It is normal being horny during a swedish massage session and the therapist is female?

[Anonymous]

[SueShe]

No, that is obviously not normal and that indicates that you are not concentrating on the wellbeing of the massage but have lewd thoughts.

One should not go to a massage parlor knowing that one may get aroused. That is not the purpose and those poor masseur girls have to deal with that type of customers that know that they are unable to contain their libido.

It is very humiliating for a masseur lady to know that she is solely seen as an object of sexual desires and not as a therapist.

[Asker]

For me it was unintentionally and I am not thinking in a sexual manner. It was my first time that I go to a massage session. The therapist ask me before she leaves if I need an extra. It was unexpected for me for the first time, but I've been accept her offer, she removes the towel and start the hand job.

[SueShe]

Then it is not a normal massage and you intentionally joined one of those lewd massage salons. No sports massage salon would ever do that. That is against the rule and the establishment should be reported as sexual massage parlor which probably requires a special license.

[Anonymous]

Yeah it’s pretty normal to get aroused, but we remain professional about it and work away from the area. If the guy insists on trying to get us to touch it, the massage is over and he will be asked to leave.

[Asker]

For me it was unintentionally and I am not thinking in a sexual manner. But prior of ending the session the therapist ask me about the erection and if I need an extra.

[Opinion Owner]

Then you didn’t have a good therapist. Hopefully you reported them, as that is illegal.

[Asker]

The massage session it was really good. I was aroused and i can't resist to tell her no and to report them.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry to hear that. That’s extremely unprofessional.

[cicchis0]

Yeah, it's pretty common - https://www.integrativehealthcare.org/mt/erection-during-massage/
I have heard of a massage therapist whacking an erection with a cold spoon to deal with it, but that was a long time ago and I doubt it happens these days.
Advice on what not to do - https://ravishly.com/2014/09/10/when-massage-table-turns-sexual-5-things-every-massage-therapist-wishes-guys-would-stop

[SueShe]

I find it is a very sad thing that guys must be given instructions on how to behave for something like a massage. To me, it shows how little respect they have for those guys and girls that are trying to get them to feel better but in turn make them feel like prostitutes or sex workers.

[cicchis0]

@SueShe Yeah, it would be great if everyone inherently knew how to handle embarrassing situations but they don't and people have different natural responses. Some people just freeze, some people make jokes, some people try distraction. I think reading some instructions in advance is better than just trying to figure out how to handle it at the time and maybe making the therapist uncomfortable by misplaced attempts at humour. The creeps that want to try to turn remedial massage into a sexual experience are not going to care about this stuff, they will still be creeps. I wish they didn't exist but they do.

[Gedaria]

Yes...

[Anonymous]

It shows a total lack of control.

[Anonymous]

Yeah...

[Asker]

And what should be the reaction?