Virgins over 20, do you regret NOT losing your virginity at a younger age?

[tallandsweet]

I'm not 20 yet, but I will be soon (1.5 years), and to be honest, I don't have any experience with intimacy and so on other than hugging and kissing briefly.
This will probably be awkward in future relationships, but since I more or less know that my husband will also be a virgin (religious community/too complicated to explain now but it's very likely he's a virgin too), I'll be fine.
I don't think about sex all the time because I don't know what it's like.

I don't see why I would regret it because it's a choice I made before I ever met anyone I felt sexually attracted to. I never made a pledge to anyone, I'm not wearing a purity ring or anything, simply because I know that that's stupid. I want to have a relationship to God, and if he says that sex is only okay in a heterosexual marriage, so be it.
I'm not mad about it.

Maybe I would be a little mad if I had at least met one person that I felt like I wanted to have sex with, but I didn't. 18 years and nothing. The people I fell for were all too old, lived too far away or didn't like me back. I'm not complaining, I'll meet someone eventually and the age problem will fix itself, I'm not attracted to 40 year olds, but much rather to mature men. I've never had to wonder whether I had an STD, was pregnant or whether I had been used by the guy I had sex with/was in a relationship with.
This makes me fairly happy and that won't change.

[Anonymous]

No. I would feel awful full of regret if I had lost my virginity before. Just no.
I don't know why people (mostly dumb teenagers) think it’s such a tragedy to not have sex. It’s just ridiculous

If you’re in love have sex, not just because it’s sex.
For me that’s stupid, especially when they can’t even afford to pay their own bills.. it’s just dumb.

Im happy I waited to truly feel love
I lost mine at 34 🥰 and it was amazing!

[Anonymous]

Still a virgin. I'm glad I did not have sex with any crushes or ex girlfriends, because that probably would have been embarrassing to me, or I would have been sad that I would have lost it to someone I wouldn't even want to talk to in six months.

But I AM disappointed that I haven't found anyone that is (to me) worth losing it to them.

I'm a bit sad that I'm not married, engaged, or even that I struggle to find a girlfriend, I'm sad that it's so difficult to talk to women I find attractive; so in a way, I AM a little disappointed that I haven't lost it at my age. But I am glad I waited considering the alternative.

[Anonymous]

I never regretted it before but I met a girl today and we hit it off and I'm seeing her over the weekend and right now I wish I wasn't the only vergin in the equation. I have so many questions and overthinking too many details. So yeah I kinda regret it.

[Anonymous]

I'm still a virgin and no, I've never regret it. I never had an interest in being used only for sex. And I would never have sex only to please anyone. Some friends of mine keep complaining about how dirty and used they feel when the man doesn't respond afterwards. I can only response relatively little about it. I mean what do you expect? People who wants to have sex quickly are usually not interested in a relationship.
We should tell every young person that they shouldn't let themselfs put under pressure. Just because everyone behaves like sluts, you don't have to behave like that too.

[Alice2398]

I lost my virginity 6 months ago to my boyfriend whose 26 who was also a virgin too. I can say im so glad i waited till i found someone deserving of my love and affection and so does my boyfriend.

Good things come to does who wait could have never been so ture till i met my boyfriend. he's the love of my life and im so glad i lost it to him and he was a virgin to it made the experience so much more special

[smb930]

I regret not dating at young ages. I went on first (and so far only) date at age 25, and am still socially awkward with girls. I've been approached so many times at church, the bars, and school and I can't pull my balls out for the life of me. I don't know what my problem is but it wouldn't exist if I had dated in high school.

[lucas262]

Its a choice I made to wait.

I wish I could have had Someoen when sex was a big mystery to me And it would have been very nice to explore all that with her still being a virgin but seeing a lot of porn I hope the novelty of sex hasn't worn away.

[thewiggles]

Its a yes and no but mostly yes. Look... now I could care less about sex. I care being with someone in that way and living out that connection. I want to stick it in someone sure, but I know its never going to be an awe inspiring perfect moment. I'm over glad I didn't end up with the girls I knew I had a chance with in highschool. They're all ass holes.

[Mini-Mina]

I am still a virgin and I don’t regret that, but if I’d lost my virginity I wouldn’t regret it either. I trust my own judgement.

Not necessarily saving myself, I’ve just not had the opportunity to lose it.

[Anonymous]

I lost mine 27. Attractive but I was too busy with education & work and have higher standards than to jump into bed with anyone.

Do I regret it? Why should I? If anyone kids who have sex with the simplest convenience more likely regret losing their virginity to some nameless shmuck than anything.

[Anonymous]

Kind of. Personally I dont really care when I lose it I just want to lose it with the right person and someone who genuinely cares about me. But then I have others who know about it and they think there is something wrong with me 🙄 Or they treat me so little. Thats no excuse to treat someone poorly

[mrfoox]

Sometimes I do. But then I remember all the bad stories 90% of my female friends have shared of their first time as teens... I'd rather wait for someone special, I'll be more comfortable and thus more likely to enjoy myself in the moment

[rosalxna]

No. I was in a long relationship with someone who cheated and I’m happy I never had sex with him.

[Sonorous]

No, I don't regret it. I'm actually very glad I haven't. Waiting has given me time to think about what my main goals are, and I realize that getting laid isn't one of them right now.

[Eridan]

At the time I did as I felt way too inexperienced for my age (I was almost 24 when I lost my virginity), but I hooked up with quite a few girls since then, so I guess I caught up - nothing to regret anymore

[Anonymous]

No, I used to be ashamed about it and what I thought was omg how can I tell a girl if we get to that point.
Now I am not ashamed at all and proud of my decisions. I want my first time to be special with someone that I love and they LOVE ME BACK. If they truly loves me being a virgin won't make them think less of me, if they think that then they can just leave.

[Mickey9999]

Yes I did. Only because as we age we become more judgmental about ourselves and more untrustful of people. So it would have been nice to be more uninhabited at the time rather than more uptight about it.

[MannySimms]

They should. Missed opportunities cannot be recovered!

[Hannah_98]

Sometimes. I don’t really have much of an interest in sex but at the same time I kinda just wanna experience it.

[crazy8000]

Some seems to be in a hurry in their teens have I noticed and they are obsessed over it. especially amongst female's.
Making profiles on tinder stating they are all from 18 - 30 when they are between 15 - 17.

[wingattebaby16]

I wish I still had my V Card... I lost mine before 12yo... I feel it would have changed my life in so many ways for the positive.

[Unit1]

Can't regret that which I didn't have the choice of.

I suppose this doesn't count

[King_Alt]

I wanted to answer yes, but honestly the only reason I could come up for too justify saying yes is because of what other people think. And honestly I didn't (and still don't) care what people think of me that much.

[LanzeWolf]

I'm Curious how Many people are Virgins over 20, Especially who are on this App?

[Anonymous]

Since most who are still virgins at that age are either religious fanatics (who probably do not regret it) or Trumphole Incels (who desperately do want to have sex but cannot due to their offensiveness) the answer is necessarily mixed. Both groups are reprehensible by the way.

[pigoat]

There would have to be a specific reason for someone to regret it

In general once you lose it keep it going

[Anonymous]

I only cared about losing it in high school; now i don't really care that i still have it. Doesn't matter to me. People still shame me and talk shit, but i could really give less of a shit. At least i don't have an STD.

[Anonymous]

Of course, I would have lost it to literally anybody, at the age of 13 or so if I could. But desires are one thing, and possibilities are something else. So in reality I never even had a kiss in my life.

[TheAmbernator]

No, I'm waiting until marriage. Sex is sex to me, so it doesn't matter if I have it with 5 people or 1 person, and I believe it's a better guarantee to be safer and secure in a marriage.

[Guanfei]

Yeah. I think that would have helped me to be more confident with ladies. Knowing I could be attractive to a girl would have been nice.

[AbsoluteCutie]

No, my first sexual experiences were when I was 26 to the man that became my husband. I mostly feel like I dodged a lot of bad experiences and crappy heartbreaks.

[ZELLxoxo]

Im saving myself for marriage. So nope no regrets at all.

[Anonymous]

YES. I've had 2 relationships but still a virgin, i've been too nervous about it to do something about it but now it's become an issue because most men over 20 aren't patient with waiting for you to feel comfortable I think. I wish i'd lost it to my high school boyfriend because he's the one i've loved the most even though he was a jerk I loved him at the time and at least I would've been experienced by now in that case.

[0112358]

I was either 20 or just turned 21.

I regret not losing it sooner.

[VintageND]

No because everyone in my school that lost their virginity in high school ended up knocked up and child parents

[Anonymous]

I regret it, but it's not about the virginity for me. It's about who I had the chance to get freaky with. I didn't know she was soon to be... well-known. I'll probably never have a chance to bang a famous chick again. Opportunity missed. :(

[Jamie05rhs]

Hell no. I absolutely do not. I'm still proud to be a virgin.

[Apple1996]

Lost it at 17 and I cannot imagine having to wait till my 20s. That would have been terrible, I like that I lost it in my teens

[Anonymous]

As a virgin in my late 30s, yes, I obviously regret it, but there is nothing I can do about it, considering I'm not rich nor attractive, and my charming skills are level zero.

[glutendan]

Definitely not, I only regret not having met the right girl yet.

[gagsucs]

i wish i lost it when i was 8 (the age i first started to want sex)

[Clyde_123]

No I don't regret it. I want to lose it to the person I love.

[Syrian_survivor]

Not really, would it make me a better person? Would it make me more valuable? Would it change my life for the better? Would it do anything positive?

No to all of that, and I don't regret not doing something useless.

[Alex_988_2]

so apparently, the v-card thing is not important to ladies?

[padreflint]

I was around 29 when I lost my virginity. Would I like to have lost it earlier? Yes. I was extremely shy and introverted and could never build up the nerve.

[mynameisRIS]

I lost my virginity after getting married and i do not regret waiting

[cgehr783]

There are some reasons why i do and other reasons i don't.

[ChronicThinker]

I lost my virginity in my 20s and I didn't regret it at all.

[Plitty-Tank]

No. They are very comfortable with still being a virgin even in their 20s.

[jgirl99]

I'm glad I waited until I was in love even if it didn't work out

[Dchrls78104]

Not really; since the right girl did not come around for me, losing it would have felt wrong. And worked out wrong.

[Anonymous]

I list of ine after 25, at 27.5 actually. Looking back at it I am glad I waited so long.

[Anonymous]

it's not uncommon at all for people to be over 30 and be a virgin, majority men though obviously

[Anonymous]

I lost mine at 23, and I've definitely made up for lost time since then. I don't regret a thing, my sex life since then has been far more rewarding than most of my friends

[blackxbarbiex01]

I would like a man who would wait until he’s GROWN to loose his virginity and not act fast as a child

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Outside of this site, no one gives two shits.

[Anonymous]

I lost mine at 21 cause I used to have social anxiety. Catch up fast so no regrets, lol

[Anonymous]

No. I'm saving myself until my christian marriage because sex is evil unless in marriage.

Just waiting for my parents to arrange a marriage for me

[LZPanzer]

I never even had an opportunity to lose it.

[Anonymous]

I didn't lose it until 20 and absolutely regret not having lost it at 16 or 17.

[slatyb]

I was 21. Wish it had been sooner.

[chris_987]

Nope but people wanna look at my like weird

[Proxyz123]

Nope! Doesn't really matter