Why can’t I enjoy sex?

[Anonymous]

I’ve had two sexual partners and both of them were great at what they did; touching all the right spots etc and it felt amazing but... I just didn’t enjoy it? The only time I could fully enjoy was if it was really quick , after more than 5 minutes I would just want it to be over and even if I hadn’t came yet I would just hope that he finished asap because I was done.
I wondered to myself if I feel that way because I needed to spice things up a little , try new positions or get a little kinky but I genuinely can’t imagine anything worse than continuing. It’s not that they were doing anything wrong or not pleasing me, it still felt good but I just wanted it to be over.
Anyone else feel this way? Or does anyone know why this is? To me , sex just gets so boring regardless of how different I try to make it, regardless of how good it feels. Why thoughhhh? Anyone know? :(

[rickle]

Sexual activity is usually more enjoyable when it's with someone you care about. I don't impress if you're doing it with random people or not, but another reason this may be happening could be because of dopamine. Dopamine isn't looking something, instead it's wanting something. The more you're addicted to sex, the less you actually enjoy it.

[Asker]

The first person was someone I was in a long term relationship with & I was also quite interested in the second so don’t think there’s an issue there, definitely not addicted to sex either so still confused:(

[rickle]

I don't know what to say then, maybe you just genuinely don't enjoy sex.

[Anonymous]

What's been going on in your life before that? Like you watch porn and are desensitized?
Or he isn't very focused on your pleasure, or you aren't very mentally present because that is how you used to cope with things?

you probably need to sit down with a professional to walk through it, might be important.

[Asker]

I think you’re right; maybe I’m not mentally present because it’s definitely how I cope with everything else; I hadn’t thought about that one. No issues with porn or masturbation & both did their best to pleasure me more than themselves so perhaps that is the issue - my brain can’t think about things for too long. Will definitely think about getting help; thanks so much!

[Opinion Owner]

welcome. That's really what we are all doing... trying to understand ourselves and make better choices, live better. It's a process. There is a reason for most of those answers are in the jacked up mess in our past that we think was "normal". Anxiety and lack of focus... might be rooted in fear.

[Missmouse]

For me sounds like not enough forplay and your mind was bored. Try it with another girl see if she can keep your mind focused. Try sexy texting do you like that?

Do you masturbate for a while or just fast?

[WhiteShoulder]

Maybe u just finish fast and lose interest. Or like if I’m really not into the person I’ll be drifting off into space thinking about vampires while he’s doing whatever.

[ChronicThinker]

You might be asexual honey.

[WhiteShoulder]

Hmm. Maybe.

[bangyourhead]

You tell me, why didn’t you enjoy it? Boredom?

[bklynbadboy1]

Do you cum fast and if you do are you to sensitive to continue

[hdhwgw2726262]

Have the guy Cum in u