Does it sound like I am bad at sex?

[Anonymous]

I took my ex's virginity a couple years ago. We only fucked once that time, he came in a minute and told me that it was really good. He left me about a week after that because. he said he wasn't ready for a relationship. (I was a bit bitchy with him.) But this year, he's had a couple girlfriends and more experience, and I get a text from him. He says that he wants to talk to me again and apologized for the way he had been. He said that he misses fucking me. We start talking again and we make plans to hang out. We agreed to. be friends with benefits. Long story short, the first time we hungout again, I gave him head. He came in a minute and said it was the best head he had ever gotten. The second time we hung out, we had sex. He said that i was really tight and he came in less than 5 minutes. We did a second round, but I couldnt make him cum. It kind of made me feel like I did something wrong. He kept talking to me after that, but he got a lot slower at replying to my messages.. He kept saying that he missed my "good pussy" and asked me if I wanted to hang out again, but when I would agree to hang out, he wouldn't commit to the plans or he would leave me on read.. we hung out again earlier this week and he said that he had been thinking about me and that he had been busy. He was hard as a rock when I was laying down with him. We had sex again. This time, I accidentally made him cum with my mouth before sex. And it took him awhile to get hard again after that, but when he got hard again, he fucked me, but he couldnt cum again and he kept getting soft and he eventually gave up.. we haven't hung out since then. He still texts me, but he doesn't say much.. does it sound like I have bad pussy? I can't ever get him off during the second round.. he says I'm really tight and that I give the best head. But if that's true, why does he only want to hang out with me once a week? If I were good at sex, he'd want me more frequently than that and he would talk to me more, right?

[MrOracle]

There's nothing wrong with you - he's reluctant because HIS performance hasn't been great (he can't last very long, and can't go a second time), and he's embarrassed about it (is what I'm almost positive is going on). As much as he likes having sex with you, he's insecure because he's afraid that he's not living up to your desires and expectations, and he's somewhat embarrassed and ashamed.

The honest truth is that, aside from BJs and cowgirl/reverse cowgirl positions, sex is mostly about the MAN's performance. It's up to HIM to make it good for both of you, because he's responsible for most of what's going on. You're contributing in every way you can, which is great, but your contribution is limited (except as previously mentioned). And your BJ skills must be good because you're finishing him off without any difficulty, so, again, this is a HIM problem, not a YOU problem.

If you are interested in fixing this, help him build up HIS confidence. If he has performance problems (he can't get it up, or can't keep it up and he has to stop), just kiss him and say "take a break - I'm not going anywhere and you can fuck me later if you want to." Take the pressure off him, and let him go when he's ready (when his body has recovered and he can perform again). Also, tell him how good it was for you - the things he did that you enjoyed. Let him know that you're physically attracted to him and enjoy having sex with him. Build his confidence, and he'll relax and his performance will improve because he won't be so stressed out about it.

[Asker]

He can get hard for a second round and we can fuck, but he can't cum during the second round. When we do the first round of sex though, he comes in less than 5 minutes.

[Asker]

He said he was shocked at how tight I was. He says i have really good pussy and that i give the best head he's ever had.. but I just felt like he was lying about that since he doesn't want to see me very often..

[MrOracle]

I stand by everything I said - this is HIS issue, and he knows it, and he is embarrassed about it and stressed about it. He gets horny enough to get past it at times, but it comes back and keeps him away for longer than is normal. Again, nothing to do with you.

[Asker]

So you think he meant it when he said my pussy is really good and tight? And that I give amazing head?

[MrOracle]

Sure. There's no reason for him to lie - it's not like he feels he'd have to lie to get you to sleep with him; you're already sleeping with him. So, yes, I believe him.

[Asker]

He could have been lying to make me feel better though.. he said he is usually able to cum during the second round of sex, and I can only make him cum during the first round quickly.. but I noticed that maybe I wasn't as wet as usual.. do you think he could tell if I wasn't that wet and it could have made my pussy feel bad, thus not getting him off during the second round? He has stopped talking to me, so I really do feel like it has something to do with the sex.. he only slept with me twice.. do you think he was just lying about my pussy being good just to make me feel good about myself after sex? Guys dont want to stop fucking good pussy once they've found it, right? We never got in any arguments, I never got too clingy, etc. He just stopped talking to me shortly after the second time he fucked me.. I can't help but think it has something to do with my pussy and that he didn't like it..

[MrOracle]

Girl, your pussy is fine. He's the problem, not you.

[Asker]

He stopped talking to me.. there was literally no other reason for him to stop talking to me other than the sex though.. do you think he could have been lying about how good it was just to make me feel better? I am. really hurt by this..

[Asker]

Can he tell if I wasn't too wet? Do you think if I wasn't too wet, it could have felt bad to him?

[Asker]

Is it possible that he was only trying to make me feel better by telling me that my pussy was good? Because usually if a guy fucks a good pussy, he will want to keep the girl around and fuck her more than just twice, right?

[MrOracle]

As hard as it may be for you to believe, sex isn't everything. Yes, it's important to most guys, and yes, ordinarily, we'd like plenty of it, but sometimes other things happen. For all you know, he's not talking to you because his grandmother or his dog died, or because he's sick, or he lost/broke his phone. Or, maybe he got afraid of the relationship getting too serious (guys can get afraid of things too). You are blaming this on sex based on an assumption that in my opinion has a high likelihood of being wrong. It's also possible that he's just a jerk who used you for sex. Some guys ARE assholes - sad to say. Take a few breaths, calm down, and go about trying to contact him. If you don't hear from him for 2 weeks, then assume it's over and move on.

[chriscdi]

well first off, the more rounds you go the harder it will get, i jerk off once and if i try going again it takes longer to cum so im guessing thats whats happening and second, if y'all agreed on friends with benefits then you are most likely competing with other women which means that he is pounding somewhere else which is why he doesn't reach out to you as much as he used too, so get yourself other friends with benefits ig and be on the same page, but im not sure tho

[Asker]

Does that mean that I'm not as good as the other women he's having sex with?

[chriscdi]

no it just means he has other options that can be more physically attractive or just new, some men just can't stick with one woman and they just wanna fuck other pussies and the fact that he wanted to be friends with benefits makes it seem like he is one of those guys

[chriscdi]

i think what happened is that since you took his virginity, as a virgin i can say that a guy with a virginity can be a burden since a majority of women find male virgins unattractive due to lack of experience so he probably found an opportunity to loose his virginity with you, he took the opportunity and gained some experience with you and then he can say he had sex many times and that he isn't a virgin, it would get him more women to have sex with which is what seems thats happening, he has more options now so he isn't responding as often as he was before, now remember if you took his virginity weither your sex is good or not, to him it will be the best because you were his first now the more he has sex with other women that might have better experience than you, then he will eventually completely forget about you and will not want to have sex with you anymore because he found girls that are basically better and he will basically replace you, its why im not a fan of friends with benefits 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Asker]

No. I took his virginity years ago, and now this year, he has started talking to me again. And we fucked again this year.. I gave him head and he said it was the best he had gotten. And we fucked again and he came in less than 5 minutes. We tried to do a second round, but he couldnt cum again during the second round. He is still talking to me.. but am I bad at sex if I can't make him. cum during the second round of sex?

[chriscdi]

no it will just take longer, I don't know how you are at sex but if he says you are good then ig you are good, just expect to go longer when you go for more than one round.

[Asker]

How. much longer should the second round take? Because he came the first time in less than 5 minutes and them he wanted the second round immediately after. But we fucked during the second round for at least 20 minutes and he couldnt cum..

[chriscdi]

its can take quiet some time jerking off, imagine with slower strokes like in sex, y'all would have to go fast nonstop for him to cum again, or maybe he hasn't produced cum yet cause its so sudden, wait at least like 15 mins after the first time and see if you spot any change

[Dongtai]

A guy wanting to have sex with you is not a good indicator of if he wants YOU or not. He might just want your body. But if he finds a girl who has a body and mind he wants then he’ll leave the other girl hanging and keep her as an emergency fuck.

A good way to tell if you’re good is to date other guys. It doesn’t sound like you have much dating experience

[Asker]

Did I say a thing about wanting to date? I'm not exactly trying to date him. But I would like to fuck more than once a week and I was just wondering if it means that I suck at sex if he doesn't want me more than that..

[Dongtai]

Well I hate to break it to you, but some guys aren’t all about sex. Some guys want to have sex with girls they care about. Sure they’ll take pussy if it’s thrown at them. But they’ll pass it up for something deeper (no pun intended) if it presents itself. Just find a friends with benefits. He might not be all that into you but other guys might.

[reptocarl]

Why are you fucking this loser at all? It isn’t you. He’s just a piss poor lover

[GOOSEBOY78]

its not your end. its his. he needs to practice foreplay.

[blutwolfe]

No you're just a booty call

[Asker]

I would like to fuck more than once a week and I was just wondering if it means that I suck at sex if he doesn't want me more than that..

[blutwolfe]

You're just an object to him, he obviously has other girls, but he only comes to you when they give him the cold shoulder

[Asker]

So that means my pussy is bad compared to theirs then

[blutwolfe]

Has nothing to do with your pussy... They could just be more attractive, or personality, who knows, maybe he likes to chase

[Asker]

I made him cum in less than 5 minutes during the first round of sex. And we did a second round after, but I couldnt make him cum again. Some other answers say that it means im. not too good and that he's lying when he says I have good pussy..

[MannySimms]

"I let him eat me out..."
There's your problem; the Shubert-Gonzales study in 1959 showed that men cannot ever orgasm after performing oral on a woman. Check it out!

[Asker]

I don't know why everyone is thinking that I can't make him cum.. thats not what i said. lol i took his virginity 2 years ago. This year, he starts talking to me again saying that he missed me and my pussy. The first time we started hanging out again this year, I gave him a blowjob. He says that I give the best head. The second time we hung out, we had sex. He came in less than 5 minutes when we had sex and he wanted round 2 immediately after. I couldnt make him cum during the second round. And the next time we hung out, he came in my mouth before sex on accident and he couldnt cum during sex after he came in my mouth.. I was just wondering if it sounded like he thought my pussy was bad since I can't make him cum during the SECOND round. He cums quickly during the first round.

[MannySimms]

Research male recovery time. If you read the study I posted everything will become clear and you can modify your actions.

[winterfox10]

It doesn't sound like either of you are very good at sex. Or rather, neither of you have much experience.

Just because a guy wants to fuck you, doesn't mean he want's to fuck YOU, if you get my meaning. If you are in an friends with benefits, then it's probable that he has other girls that are taking his attention first.

[32DD_yeye]

I agree with you

[Asker]

Does that mean that I'm not good compared to other girls?

[32DD_yeye]

Sorta...

[Asker]

@32DD_yeye so he's just lying when he says I have a really good pussy and give the best head?

[32DD_yeye]

Maybe not about the head part since you make him cum every time giving him head. But the great pussy thing yeah he probably lyin.

[winterfox10]

You were his first partner, so you probably had some insane amount of hype in his head. I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just focus on being as good as possible in bed.

[Asker]

I mean, I made him cum with my pussy in less than five minutes during the first round. We did the second round immediately after and he couldnt cum again..

[32DD_yeye]

I don't know...

[winterfox10]

Like I said, don't worry about it too much

[Asker]

What do you mean that since I was his first that I had probably had an insane amount of hype in his. head?

[Asker]

I don't know why everyone is thinking that I can't make him cum.. thats not what i said. lol i took his virginity 2 years ago. This year, he starts talking to me again saying that he missed me and my pussy. The first time we started hanging out again this year, I gave him a blowjob. He says that I give the best head. The second time we hung out, we had sex. He came in less than 5 minutes when we had sex and he wanted round 2 immediately after. I couldnt make him cum during the second round. And the next time we hung out, he came in my mouth before sex on accident and he couldnt cum during sex after he came in my mouth.. I was just wondering if it sounded like he thought my pussy was bad since I can't make him cum during the SECOND round. He cums quickly during the first round.

[winterfox10]

There's nothing you can do. The first time you do anything it's special. It's only after you experience something a few times that it becomes more normal. Your first car? Amazing, right? What about your second car?

[winterfox10]

*Buying your first car*

[Asker]

Okay, so he doesn't actually think I have good pussy?

[Asker]

Please help me...

[winterfox10]

He doesn't think you have a great pussy, no. He thinks it feels good though. I don't know, like I said; don't focus so much on it.

[Asker]

Why doesn't he think its great? And what's the difference between him thinking it feels good, but him not thinking its great? He gets off in less than 5 minutes with me during the first round.. what do you mean? Please explain. I am hurting.

[Asker]

he stopped talking to me, so I can't talk to him about it.. what do you mean he doesn't think it's great, but that it feels good? What's the difference?

[Meatunnel69]

I want the 30 seconds it took me to read this shit back

[Twalli]

Not necessarily, his libido might be low enough that he only wants sex once a week.

[OddBeMe]

Did you get off?

[lovemaker5]

I'm very confused right now. Do women really like sex like men do?

[Laozi]

Why is it so confusing?