I have always had Dominant tendencies - I've always taken the lead role in nearly everything I've been involved with - and there were some signs in high school, but I wasn't really comfortable with it (more like, I wasn't sure it was "okay"), but I came to terms with it in my late 20s, and since then, I've been pretty open about it in my dating life. I'm not super active in the BDSM community these days - I'm too busy with my own business which takes up a lot of time, as well as a lot of family responsibilities - but I have been in the past and likely will be again in the future.
It fulfills some desires for me and for my partners, and makes the relationship deeper and more honest and trusting - not to mention being a whole lot of fun.
I like D/s a lot, bondage is fine, though I sort of feel like I shouldn't need tools to hold a woman in place, if I do that suggests I need to hit the gym harder. S/m I like on the milder side, but mainly for the psychological way it plays into D/s. Also with both, I'd prefer it very sexually charged.
All that is conditional though on both people being turned on by it. To be that's the most important part of sex I think, the shared arousal, even if sometimes we don't want shared pleasure, or one person is being denied or used or embarrassed for the other's pleasure. But both should find it hot.
HAHA thank you so much for that!
I'm into BDSM and have been since a very young age, I knew what it was when I was 11 and by the time I was 12 I was certain that I wasn't into vanilla sex at all.
I don't feel comfortable sharing my sexual preferences unanonymously here, but I will say that a lot of it has to do with GOOD powerplay. I like being dominated by actual alphas.
So far, in my 18-year-old life, I've met three guys who would have been an okay to good fit for me. No Mr Perfect yet, I don't believe that I will find him.
I'll probably have a normal relationship, but I'm definitely into BDSM.
Not the extremely hardcore things though.
BDSM is huuuuuge spectrum, there is so much in bdsm scene. Anything from as simple as slapping ass with hands, to something as graphic as blood-play.
In my opinion, BDSM is fun, and very hot and erotic, if done right, with right person whom you trust.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I'm a pretty intense Dom with a sadistic streak. I love S&M and throw in some bondage to feed that love of helplessness and we're off to the races, no?
Its erotic.. and can be enjoyed if you have a partner who you trust to not try and push past you boundaries for their own pleasure..
Before you even start you need to research the different types.. be very precise on what you are willing to try and what is off limits.. and the safe word or signal to let your partner know you are at a limit and need to stop
For me it's a turn on. But anyone interested in BDSM needs to realize that's its highly important to find the right person to do it with and that communication is key!
It's for bird brains who have the desire and need to be hurt and be dominated yet would cry foul if a victim of domestic violence. Go figure that one out.
If everyone involved consents and is of age then I dont see the problem.
Personally I've done some hair pulling and choking stuff but would love to find someone who wants to explore it more.
Also while I like being dominant and forceful, it makes me nervous about hurting her so I like to have a cool down afterward were we can talk about what we liked or didn't like and to reassure each other that we care for each other and dont want to hurt each other.
I think that BDSM if practiced properly is healthier than with vanilla sex. Safe, sane, and consensual. True practitioners of BDSM are better at communicating by necessity. And unless you or your partner are posers, it can be amazing.
U know that it's different from person 2 person. 4 myself I can say 4sho that I like the softer variations of it like... dominance and stuff... but being actually whipped I'd have 2 say no bro I ain't gonna do dat... u know?
BDSM definitely isn’t something that I’m into, but I have watched some exhibitions while it’s been happening and I do find it interesting to watch.
Not my thing but if she wants to then I'll try
Not my scene, unless you count being spreadeagled on a bed naked and tied up, by a fully clothed girl, and slowly but so verrry sensually being edged by her to orgasm/ejaculation (it's CFNM really, and yes it's an experience I have had a couple of times, and I can happily say it was pure sexual ecstasy each time !!)
Mixed. I would engage in some mild BDSM like soft bondage or domination and submission, but nothing extreme. Not really my kink, but if my girl wanted me to try it with her, yeah sure why not.
Not really my thing
I like being helpless if and only if I trust the person
sounds hot
used to be into it
Now I'm like meh
I love bdsm. Can be a lot of fun and there's plenty of things to explore
I think it can be quite enjoyable, long as they don’t think it’ll be like that shitty 50 shades of gray nonsense.
Repugnant. If you want to get off, just get undressed, poke, suck and fukk!! Who needs props and drama? And a limit of four feet in each bed, please. I'm no fun at all.
Have you heard teacher naughty naughty
You would know so much fun things but I'm not interested 😉😛 Dory
I'm only teasing you because you needed to fight🥴😂🤣 what you need I don't know maybe😝 maybe🙏 not
I liek it ^^
Depends on the hawt woman involved
No opinion really it's just a kink people have. It's kind of like my opinion of rocks that are flat vs rocks that are more round.
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