor stuff? The unfortunate thing about #MeToo is that it equates EVERYTHING with rape. "He undressed me with his eyes. Rape! Rape!" "Those boys were looking at women at the bar and saying they were hot. How misogynistic!"
    It's like the woman in a backless dress who went public with the story about Garrison Keillor innocently touching her back with his hand at a cast party. That woman should be slapped so hard her children are born dizzy.
    People need to grow the hell up and learn how to deal with life.

    • Doesn’t matter if they were clothed or not, still doesn’t give you a right to touch any part of their body.. lewdly or not.

    • @Ninjazzed thank you!

    • @Ninjazzed, that's what I said.

  • And... in my case, might just be followed by me turning around and giving the smacker a knee to his family jewels !!!

  • Yes Smacking someone on the Ass without their Consent stranger or not is Sexual Assault. It's made headlines All Over the Country recently...

  • Well technically at least in the US, it is sexual assault. Sexual assault for some reason covers a large range from unwanted sexual touch to rape. But it can be misleading because an new article could say a woman was sexually assaulted because a guy grabbed her ass. A person seeing the news article without reading more would assume rape, but doesn't neccessarily mean that. Rape can be sexual assault, but unwanted touch without rape can be sexual assault too. I assume there's degrees for the sexual assault that differentiates, though I'm not a lawyer or in law enforcement so I dont know all the legalise to it.

    • @brennanhuff You're hitting dead on. There are 4 degrees of sexual assault with 1st degree being violent rape and 4th degree being unwanted touching. When a woman says no, you better just walk away because in the courts they have the upper hand. I know of two cases where women moved in with men and then after a little time they filed rape charges. Both times these men were incarcerated and the women got their property through civil action. You don't have to even tough a woman these days to be arrested for sexual assault. I know of a man in Baltimore who spent 30 days in jail because a woman falsely accused him of sexual assault. He was an uber driver and tracked the time he picked her up, the movement of the car as he drove her home, as well as the movement as he drove off. He also had video of the entire trip. The judge said it was inadmissible. Even once it was revealed, through uber providing their attorney's representation, that the woman had made up the entire story, no charges were brought against her. Of course the man's life was destroyed. Don't ever assume that you will get a fair trial. That has become a thing of the past because the older judges are being pushed aside by the newly appointed liberal judges and they all have their political axes to grind. by the way, in case you haven't guessed, I do work in law enforcement.

  • Yes, it is an assault. Its unwanted touch. Smacking is even worse.
    I started to teach my own child when he used to playfully/curiously lifting girls skirts, kids may think its fun. For that age, yes. But, bad habits can be learned easily, hard to break... later on as adults, I explained, he can be reported and be put in jail.

    Good job explaining it.

  • This is an interesting question as what people believe is that because historically it may have been accepted behaviour because of a large amount of factors including workplace , entertainment ( tv , movies ) etc but yeah this is considered sexual assault, like everything though it’s what’s proven in a court of law that sticks

  • I've had a teammate slap my ass in congratulations and I didn't view it as sexual, and I've had girls grope and mock me and I was not okay with it.

    I don't think both should be considered equally bad in the eyes of the law, even though neither were consensual, one had a very different intent.

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