If a guy is dating somebody and refuses to meet her parents or talk with them on the phone is he using her for sex? About a lady in my circle?

If he didn't have something to hide - he would not be afraid to talk to her parents over the phone or meet them

It happened to a girl I used to be friends with - or used to know and not be friends with
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  • I have been dying to meet her mom for several months.

  • has the guy talked to her parnets before

    • He refuses to talk with them - like when his girl is on the phone with them and she asks them to talk to him for 3 seconds to verify she is hanging out with him - he will hang up as soon as the phone is passed to him. I never understood their relationship but it appears he had something to hide.

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    If a guy is dating somebody and refuses to meet her parents or talk with them on the phone is he using her for sex? About a lady in my circle?If a guy is dating somebody and refuses to meet her parents or talk with them on the phone is he using her for sex? About a lady in my circle?
  • Yep. Require that first before sex.

  • Might just be scared that they will disapprove

  • It could be but it cannot be assumed to be that. Commitment takes on many forms and every couple handles them differently. For guys commitment is like how some girls feel about sex. Given sex is much faster but asking a guy to commit is to him like asking for sex on the first night. It makes him feel insecure, nervous and trapped. It's about the right timing for him as much as it is for girls waiting for the right time to have sex. Commitment feels that way for guys. Im not saying for all but I'd argue most

  • Unless he’s young and isn’t seeking commitment or it’s very early days in the dating stage then yes. However, exceptions to be made if the guy has some sort of anxiety disorder.

  • Its not exactly dating is just causal sex he is smart for not meeting the family what's the point?

  • i've never had a problem doing this, but it's been awhile

  • The real question is do you want to have sex, would you like your Asian pussy licked and sucked on?

    • that's disgusting

    • That is reality between a loving couple.

  • So he isn't your boyfriend and you're just dating? Why would he? That doesn't sound serious yet to me. Unless I'm in an actual relationship with the girl I wouldn't want to meet the parents. I'm not in highschool anymore.

  • In most cases many guys do it. We have seen that mostly guys just want one night stand. Not all boys are bad and i can not say for sure because i am just judging on the evidences so you will be able to see things more closely than i can. If the guy repeats same thing again and again then be sure that he is a cheater.

  • Well, I don't think that that's the only possibility, he could also be afraid to talk to them because it may represent another level of commitment that maybe he doesn't feel ready for.
    That said, you're not crazy, it could be just sex, but at least consider that it could be something other than a guy being dumb and horny

  • Maybe. Or he doesn't think their relationship has reached the point where he meets her parents or talks to them on the phone.

  • He's not in it for the long term
    Just wants something to satisfy his needs. If he gets involved with the family in anyway he will feel trapped.

  • Not neccessarily. This is the situation of someone i know. He loves her ( and their child) but he'a never met her parents. I told him that's very disrespectful to her dad. Generally speaking the father " looks out for her" till she weds thwn that becomes rhe husbands job. It's just a sign of respect to ask thw father to entrust him with that.

  • How old are these people and for how long have they been dating?

  • Depends on how long they've been together since some people view meeting the parents as a very serious thing.

  • Definitely yes.

  • Over phone sounds funny. wouldn't do that myself before I have meet them in person. and for what you mention I would even want to talk with them on enything more then in real life like a visit with my girlfriend.

    Isn't them I'm gonna be together with. it's her.

    • "Wouldn't" not "would"

  • Possibly

  • No it means he is not ready to settle down yet. You are pushing him too fast.

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