Having trouble losing my virginity, any tips?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have tried having sex for a while now, but it always seems to really hurt when he tries to stick it in. It seems like we’ve tried everything; lube, making sure I’m wet enough, etc. but nothing seems to be helping.

I always feel bad for him too cause he feels guilty for hurting me and now he’s hesitant to even try anymore. I almost want to ask him to just shove it in to get it over with, but I don't know if that’s a good idea or not.

It might just be that I’m really nervous, I don't know, but I figured I’d ask for tips.

[KeziL]

Have him go slow, but get it in. Once he gets it in and starts going slow, your vagina will adjust and it'll quickly become a lot more comfortable for you. For me it's rarely easy to get it in at first, but everything goes smoothly after the initial penetration. So yeah, go with the shove it in idea, but have him shove it in slowly.

[whilipino]

A slight wiggling or rubbing from the guy makes this effective

[505error]

The only thing that helped me is just biting my lips and pushing through the pain. And yes, it hurt a lot for me too. Relaxing the muscles down there before he enters also helps a lot, but I tried that after I lost my virginity.

[whilipino]

Was there ever a decent amount of foreplay? It helped with a relationship I was in. The more relaxed and turned on she was, the less difficult things were.

[505error]

Yes I was dripping wet and there was 30 minutes of foreplay. Relaxing is what helps, indeed, but it didn’t matter the first time lol

[whilipino]

Better question, did that 30 minutes help? Because foreplay in itself is pleasurable and makes everything better overall.

[505error]

As I wrote, no. It hurt like hell.

[whilipino]

Maybe oral would be better for you

[505error]

Dude it was 8 years ago when I lost my virginity. I dont need advice anymore 😂

[whilipino]

Sorry it's been that long... Hope some comes your way soon. Jokes people! Jokes

[505error]

Haha I’m in a longterm relationship and pregnant so “some” definitely came my way lol. Thanks anyway haha

[whilipino]

Let me ask you then, is it true pregnant women get hornier more easily? I've never been with one so this is a straight up field where I've never played ball and I am curious.

[505error]

Yes.

[whilipino]

Thanks for the info. Not in my foreseeable future unless a little oopsie happens soon.

[skittles2017]

You have to relax. This will relax your vaginal muscles. And use lube as well... water base lube. Lots.
The most important thing is foreplay. If it's done right he'll slide it in very very easy cuz you'll be very wet and relaxed.

[James3rt]

I'll agree with the other guy if it hurts too much start with just a finger and just do it when you feel ready

[CuriousQuestions842]

Just make sure your wet and he has lube. If you need that extra pressure to put it in do it and your pussy will adjust. It's a great feeling trust me

[CubsterShura]

Uh can you look up 'vaginismus'?

[whilipino]

More foreplay. Your man needs to get you relaxed that way and wanting more rather than anxious.

[AngelLily]

If he already stuck it in then you already lost your virginity.

[Rippersavage]

U might have vaginismus
(Google it)

[OfDeath]

Ask a doctor

[orangecherry]

I had no trouble losing my virginity. keeping it was hard tho lol

[mrArcher]

Well... Try again later.

[TienShenhan]

Start small

[tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ]

I can share my tip if you want.