Of course! I think it's swell thay you're asking this question.
I think if someone equates not sleeping with them before marriage to you not loving him, he has the wrong concept of love. To love someone is to want the best for that person vs using them for their body to get pleasure by sleeping with that person.
Love and marriage encompass so much more than sexual pleasure. Its the small things, the unforgettable moments that y'all wil spend together, the struggles and hopefully raising kids together. And so, so much more.
It will require maturity, self-control and a lot of forgiving from both parties to get through life together.
Personally, I'm one for sex after marriage (if you can't tell already). In marriage, sex has the capacity to be a celebration. A total, unreserved, giving of two people to each other out of the love they have for each other.
Outside marriage, often there desires are there, but there is great fear involved. For example: I sleep with him so that he won't leave me.
At the end of the day, I'd encourage you to find a man who will see you for who you are as a person and respect and protect your dignity.
Yes , i would wait to after marriage to have sex with a girl.
Those guys who don't want wait are disrespectful to girls
wishes or just guys who are looking for any girl to have sex
with yes it happens?
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Men are definitely capable of it, at least those that genuinely want a future with you. It's not that they can't wait. Although in this day and age it's really difficult to be able to trust a guy when there's nudes/porn/random people everywhere just looking to have sex with no strings attached. But I mean if a guys looking to get tied down when he can get sex practically anywhere else, he deserves the benefit of doubt. My boyfriend waited for over a year for me and I made the choice that I loved him and that it was okay to have sex with him if I believed it was worth it.
I had premarital sex and we had an agreement that we will marry anyway. it would not be nice to her, to have sex with her and then turn her down. Still I won't wait 2 years until next sex. Even one year (flight ticket/allowance by boss) is very long.
As long as you use a condom you shouldn’t be worried. Make sure to protect yourself so that you are staying safe, using condoms, etc. There’s truly nothing worse than a pregnancy scare. Does your man use a penis health crème? I would recommend Man1 Man Oil.
No need for that oil. Just plain water and shampoo do it for me. And condoms block physical feelings/stimulation a lot. I tried it once with my then-girlfriend-now-ex wife and she agreed with it, that condoms block a lot.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Yes I'd agree to that but on the condition she agreed that I'm able to have sex with somebody else.
It comes down to what you want and what your prepared to put up with, if you want a person who isn't having sex until marriage then that's fine, not so if you yourself aren't willing to get married or will not do it a second time.
I don’t think a woman would want her husband to give someone else his virginity
Then that's the one you need to find isn't it, the point is if that man wants sex marriage or not, it would be wholly unfair to expect it of him unless he were totally prepared for that and wanted that himself. However most men know and younger men know instinctively that marriage is something that suits women more than men, the safety net is theirs not men and certainly not equally spread so they are shunning marriage in greater numbers than before. So then it boils down to this are you prepared to have a life where your dream might never come true.
Where are men who wants to wait for marriage can be found?
I won't be arbitary , I would say I would consider it and give my own points of view about it. My main thing would be that I thing couples should have a full relationship, experience everything before settling down so then no surprises.
At this point in my life? Not a chance.
Her body, her choice. But I'm not promising I won't fool around, or wait around. But then again, such a woman would probably be really religious, and that would never work out for us any way. I doubt she would want to marry a hard core atheist, and if we ever had kids I wouldn't want them indoctrinated.
I am fine with waiting for her to see that I am not there just for sex but I would never go as far as marriage before sex.
I did.
we talking regularly sex or everything sexual?
I would be fine without penetration. but might need a hand job or something now and then. to which I would be happy to return the favor.
C. Depends.
If we could walk the bases to comfortable, regular mutual oral/69, yes.
Update. They are thinking only of themselves and want everything up front. I absolutely need sexual intimacy, which oral easily fulfills, but I am willing to honor reserving the last step to marriage. I see intercourse as a big step beyond "everythingealse".
No, premarital sex is always what I did before I married her. To long to wait, maybe she wants to marry in 2 years? I cannot wait THAT long for sex.
So we both had that agreement that if we make love, there is no turning back because that would be not nice on both of us (we are both not into sex-only things). So it was okay with both of us and we had a shared consent about sex of any form we both agreed with.
I did, and she ended up cheating on me during the 2 years we were engaged. Was it a lie on her part? No. Is it for religion? Doesn't have to be. All it did was show that if you love someone, you would do anything. Just unfortunate she was not capable of that for me. I learned self-control, sacrifice, and an aspect of love I didn't know. Whether or not my next relationship entails this, I look back on the whole situation as formative. Sex is great and I love it just as much as any other person, but holding out for a relatively short time compared to the rest of my life with doesn't matter. Not having sex attached did help me with the whole break up because I didn't have sex as something to depend on her for, in other words, I was free before I was free.
Of course I can agree to that.
I'll just find me a different girl, and wish her good luck with her future husband.
even as a woman and a virgin with cultural boundaries regarding the matter i think that's nonsense.
No! Why risk incompatibility? In ancient times virgins were sacrificial fodder. Nowadays, they're just silly.
Great respect for such women,, & also that will make me love her even more
Ans to update: I don't think they r disrespectful, but they r little immature,, it will take time for them to be wise & understand the partner
Maybe 🤷 if I am going to marry that is lol
waiting until marriage is the right thing to do in most cultures ( and thats what i believe also ) , but because everyone dont wait you will think it doesn't matter.
Well, otherwise it'd be rape as they aren't consenting. Sex before hand would be fun but I'd care more about our chemistry. However it would set off a red flag of them being perhaps too traditional though, which is a big turn off for me.
Don't like the idea of "marriage", society changed so it's literally pointless. You can wait until she's confident that she wants it, but till marriage hell no, that means she is too spiritual on her belief which I hate too.
My family raised me to let everybody have their own opinions. I have mine which are to respect her opinions and not try to get handsy without permission of any kind
Nope because Marriage is completely out of the question and i like sex
If every woman was like that you’d probably be a virgin
Not a chance
Well unless you rape a woman or fuck a man
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