Is it cheating? I want honest answers please?

Question

A couple of days ago a girl texted me "hi" on an app. Then we talked hardly a little and she started to send me her pics. ( Not nude) . And she asked me what i wanted to do her. Tbh i wasn't interested in her body or whatsoever. (I even have a girlfriend. ) I was skeptical of her i thought she could be a guy. So i fakely wrote i want to kiss you etc etc. She asked me to shake my cock and cum. Which i falsely said i did cum talking to you. During the course tbh i too went a bit horny but then i tried to break the chain and talked normally on common topics. I found the girl to be intelligent and wanted to talk to her on those topics and not sexually. It was clear , she wanted me to praise her so it end it i tried to seduce her as fast as i could do ( i was not interested in it tbh ). It was just i wanted a normal convo later. She had her orgasm later. I thought it is done and now ee can normally talked. And during this she many a times asked me to shake my dick and ejaculate. I tried once or twice but did not feel to do it. And the main problem is i have a girlfriend and i am not feeling good now i have some serious anxiety going on. Can someone tell me was it cheating?

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Update - the girl was a total stranger

Answer 1

DerpyDuckie

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I would say it's cheating. You texted sexually with another girl (if it really was a girl) .

If you're not interest, then don't do it. Just block the person next time. There are many people on the internet up for just a casual talk. You don't have to go through this just for a normal convo.

Answer 2

Societalmess | 66 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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If you think you shouldn’t do it; don’t do it.

I personally think that’s cheating, and you shouldn’t do that. Not to mention you’re harming your own mental health.

Asker

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But i wasn't interested in her tbh
Societalmess

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It doesn’t matter if you weren’t interested. That’s like saying, “I had sex with this girl behind my girlfriends back but I wasn’t interested in her so it’s fine.”

No it’s not, your interest doesn’t justify it. If you engage or discuss sexual activity in that manner it’s cheating. And I don’t mean as in talking to a friend about jacking off or habits, I mean sexting. Sexting is cheating. I’m not gonna sugar coat it dude.
Asker

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Alright. I am a dick
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Societalmess

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Now I would suggest bringing this up to your girlfriend, but I doubt you have the balls to do that. Admitting to your girlfriend what you did and discussing how much you regret it should show that you’re sincere about how you feel.

And don’t go to her making excuses either it’ll make you look bad, accept what you’ve done wrong and say you want to fix it and never do it again.

Or you could pretend it never happened and avoid doing it again, but the first one is more honest and you admitting what you’ve done will show you know it’s wrong.
Asker

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I would never do that again. never again! Fuck i am so tensed. And i too believe in "karma" and it would fuck me up if she did the same
Societalmess

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Then I think you should follow my advice. If you do I hope she doesn’t dump you, but I can’t blame her if she does. But basing those off of myself, if my boyfriend had the strength to come to me and admit something like that I would give him another chance, because it shows he knows he fucked up.
Asker

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I would probably not do that. I cannot afford to lose her. But i wasn't interested in any sexual talks. Fuck 😫😫😫

Answer 3

Asker

But i wasn't interested in her tbh

Answer 4

Societalmess

It doesn’t matter if you weren’t interested. That’s like saying, “I had sex with this girl behind my girlfriends back but I wasn’t interested in her so it’s fine.”

No it’s not, your interest doesn’t justify it. If you engage or discuss sexual activity in that manner it’s cheating. And I don’t mean as in talking to a friend about jacking off or habits, I mean sexting. Sexting is cheating. I’m not gonna sugar coat it dude.

Answer 5

Asker

Alright. I am a dick
😫

Answer 6

Societalmess

Now I would suggest bringing this up to your girlfriend, but I doubt you have the balls to do that. Admitting to your girlfriend what you did and discussing how much you regret it should show that you’re sincere about how you feel.

And don’t go to her making excuses either it’ll make you look bad, accept what you’ve done wrong and say you want to fix it and never do it again.

Or you could pretend it never happened and avoid doing it again, but the first one is more honest and you admitting what you’ve done will show you know it’s wrong.

Answer 7

Asker

I would never do that again. never again! Fuck i am so tensed. And i too believe in "karma" and it would fuck me up if she did the same

Answer 8

Societalmess

Then I think you should follow my advice. If you do I hope she doesn’t dump you, but I can’t blame her if she does. But basing those off of myself, if my boyfriend had the strength to come to me and admit something like that I would give him another chance, because it shows he knows he fucked up.

Answer 9

Asker

I would probably not do that. I cannot afford to lose her. But i wasn't interested in any sexual talks. Fuck 😫😫😫

Answer 10

Billy0670 | 77 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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Those type of texts are from scammers trying to get money or something from you. Take that pic she sent you and do a reverse photo search on it... guarantee you that's a pic of someone else (usually a fully clothed porn star) and they try to pass it off as them... seen it 100 times

Answer 11

dreamstar72 | 917 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

You actually was looking for a quickly you found it and now you regretted it, the results is you cheated.

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I had no sexual stimulation even when i was chatting with her

Answer 12

Asker

I had no sexual stimulation even when i was chatting with her

Answer 13

pabloswrld999

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You didn't roll with that vibe, if you had promoted the sexual convo, then it would be more serious, just don't think about it it's not going to help your real relationship.

Answer 14

LiamSawyer | 3.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

You never were in a position ever have to talk to her.

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I don't get you

Answer 15

Asker

I don't get you

Answer 16

Anonymous

Sounds like a lie to me. I don’t thinks she texted you and said that at all tbh

Answer 17

Anonymous

whether you want to consider it cheating or not, it was mot right of you to do

Asker

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I know n i am really feeling sorry for it. But i had no sexual stimulation then. I wanted to get over her talks and then chat

Answer 18

Asker

I know n i am really feeling sorry for it. But i had no sexual stimulation then. I wanted to get over her talks and then chat

Answer 19

abbie_wright | 277 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

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probably

Asker

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I wasn't interested sexually. Just wanted a normal chat.
abbie_wright

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yeah but you couldve talked to someone else not some catfish online
Asker

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I seeked attention maybe 😥
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abbie_wright

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then you're attention deprived cheater!!!
Asker

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😫 alright
abbie_wright

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you a troll matey
Asker

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I am not. I am really anxious and depressed that's it
abbie_wright

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why? just let it go its just some creep
Asker

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I wish too let it go. But tbh i wasn't interested in her sexually. And what i did that's really embarrassing me really bad.
abbie_wright

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jsut let it go and its probbly not a her anyways
Asker

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Will you rewrite the last reply , please?
abbie_wright

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they where probably some slimy old man or women unless and why werent you interested in them
Asker

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Because i knew i had a girlfriend. That's why i had no intention to nut to her.
Asker

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And making her do that fast was just to later talk to her normally
abbie_wright

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then get oover it
Asker

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Yeah alright. Thanks for your time by the way. :)
abbie_wright

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No problem have a good day
Asker

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Hope so. You too!

Answer 20

Asker

I wasn't interested sexually. Just wanted a normal chat.

Answer 21

abbie_wright

yeah but you couldve talked to someone else not some catfish online

Answer 22

Asker

I seeked attention maybe 😥

Answer 23

abbie_wright

then you're attention deprived cheater!!!

Answer 24

Asker

😫 alright

Answer 25

abbie_wright

you a troll matey

Answer 26

Asker

I am not. I am really anxious and depressed that's it

Answer 27

abbie_wright

why? just let it go its just some creep

Answer 28

Asker

I wish too let it go. But tbh i wasn't interested in her sexually. And what i did that's really embarrassing me really bad.

Answer 29

abbie_wright

jsut let it go and its probbly not a her anyways

Answer 30

Asker

Will you rewrite the last reply , please?

Answer 31

abbie_wright

they where probably some slimy old man or women unless and why werent you interested in them

Answer 32

Asker

Because i knew i had a girlfriend. That's why i had no intention to nut to her.

Answer 33

Asker

And making her do that fast was just to later talk to her normally

Answer 34

abbie_wright

then get oover it

Answer 35

Asker

Yeah alright. Thanks for your time by the way. :)

Answer 36

abbie_wright

No problem have a good day

Answer 37

Asker

Hope so. You too!

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