Only had my first kiss three days ago (29 yr old f), how do I get over my fear of sex?

[pajamasam]

Talk with this guy about it. Also take some time to realize that it's your body and as long as its consensual, of age, and no one gets hurt, it's no ones business but yours.

Also if your worried about the slut complex, you can have an "alternate" sex life. Think, "saint in the street, but a freak in the sheets"

Just because you have sex for the first time doesn't mean your instantly going to go wild and screw every male in a 100 mile radius.

You controlled your sexual urges this long, you can absolutely control them again.

Plus it's your sex life and you should live it the way you want. Dont let anyone dictate what is and isn't okay for sex. You are in control of your sex life no one else.

If you talk with this guy about it I'm sure just the idea that he might get sex will get him interested. He'd probably be happy to talk about sex with you.

I wish you a happy sexual awakening.

[PrudentGuy]

Definition of slut:

Modern: a promiscuous woman.

Arcane: a prostitute

https://www.dictionary.com/browse/slut

If you choose the modern meaning, then yes, you are if you are promiscuous.

But personally, I stick to the original meaning: a prostitute.

This means a person who offers sex for money.

Hence if you do not take material payment, then you're not a prostitute hence not a slut.

[Duckysback]

You could just accept the fact that the people who told you that are idiots and move on with your life.

[oldguystillhasit]

If you are unattached and sleeping around good for you. If you are in a serious relation and sleeping around then you are a slut

[Twalli]

My girlfriend waited until 33 before having sex. Do it when you feel com with it. A guy who pushes for it too early is not someone you should be with.

[Bikerdude38]

You have taken the first step. Finding someone who is nice to you , listens to you and you can talk to about your fears would be a good next step and maybe he can help you take that big leap.

[Stefan__]

You always have the choice to say NO. Talk to your partner and explain your situation and go from there, take things slow

[Anonymous]

Sleeping with one guy doesn’t make you a slut unless you start sleeping with many different guys in a short period

[Silence00]

Try to cut your dick, 6ou might over your desperation.

[Jamie05rhs]

Why not just stick with the kissing?

[codycccccccccc]

Religion fucking people over again

[Victor1212]

No need to fear 😱