Should women feel horrible because the average man can’t get sex? Why?

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This is from demented males on here. Isn’t that selfish to expect other women to feel sorry for you when he’s likely the problem?

Bluemax · Accepted Answer

I believe that the average man *can* get sex. I'm not really sure why people would think that the average man can't get sex.

Now, for whatever reason you've made this question about feeling bad for *men* who can't get sex. There are plenty of women who can't get it either. Growing up with a brother who has cerebral palsy, I grew up knowing several deformed people. And their love lives are non existent. Also there are people who are mentally ill who have great difficulty finding sex and love. People with mental challenges, too. Or even people who are just unattractive who can't find someone who they themselves find attractive and are relegated to lackluster sex lives or even sexless lives.

To these men *and* women (and I don't know why you made this all about men, asker) I feel bad. My brother counsels such people. He is aware that romantic loneliness literally shaves years off your life. It can have consequences on one's neural chemistry. Bad consequences.

For these people, do I feel bad? Yes, I do. In fact, I feel horrible for them. Do I feel *responsible* for their predicament, no I don't. But you can feel bad for someone without feeling responsible for their predicament.

Am I for coddling them, as you have phrased it in other posts? No, certainly not. I am, however, all for showing compassion to the non-misogynistic, non-murderous ones. As for the misogynistic/murderous ones, I doubt very much that simple name calling and derision is going to help straighten them out. Arguably that just contributes to the problem.

My brother, in his profession, has had to literally hold people, again men and women alike, in his arms as they sobbed about their loneliness. Would you have suggested that my brother stop showing them compassion and simply tell them that evolution has selected them out of the gene pool so they've really nothing to feel bad about (in spite of the fact that as I've mentioned loneliness literally shaves years off lives)? By the way, it's been my experience that telling these people to "focus on other things" or to take up hobbies or that love isn't all that important anyways or that they can live without it is mostly useless. I'll tell you one thing evolution very much has done, asker (since you seem to like focusing on evolution). It has drilled into virtually EVER SINGLE HUMAN a deep longing for sex and for touch. And that longing for touch usually gets stronger, not weaker, the less we have it. Telling them to just do other things, like therapy, is usually not very helpful. No amount of hobbies, therapy, and focusing on other things is going to alleviate a desire that's been drilled into us for half a billion years. My brother's been working on people who have been alone about twice as long as you've lived, asker. He's seen it.

Fortunately, the majority of people don't fall into this predicament. And many incels I feel *CAN* better their situation. The trick is showing them ways to do so, and sadly many people offer nothing more than just name calling and humiliating them... for reasons I can't fathom.

Suppose it was a loved one, asker. A son, or daughter, or niece, or nephew, or friend, who never found a mate. How would you talk to them about it?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The average man could get plenty of sex if he simply put effort into being attractive... How do I know? I get plenty of sex. How do I pull that off? I make sure I have more to offer than just my dick.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

umm why would i feel sorry for guys cannot get laid. It's not a charity work. Hot guys won't get in bed with me either and i dont blame them

WhiteShoulder · Accepted Answer

No. Women should not feel horrible because the average man can't get sex. I'm not even sure that's true.

Hoss1981 · Answer

Yeah don't blame women for the lack of sex. If I wanted could get it. Just not into sleeping around.

Agape93 · Answer

No why on earth should I?

E-Warren-lover · Answer

I'm an average male and I get sex. Should guys get mad because average girls can't get commitment

FatherJack · Answer

No , why should they? I am no longer bothered about sex , as my Male Curse has greatly faded , plus I'm a single dad , which would = celibacy anyway , like it or not. Nobody owes anyone anything... if you want something , you need to put in the required effort / develop the correct mindset... men have to put in serious effort to be attractive to women.