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Two related questions about orgasms?

If you've ever hooked up (or sexted with someone who was not your partner if you've never hooked up for real), how often did you get a really good orgasm out of it?

When you masturbate, do you sometimes sacrifice quality (getting a really good orgasm) for the sake of speed and "getting it done?" Or do you prefer the opposite approach (going slowly and teasing yourself so it feels better when you finally finish)?
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I am not talking about cheating! I meant if you ever hooked up with someone OR you ever sexted with someone who was not your boyfriend or girlfriend. Apparently I worded it badly...
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  • My impression is that, for a man, an orgasm is an orgasm. I don't know that there are different levels although I suppose it can vary slightly. I think it's different for women who can have low level orgasms or orgasms that turn them to jelly and can be felt for hours.

    For me, it's not the intensity of the orgasm but the overall experience. If I'm with a hot-looking woman who is an insatiable orgasm beast, fucking me frantically, saying things like "Harder!", "Faster!", "Don't stop!" (you get the picture), the overall experience is out of this world. I can keep fucking her even after I cum. I not only can, but want and need to keep fucking her and can cum repeatedly without pausing to refresh. It's about the entire experience - my level of "turned on" - not the intensity of each ejaculation which, as far as I can tell, doesn't vary all that much.

    • The jelly ones are the best 😍

    • No doubt. :-) And the best thing for a man is when he can be the cause of that. It's really gratifying to leave her quivering all over.

    • She likes it too lol

  • (1) Never was unfaithful even online though when I was single "Hooked Up" online , a really good orgasm maybe about 10% of the time
    (2) All the time (excuse the pun) I sacrifice quality for time in masturbation. For a really good masturbation I am probably getting in the mood , getting ready, taking a long time, probably using baby oil or something messy probably talking 90 minutes to 2 hour for a good OMG orgasm. Who has that time especially for masturbation, lovemaking with a partner is different somewhat more worthwhile and spending as much time as possible seems reasonable, masturbating if I am lucky a good session maybe once every two weeks, otherewise human nature dictates just a release will do

    • Thanks for MHO

Most Helpful Girls

  • I'm a bit confused with the first question. Are you asking if you're in a committed relationship but haven't had Sex yet but hikked-up oe sexted with someone else how often did you have a really good Orgasm? If that's the Question, Whenever I cheated on a guy I actually never experienced an Orgasm, I was feeling to guilty to even enjoy the experience. Also, it's how I broke up my Relationships in the past making sure he caught me cheating, so I was focused on what was about to happen and how I was going to hurt someone I care about.

    When masturbating I give myself amazing Orgasms and enjoy them whether I teased myself or not!!

    • No! I didn't mean cheating. I meant when you were single and you hooked up with someone. Me too!!

    • Thank you for MHO.

  • I learned that when hooking up, your responsible for your own orgasm. For guys, it doesn't seem to matter, for me, I might have to take things into my own hands to fully get off.

    Part II, it depends. Sometimes all you have time for is a quick strike. While other times you can linger and go slow, like a lazy Sunday morning.

    I'd prefer to linger and build up, but I often dont have time, nor enough hot water.

    • I totally agree with you about the first part. When I used to hook up, I solved that by the simple expedient of making sure I got off one way or another before I finished taking care of them.

    • Yeah, it’s really annoying when the water gets like all lukewarm and you haven’t even finished yet.

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  • 1. Like one of every five hookups is that good, because you don't have any rhythm with a new partner :(

    2. Yeah I sacrifice quality for speed :)

    • I totally get it 😊😊😊

  • I'm far more likely to orgasm with a regular sex partner but the odds of success with a one night stand are good enough to take the risk

    • Agreed. And yeah. That was my thinking too.

  • I've only gotten a good orgasm from actually being in contact with a person of the other sex.

  • He hee.. I'm one of those who sacrifice quality for the sake of speed due to the conditions I'm in.

    • I did the same thing when I lived at home 😊

  • I have and I have had great orgasms.. in fact multiple cause we sometimes went for round 2 or 3. How bout you?

  • I personally can not have an orgasm when i'm not with\ thinking of my boyfriend. i just find it impossible. Also, I like it rough, so I usually go fast and I know exactly what to do to get a good orgasm.

    • That's awesome :-). Do you imagine him pounding you really hard?

    • sometimes. most times I'm leading though, so yeah :p

    • Ohhhhh You ride HIM really hard. Yeah, that's defo fun too :-). My friend told me they have a thing now that you can use suction cups to attach a dildo to your bed or the floor so it's sticking straight up and you can ride it as hard as you want and still have your hands free for other things. I haven't tried it yet, but she loves it.

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  • I’ve had quite a lot of hook ups and I always have a good orgasm from it. I love it when girls play with me and I cum every time from it.

    I haven’t done very much sexting but I have masturbated on webcam before with girls watching me, when I’m doing that I usually try to finish myself off quickly.

    • Who usually cums first when you’re on cam, you or them?

    • I cum first most of the time. Some girls don’t want to masturbate at all though but I don’t mind in the slightest because I’m more than happy with them just watching me.

  • Well i will go an experiment all new things which make her feel more pleasure. So that she can have best feeling ever.
    And if i got success in that than we can continue to hookup often like once in week or twice a month.😊

  • Q1: probably 90% of the time, I had a good orgasm.
    Q2: Usually my nighttime routine is a quick, "getting it done" type of thing. Any other time, is to really enjoy it.

    • Same for both

    • I just thought you meant an SO or boyfriend too

    • That’s fine. SOs and boyfriends count too 😊.

  • I never gotten off from a hookup sadly.

  • Question 1 better though sexting because I get stage fright with hookups. Question 2, if time is limited, I'll rush, but usually there's some edging involved

    • Sexting can be fun 😊 And yeah, same

  • With the ladies I've sexted got pretty good orgasms out if it.
    Prefer the the quality but some times you just need a nut.

    • Cool. And true lol.

    • Something about the tease from sexting really gets me.

    • Same lol

  • I prefer to take my time

  • I just go at it lol but i read about edging or something like that.

    • Going at it is fine 😊. I tried edging. Doing it yourself isn’t that hot and letting someone else do it to you can be really frustrating.

    • I love edging. But it’s hard to do with someone else.

    • @Nice222 how does edge guy they just shoot build him out lol

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  • Regarding the first question, the best orgasms I've had have been with partners with whom I was in an exclusive relationship and for whom I loved. But while not the best, I've had orgasms with hookup sex that were still pretty good.
    As for masturbation, I do sometimes quality for speed and not surprisingly those orgasms are almost "meh" in comparison to when I edge myself multiple times and purposely prolong my plateau stage arousal. But again that's not to say the quicky orgasms aren't pleasurable.

    • *have been with partners whom I loved. *I do sometimes sacrifice quality for speed. . .

    • That’s good

  • i've cheated twice and never reached orgasm either time

  • Haven't successfully done either

    • It’ll come to you girl (no pun intended lol) 💕

    • Lol ok

    • I'm sure the first time you'll have sexual relations with your boyfriend it will be magic @Dav1ss

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  • No show on the first.
    "When you masturbate, do you sometimes sacrifice quality (getting a really good orgasm) for the sake of speed and "getting it done?" ***Yes.
    I fap to work off tension or get to sleep, not to "make love to myself". Guessing it the opposite with girls.

  • The masturbatory question is definitely a knock it out sort of situation for me, if I'm taking care of myself I dont have time to find help, and just need to clear my head.
    I would say 60/75% of the time I have a much better orgasm with someone. Sometimes you just aren't feeling it or they dont attract me in person as I expected, or tired/sick/etc. Something about the collaboration on the same goal makes it better tho. I have been lucky to have thoughtful partners.

  • I have a great example but shy to share publicly. It didn't happen often but they were the most amazing.

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