for others, if they are only into it if their partner is into it.. Good for them. No harm, no fowl. But I am in no way shape or form into that. I once saw a video about a video about a dominatrix that guys hired to do things like kidnap them and tie them up. The video crew tagged along (with the customer's permeation) for a staged "kidnapping," then interviewed the customer. I found it kind of hot, but don't think I would find doing it hot. by the way, she runs a legal business that exists right on the edge of legality. She has to follow strict protocols and use detailed legal contracts to stay out of legal trouble. Like absolutely no sexual contact, and he explicitly requests a say fake kidnapping in a signed contract. She provides the fantasy. It's up to the customer to make use of that fantasy. The guy was a powerful Wall street guy and loved the idea of being dominated for a change.
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To clarify, I would only ever do this sort of thing consensually, and in order for someone to consent to something, they'd have to "enjoy" it in some capacity--by definition. Even if they don't enjoy it, they must "enjoy" NOT enjoying it. Otherwise, they wouldn't consent to it.
So unless you're trying to weed out rapists, I think what you're really asking is: "Upon being humiliated, do you prefer your partner to make it obvious that they're into it, or act as though they aren't?".
And the answer to that question is... it depends on my mood. But yes, both attitudes can be sexually arousing to me, so I voted D.
It's theoretically possible to witness someone being humiliated & to feel involuntarily aroused, even as you feel sorry for them. OR you won't get aroused because you're only aroused if the person enjoys being humiliated. That's what my question was referring to.
Ah. I see. Well in that case, I would still never partake in humiliating someone who didn't consent, but I admit that if I happen to witness non-consensual humiliation or stumble upon porn that depicts it, I can't help feeling aroused by it. So yes, seeing a girl humiliated arouses me regardless of enjoyment, so I stand by option D.
I guess it depends. I've been pantsed in front of strangers and it kinda turned me on at the same time i was super embarrassed and wanted to hide. Its a mix of emotions that feels like how spicy food tastes, pleasantly uncomfortable.
In front of people i know? Family? Way to far i wouldn't want that ever.
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I'm alpha by nature. For me to accept any of that nonsense, there would have to just be complete carnal attraction; they're so attractive (inside AND out) that I can't resist anything they ask of me. Which is extremely rare (but has happened).
But there won't be any whips or chains or choking or any of that - like DC Curry said, "I wasn't a slave, but I heard about it".
For me it's not the humiliation per se. It's watching something different than what your brain is wired to expect, which can often get boring.
Sex is a two way thing not a monarchy. It should be enjoyed by both or else it is just a rape and not sex. this issue is prevailing in today's generation and needs to be looked into. Curse upon the porn industry!!!
For me it's not about the other person enjoying it so much as them actually deserving what's happening to them. If they don't deserve the humiliation/degradation, or if the punishment far outweighs the crime, I end up sympathizing with them to much. Takes me right out of it.
A bit of a deep dive into kink here - I would suspect there is a number who get off on another person's humiliation if the person is not into it - I assume we are staying the right side of legal and healthy here or else we are looking at abuse - My only concern is that the person facilitating the humiliation to themselves, why are they doing it if it is not a turn on to them deeper questions need to be asked.
I am not sure of the right wording but then we move into the lower area of slave/submissives, sluts/wimps where mutual consent and enjoyment are happening.
As I said it wouldn't be my thing to humiliate or be humiliated though I like to dominate, I am a live and let live person so would have no issue with the lower/softer edges but maybe some slight concerns about the more hardcore and people's mindsets but that would be across the board say for example being with a submissive would be a turn on for me but if she said "Beat the crap out of me" , I would have to go "Whoa".
i am never sexually aroused by anything unless everyone involved is enjoying the interaction.. i can't rally get into humilation
Well I do get aroused by humiliating others. And if doesn't matter either if they enjoy it or not but I wouldn't do it if they didn't enjoy it simply out of chivalry
My fiancèe doesn't care when that side of her comes out.
Yes. I won't do it if they don't enjoy it.
Have you done any SPH?
Nope
If she is enjoying , i enjoy too if not i dont enjoy even a bit 😂
B is closest to accurate.
i probably find it arousing regardless but my empathy kicks in harder than arousal.
accidently chose option 1 cos only read the first half of it
I'm not aroused by the humiliation of other, nor would I be aroused by being humiliated
I only humiliate women who deserve it. And as everyone here knows, ALL women on G@G deserve it. They have all been naughty girls...
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Yes, yes it does.
What makes the humiliation so hot is that she's melting into something that she really shouldn't be melting into.
Otherwise, I'm not aroused. Just excited.
If the subject of the humiliation "enjoys it", can it really be all that humiliating for them? I don't think so, and that really changes my response.
By "enjoys" I mean they're experiencing sexual arousal and sexual pleasure from it. They're subs and/or masochists. Yes it can still be humiliating for them. Some masochists get pleasure from physical pain; does that mean it's not painful? No
I took a test.
She would have to also enjoy it. I wouldn't role-play any kind of situation that she wasn't into herself. Sex has to be fun for both people. If it's not fun for her, then it's not going to be fun for me, either. The whole point is for the couple to enjoy their time together and have a bonding experience.
I get sexually aroused if I'm the person being humiliated.
Them not enjoying it on some level is a turn off unless it's me being humiliated
It does to an extent, but it doesn't affect my personal arousal.
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