Fetishes and you?

Question

Okay so let’s say your partner has a fetish and they want to really try it but you don’t and you two are married so there no breaking up and just going to someone else instead who will? Does your partner in this situation have to try your fetish with you? Or what is the solution?

mat_username · Accepted Answer

If you are not into it, just don't do it. This is a very simple rule. Don't do something you don't want to do. Talk with him, discuss what you would be ok doing, because you actually are ok doing, not because you fear he'll go somewhere else.
If this is an option for you, you might want to try an open relationship, where he can get what he wants, and you what you want. Define rules you are both happy with. But this is not for every one.
In any case, doing something out of fear of him cheating is a very very bad idea

abc3643 · Accepted Answer

THIS IS EXACTLY ONE REASON WHY COUPLES SHOULD LIVE TOGETHER / BE HAVING SEX FOR 2 YEARS BEFORE GETTING MARRIED.

Fetish issues like this are part of sexual chemistry. A relationship involving young people can be perfect, but if the sexual chemistry is not good between them, then that relationship will likely die. So, it is best to determine the sexual chemistry BEFORE you get marries. That would render this question moot.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

I won’t be getting married, and I’m a proponent of open relationships. So if you find someone who wants to do that fetish, let me meet them as a basic courtesy, make sure they’re clean, then do as thou wilt

Sarah_77 · Accepted Answer

I think there has to be a middle ground somewhere and a compromise.

foxrider77 · Answer

I’d entertain it. My partner already entertains my kinks now. So I owe her one.

BrianTG78 · Answer

No they done have to entertain your fetish, and no that doesn't give an excuse to stray. I would hope though, that this fetish was discussed prior to a serious commitment for both parties sake.

Dargil · Answer

With certain restrictions, I would consent to it.

oldguystillhasit · Answer

When my wife and I entered the world of kink we agreed to try each other's kinks & fantasies. If we both liked a particular act we would keep doing it. If one of us didn't like it we would not do it again.

noxius · Answer

Id be willing to try my partners fetishes as long as it doesn't include barf really. Thats mah limit

AynonOMouse · Answer

It would depend on what it is. Like if it was something I was totally against, or if it was just something I wasn't really interested in, but wasn't really against it so it wouldn't affect our relationship negatively.