Why are you sexually aroused by the humiliation of others?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

C Is a major factor - and a necessary one since otherwise my sympathy outweighs anything else - but it’s not the only one.

I don’t really know why I like it, any more than I can really say why I have the taste in music or food or anything else that I find stimulating. I can only theorize.

I think maybe I find my own sexuality somewhat embarrassing, or my desire for them embarrassing. So their humiliation sort of removes my own as they are the more humiliated one (and their enjoyment is an additional humiliation that makes my turn ons stand out less as odd).

I think the reality is most of my sexual experiences have involved me trying harder than my partner to please them, so I sort of crave the opposite and tangible evidence of their “trying hard”.

sort of linked to that... I like it when they want sex even if it’s gross or embarrassing or uncomfortable. I say that even though I also want to give my partner orgasms and pleasure. But I don’t want sex because it’s pleasurable - the pleasure is a bonus. My desire is based more on lust. I want the same from my partner, ideally. So although I want them to go nuts with orgasms and some point, it’s also depressing to me if that’s the only reason they’re having sex with me. I want them to feel lust first. That doesn’t require humiliation - but then being aroused through sexual humiliation is evidence of them having desire for me that is nothing like being a pillow princess simply accepting pleasure. And that drives me nuts.

I think part of it is I simply crave my partner being overwhelmed and out of control, swamped mentally by her own arousal and responses. Humiliated, aroused, struggling, overcome with pleasure, sore, exhausted, comforted, treasured.

i1T2daty · Accepted Answer

Umm, I'm not. I think deliberate humiliation of others- and especially deriving joy from it- is a huge indicator of sociopathy. Humiliation is a special kind of of self-hate that you see in men who gay bash, racists, men who beat women. They sense something so ugly within their own personality that they are unable to process the negative feelings about (whatever object of anger is) and need to find an external scapegoat to be the vehicle upon which they put all that hate. Once they have externalized and scapegoated they can feel briefly like they'e been exorcised

msss98 · Accepted Answer

I feel like its a loud minority that enjoys that fetish

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm not sexually aroused by the humiliation of others

Czaxi · Answer

Well, it depends if my partner (s) are into this sort of BDSM. I, myself, am not but I know many people are. It's just under that larger category of sexual activities of BDSM. There's no shame, unless you're into that of course :P

AustinMan · Answer

I voted A. The exception is that the humiliation is part of a BDSM scene in which she's consensually participating.

Savage_Wisdom · Answer

I'm only into it if she deserves what's happening to her, you know "just desserts" kind of things. If she doesn't deserve what's happening to her, or the punishment far outweighs the crime, I wind up sympathizing with her too much to actually enjoy the situation.

Sensmind · Answer

I voted A, not aroused but okay with others doing it as long as noone is abused and there is consent between people, I like people submitting to me but in a benign/constructive sense.

dany018 · Answer

Why do you assume things? I am not!

Gunnar1978 · Answer

Some are sexually aroused by the humiliation of others, some by the humiliation of themselves, some by both and some by none of these. I personally think that reaches back into prehistoric ages where nonconsensual sex gave a significant contribution to the reproduction of our species' population and evolution therefore shaped some of these 'kinks' into our heads.

EYAD_14 · Answer

I think this is wrong and twisted... and I don't think anyone with self respect should accept being humiliated during sex for the joy of their partner.

cooldude64 · Answer

I find it dominant in nature. Just hot

BlessedDaddy · Answer

I'm not. Nothing could be further from the truth.  If I was I would be a sadist. Or a sociopath or both and better served tearing the wings off butterfly's or depending puppies.

myd_nudie · Answer

I just like it in porn movies because Almost 90% of porn is scripted and done willingly so I just imagine with myself and get sexually aroused and I can't bear that if it's not scripted... I'm not a SADIST!!!

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I'm not but I do find the amusing ones, amusing.

Klitschko88 · Answer

I'm not. Im aroused by women especially women who are aroused sexually. Nothing hotter than a woman orgasming

Itsmeeeee77 · Answer

I am not

crmoore · Answer

I chose the last one, I'm not entirely sure what the reason is. I think part of it is raw sadism, another part is that fact that I think it's cute when she gets embarrassed, and the part pertains to how much I like it when others know that she's mine due to an action either her or I take (which typically results in her humiliation).

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

I am not.

6beavereater9 · Answer

I hope you understand what I'm talking about when I say this go ahead to the time clock and punch out for the sub and then punch in for the Dom

BigDikEnergy001 · Answer

I mean, I know you are.

BoxySama · Answer

I am not that kind of sadistic

LordVarys · Answer

Question? when you say humiliation, are you referring to peeing on someone or pain and torture or obtaining sexual satisfaction by ruining someones life