Does this count as a kiss?

Question

I was sleeping over my guy friend's house. I had my own bed made on the floor. I woke up to his lips on mine, I didn't kiss back in the slightest, but does it count?
It'd be my first kiss if it does count, which is why I'm kinda annoyed about it 🙄
From his perspective I guess it would count but I don't know

Answer 1

topur

Xper 5

That's very creepy, It isn't the same as rape, but it is assault.

I would tell him to think about his actions and get some professional help to prevent him from doing even worst to someone in the future. That's how cases of abuses in relations and domestic violence start. So if he doesn't wanna be one of those, he should treat himself.

And, of course, I would say goodbye and get away from that person. Not having any kind of relationship with him, not even saying hello in the street, completely forget that I would know him.

Answer 2

Trolloween | 741 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Seems to count asa sexual assault if you didn't want him kissing you, you clearly couldn't consent when unconscious. Are you not more creeped out by this than just defining it was a kiss?

Asker

1 y
I didn't know if I could call it assault though. I didn't give consent, but I also didn't not give consent.
Trolloween

1 y
There's no such thing as 'didn't not give consent', you either give it or you don't and as you were asleep there's zero chance you could have given it. If you were both awake and flirting and there were signals then I wouldn't blame a guy for trying to kiss you but then you'd always have the opportunity to pull away and say no. What he did in my opinion is sexual assault, but pretty minor. It's really up to you and how you feel about it, personally I find the idea of creeping on someone who is asleep and being their first kiss that way very creepy. Have you talked to him about it?
Asker

1 y
Yeah that's true. I just didn't know how to feel, like he's my friend so why would he want to hurt me kinda thing ya know?
He wanted to have sex, but that's when I said no to that idea and went to bed. He kissed me after that, like a peck.
I didn't discuss it with him, just kinda left it there
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Trolloween

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I don't think he should be your friend anymore, he sounds like he's not to be trusted whatsoever. If he liked you he should have said and done something when you were together, not wake you up assaulting you and asking for sex, that's rapey as hell and I assume he knew you were inexperienced which makes it even worse

Answer 3

Asker

I didn't know if I could call it assault though. I didn't give consent, but I also didn't not give consent.

Answer 4

Trolloween

There's no such thing as 'didn't not give consent', you either give it or you don't and as you were asleep there's zero chance you could have given it. If you were both awake and flirting and there were signals then I wouldn't blame a guy for trying to kiss you but then you'd always have the opportunity to pull away and say no. What he did in my opinion is sexual assault, but pretty minor. It's really up to you and how you feel about it, personally I find the idea of creeping on someone who is asleep and being their first kiss that way very creepy. Have you talked to him about it?

Answer 5

Asker

Yeah that's true. I just didn't know how to feel, like he's my friend so why would he want to hurt me kinda thing ya know?
He wanted to have sex, but that's when I said no to that idea and went to bed. He kissed me after that, like a peck.
I didn't discuss it with him, just kinda left it there

Answer 6

Trolloween

I don't think he should be your friend anymore, he sounds like he's not to be trusted whatsoever. If he liked you he should have said and done something when you were together, not wake you up assaulting you and asking for sex, that's rapey as hell and I assume he knew you were inexperienced which makes it even worse

Answer 7

boggboss | 5.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Lol as sexual assault sure as you didn't tell him he could kiss you and that's is a act that requires it as for if it was your first kiss I guess that comes down to what u saw the action as

Answer 8

metalhead_66

Xper 4

Why would he kiss you while you're asleep? Something is not right. It shouldn't count as your first kiss because you didn't actually kiss him

Answer 9

Anonymous

Not if you didn't kiss back/consent to it.

Does this count as a kiss?

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