Am I no longer an virgin?

Question

I had sex for my first time, with an close guy friend I trust. I didn’t bleed and I didn’t feel pain, I didn’t let him finish but I let him inside me for an bit. I wasn’t used to it so told him to stop than he listened straight away. I’m his buddy.

Answer 1

Finchie40 | 1.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

You aren’t a virgin anymore. But in your mind you are still a virgin cuz you didn’t let the guy finish lol I dated a girl that did this to guys , she would get with the guy to the point he was inside her and then she pushed him off , cuz she said she wasn’t really into them , when she finally had sex with me she let me finish and said that I took away her virginity , I was like what? She said I was the first guy she let finish , I laughed and said that doesn’t make you a virgin , the second a dick enters your vagina makes you not a virgin , so I laughed and said well thanks for taking away your made up virginity lol

Asker

1 y
Lol I realised that now.. haha 😆
Finchie40

1 y
I have to say though it’s crazy that you let your buddy take away your virginity , that’s not really heard of lol usually a girl gives it to her first love
Asker

1 y
Oh true I ended up giving it to my buddy but don’t regret it
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Finchie40

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It sounds like you 2 might become more then just buddies lol
Asker

1 y
Oh true like an relationship? he did ask me if I want to date I said no. He did tell me he doesn’t care if he gets with me in future but I like him in that way
Finchie40

1 y
Why don’t you want to date him?
Asker

1 y
Because not attracted to him and not
Ready to date again after being dumped an month ago
Finchie40

1 y
It’s funny to hear that a girl can have sex with a guy that she isn’t attracted to , I just answered a question on here that was pretty similar to your answer , so I am shocked to hear that to be honest , considering me personally couldn’t have sex with a girl unless I am attracted and have a connection with her. But I know there are guys that can just screw anything , so be honest are you kicking yourself in the ass for getting that far with your friend? Are you still calling yourself a virgin cuz you stopped him lol
Asker

1 y
I’m no longer an virgin and he won’t talk to me anymore he was ignoring my snapchats so I blocked him.
Asker

1 y
Think he used me for sex...
Finchie40

1 y
I don’t think he used you considering you pushed him off , I think he is upset that you pushed him off without letting him finish , honestly you probably killed his confidence , by you pushing him off probably made him feel like you thought he was disgusting so that’s why you stopped him. That’s another reason I only have sex with a girl that I am attracted to and have a connection with , cuz sex is one of those things that can really mess with people’s heads cuz we assume someone is thinking one way when they really are thinking a something different , people get mislead a lot of times , example when I was younger playing the field , pretty much hooking up with random attractive girls at a party etc. Then having sex with them , At the time I was just looking to get off , I liked the girl but I wasn’t looking for a relationship and I assumed she was thinking the same and that wasn’t the case she was thinking we were going to date and become more then just sex , Girls have done this to me as well , where I wanted more and they just assumed I just wanted to get off , so again why it’s smarter to only have sex with someone you have a connection and attracted to
Finchie40

1 y
I honestly feel this guy likes you more then just a friend and he was looking for any which way to get with you , cuz even if you said let’s have sex and nothing more in his mind he was thinking she isn’t being serious , she is just saying this , she really does like me so he assumed completely different then what you were telling him , by you pushing him off killed his confidence and he is probably embarrassed that you didn’t let him finish that’s why he isn’t talking to you
Finchie40

1 y
Why it’s hard for a guy and girl to be just friends , the guy usually wants more
Asker

1 y
Oh He went slow first than went a bit rough than I moaned, Than told him to stop He got off on top off me I send you a private message.

Answer 2

Asker

Lol I realised that now.. haha 😆

Answer 3

Finchie40

I have to say though it’s crazy that you let your buddy take away your virginity , that’s not really heard of lol usually a girl gives it to her first love

Answer 4

Asker

Oh true I ended up giving it to my buddy but don’t regret it

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Finchie40

It sounds like you 2 might become more then just buddies lol

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Asker

Oh true like an relationship? he did ask me if I want to date I said no. He did tell me he doesn’t care if he gets with me in future but I like him in that way

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Finchie40

Why don’t you want to date him?

Answer 8

Asker

Because not attracted to him and not
Ready to date again after being dumped an month ago

Answer 9

Finchie40

It’s funny to hear that a girl can have sex with a guy that she isn’t attracted to , I just answered a question on here that was pretty similar to your answer , so I am shocked to hear that to be honest , considering me personally couldn’t have sex with a girl unless I am attracted and have a connection with her. But I know there are guys that can just screw anything , so be honest are you kicking yourself in the ass for getting that far with your friend? Are you still calling yourself a virgin cuz you stopped him lol

Answer 10

Asker

I’m no longer an virgin and he won’t talk to me anymore he was ignoring my snapchats so I blocked him.

Answer 11

Asker

Think he used me for sex...

Answer 12

Finchie40

I don’t think he used you considering you pushed him off , I think he is upset that you pushed him off without letting him finish , honestly you probably killed his confidence , by you pushing him off probably made him feel like you thought he was disgusting so that’s why you stopped him. That’s another reason I only have sex with a girl that I am attracted to and have a connection with , cuz sex is one of those things that can really mess with people’s heads cuz we assume someone is thinking one way when they really are thinking a something different , people get mislead a lot of times , example when I was younger playing the field , pretty much hooking up with random attractive girls at a party etc. Then having sex with them , At the time I was just looking to get off , I liked the girl but I wasn’t looking for a relationship and I assumed she was thinking the same and that wasn’t the case she was thinking we were going to date and become more then just sex , Girls have done this to me as well , where I wanted more and they just assumed I just wanted to get off , so again why it’s smarter to only have sex with someone you have a connection and attracted to

Answer 13

Finchie40

I honestly feel this guy likes you more then just a friend and he was looking for any which way to get with you , cuz even if you said let’s have sex and nothing more in his mind he was thinking she isn’t being serious , she is just saying this , she really does like me so he assumed completely different then what you were telling him , by you pushing him off killed his confidence and he is probably embarrassed that you didn’t let him finish that’s why he isn’t talking to you

Answer 14

Finchie40

Why it’s hard for a guy and girl to be just friends , the guy usually wants more

Answer 15

Asker

Oh He went slow first than went a bit rough than I moaned, Than told him to stop He got off on top off me I send you a private message.

Answer 16

PrudentGuy | 3.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

So many had spoken before me and almost all agree that you're not a virgin. I'll join the chorus.

One more point I want to add (none mentioned) is, please DON'T stop at first time. Sex only gets better with experience. So talk to your boyfriend and start a sex-filled lifestyle if possible.

That was what I did. My (now ex) and I agreed to be monogamous and after tested, she inserted IUDs.

Thereafter we fuck without condom, which heightens the senses a lot.

(Dont forget an "exit clause" if you want to try my method. In this way there is no need to cheat. Just need to be honest with each other.)

Asker

1 y
His not my boyfriend his my buddy but yeah I’m not an virgin anymore
PrudentGuy

1 y
I see. There is no plan for LTR?
Asker

1 y
No but he asked me if I want date him I said no but he said tell me when I’m ready because I’m on break last month I got dumped and he said he doesn’t care if He gets with me in future.
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PrudentGuy

1 y
Fundamentally, do you love (or at least like) him?

If no then leave it there.

But if you do love or like him, then give it a try. It's an opportunity for you to mature yourself sexually (its OK to use him as a rebound).

This is my opinion, although I know many may disagree.
Asker

1 y
I like him as a
Friend and I wasn’t with the last ex for long only lasted for an day..

Answer 17

Asker

His not my boyfriend his my buddy but yeah I’m not an virgin anymore

Answer 18

PrudentGuy

I see. There is no plan for LTR?

Answer 19

Asker

No but he asked me if I want date him I said no but he said tell me when I’m ready because I’m on break last month I got dumped and he said he doesn’t care if He gets with me in future.

Answer 20

PrudentGuy

Fundamentally, do you love (or at least like) him?

If no then leave it there.

But if you do love or like him, then give it a try. It's an opportunity for you to mature yourself sexually (its OK to use him as a rebound).

This is my opinion, although I know many may disagree.

Answer 21

Asker

I like him as a
Friend and I wasn’t with the last ex for long only lasted for an day..

Answer 22

Anonymous

All virgins dont bleed on their first time. I guess you lost your virginity. But i dont know about that, i hope that a person with more experience gives you the right answer.

Answer 23

505error

Xper 7

Yes you lost your virginity. Not every girl bleeds or has pain during their first time.

Asker

1 y
Oh wow
505error

1 y
I had tons of pain when I lost mine, but never bled either. When his penis is inserted you lose your virginity. That’s it.
CuriousBadBoy

1 y
Hey @505error It's me Harsh
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Asker

1 y
Oh okay

Answer 24

Asker

Oh wow

Answer 25

505error

I had tons of pain when I lost mine, but never bled either. When his penis is inserted you lose your virginity. That’s it.

Answer 26

CuriousBadBoy

Hey @505error It's me Harsh

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Asker

Oh okay

Answer 28

Dargil | 30K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

The general consensus is any PIV or PIA ends virginity. In a roll as Virginity Lawyer, I would say that if the head (the pinker area)...

... passes fully through the vaginal (or anal) opening (you might get a stretch and give feeling, both going in and coming out), that virginity has ended. I choose to think that unsuccessful pokes do not qualify. How's that?

Asker

1 y
It was vaginal sex.. so no longer a virgin anymore wow 😮
Dargil

1 y
If his head got all the way in, correct. Welcome home.
Asker

1 y
Yep his banana was inserted in my cherry I was moaning my head off. Thank you.
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Dargil

1 y
Well then. There you are. :-D
Asker

1 y
My First time of vaginal sex was unexpected lol I didn’t plan it it just happened
Dargil

1 y
Sounds like it worked out OK. You don't have to worry about it any more. Just improve on it next time.
Asker

1 y
Oh yeah sure will improve on it as I get used to it. i got nothing to worry about now that’s true used protection. Have the implant rod in my arm and
He used an Condom.
Dargil

1 y
Try to work on emotional bonding. Add love to sex and it is several clicks better.
Asker

1 y
I lost my virginity to an buddy
Dargil

1 y
Fondness can grow anywhere you plant it.
Asker

1 y
Yeah that’s true aye

Answer 29

Asker

It was vaginal sex.. so no longer a virgin anymore wow 😮

Answer 30

Dargil

If his head got all the way in, correct. Welcome home.

Answer 31

Asker

Yep his banana was inserted in my cherry I was moaning my head off. Thank you.

Answer 32

Dargil

Well then. There you are. :-D

Answer 33

Asker

My First time of vaginal sex was unexpected lol I didn’t plan it it just happened

Answer 34

Dargil

Sounds like it worked out OK. You don't have to worry about it any more. Just improve on it next time.

Answer 35

Asker

Oh yeah sure will improve on it as I get used to it. i got nothing to worry about now that’s true used protection. Have the implant rod in my arm and
He used an Condom.

Answer 36

Dargil

Try to work on emotional bonding. Add love to sex and it is several clicks better.

Answer 37

Asker

I lost my virginity to an buddy

Answer 38

Dargil

Fondness can grow anywhere you plant it.

Answer 39

Asker

Yeah that’s true aye

Answer 40

Twalli | 12.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

If his penis was fully inside you it counts. As for not bleeding and no pain, that can happen. Really it just means your hymen was broken earlier. A lot of girls who ride horses a lot experience the same lack of pain because their hymen was already broken. Other people like my girlfriend just didn't experience pain or blood their first time.

Answer 41

R4vedave | 1.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Yes, a dick went inside your pussy. That means you're not longer a virgin.

Answer 42

Trolloween | 741 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

I'm confused what you thought the definitely of virginity was.

Asker

1 y
I knew once someone has had sex the person is no longer an virgin.
Trolloween

1 y
OK so what did you think sex was? If it's not a penis in a vagina.
Asker

1 y
I know what sex is
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Asker

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It’s when the penis gets inserted in the vagina knew that one
Trolloween

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Lol OK so you see my confusion. But yes you're not a virgin, I hope it was a nice memory and meant something
Asker

1 y
Yeah it was with an guy friend I’m close to that I trust I felt good after it. Should I put an update on my question.. fixing my context.

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Asker

I knew once someone has had sex the person is no longer an virgin.

Answer 44

Trolloween

OK so what did you think sex was? If it's not a penis in a vagina.

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Asker

I know what sex is

Answer 46

Asker

It’s when the penis gets inserted in the vagina knew that one

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Trolloween

Lol OK so you see my confusion. But yes you're not a virgin, I hope it was a nice memory and meant something

Answer 48

Asker

Yeah it was with an guy friend I’m close to that I trust I felt good after it. Should I put an update on my question.. fixing my context.

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Silence00

Xper 5

I never heard about man losing their virginity, how does it possible even?

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AzureGirl | 4.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

If you’ve had sex then you are no longer a virgin.

Asker

1 y
Yeah that is true

Answer 51

Asker

Yeah that is true

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mynkMumbai | 726 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

No u r not... by physical activity exercise also virginity is lost

Answer 53

Nachowedgie | 6.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

"I had sex for my first time"

You've answered your own question

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bklynbadboy1 | 4.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Sorry but your not a virgin any more

Asker

1 y
I know I got used... for sex
bklynbadboy1

1 y
In box me cause I think your looking. at this all wrong
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1 y
Do you know who I am
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bklynbadboy1

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I do now
Asker

1 y
Yeah... you figured haha

Answer 55

Asker

I know I got used... for sex

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bklynbadboy1

In box me cause I think your looking. at this all wrong

Answer 57

Asker

Do you know who I am

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bklynbadboy1

I do now

Answer 59

Asker

Yeah... you figured haha

Answer 60

Steve37

Yoda

Penis in your vagina means no longer a virgin

Asker

1 y
Yayyyyy

Answer 61

Asker

Yayyyyy

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Anonymous

You’re not a virgin anymore.

Asker

1 y
Yeah

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chriscdi | 7.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

ok good for you 😂

Asker

1 y
😅😅😅

Answer 64

Asker

😅😅😅

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Pejtu | 1.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Kids
Are you 15 or some shit?

Asker

1 y
18...
Asker

1 y
But used protection sex
Pejtu

1 y
You are still virgin in my eyes
Untill I shove my cock inside pussy balls deep
She is a virgin in my eyes
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Asker

1 y
I don’t think so.. Because I had vaginal sex
Pejtu

1 y
Thats not possible since u felt no pain
And believe me when big dick goes in and u are virgin u will feel that
Do either the guy is small or he did not go deep enaugh
Asker

1 y
I felt his small banana went inside my cherry but wasn’t painful his banana was small. I felt my cherry pop though.
CuriousBadBoy

1 y
Very fruity talk 😂
Pejtu

1 y
He was small okay we know everything we need
Asker

1 y
Yeah

Answer 66

Asker

18...

Answer 67

Asker

But used protection sex

Answer 68

Pejtu

You are still virgin in my eyes
Untill I shove my cock inside pussy balls deep
She is a virgin in my eyes

Answer 69

Asker

I don’t think so.. Because I had vaginal sex

Answer 70

Pejtu

Thats not possible since u felt no pain
And believe me when big dick goes in and u are virgin u will feel that
Do either the guy is small or he did not go deep enaugh

Answer 71

Asker

I felt his small banana went inside my cherry but wasn’t painful his banana was small. I felt my cherry pop though.

Answer 72

CuriousBadBoy

Very fruity talk 😂

Answer 73

Pejtu

He was small okay we know everything we need

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Anonymous

Inside what?

Asker

1 y
Inside my
Private part
Opinion Owner

1 y
Yes.
Asker

1 y
Vagina.

Answer 75

Asker

Inside my
Private part

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Opinion Owner

Yes.

Answer 77

Asker

Vagina.

Am I no longer an virgin?

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