What Would You Do If You Don't Like Your Partner's Fetish?

[KeziL]

I had a partner once who was into choking me, and at the time I hadn’t really been with anyone else who liked that, so I wasn’t used to it and it made me nervous. I didn’t like not being able to breathe and like basic human instinct is to panic when you can’t breathe, so can you really blame me?

The first time he did it, I let him for a second and then reached up and pulled his hand away. I told him he could hold down my wrists instead, if it was a control thing. try to find a comfortable medium.

Before I saw him next, I did a little research on my own on why guys like choking, and that helped me understand so I could think about it in a way other than “danger”. I told him it was alright this time, but to please be gentle about it. He was careful to follow my wishes, and I felt a lot better about it.

id say just try to find a compromise. Is there something you can do that is okay for both of you? Can you adjust what your partner wants to suit you better? Work out a good medium and try to go with it. Just talk openly and be honest about what you want/need.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d say im not into it and i would prob become less attracted to them... sadly this has occured a lot before. And if they continue to pressure me into it, i’ll leave them

[Dargil]

If it does not harm or degrade me or her, I am likely to comply.
Some things are "ritually degrading" without actual harm. one girl INSISTED that I give her a punishment/humiliation enema. On a hunch I did so and even added a little painless spanking and scolding to it. Here's the deal. After she stopped weeping, her mood dramatically IMPROVED, Sunny. The best I'd seen her.
'Everybody's looking for something.'

[slatyb]

Depends on what it is. If I could accommodate her without much trouble, but it didn't turn me on, I would do it and get enjoyment from her satisfaction. If it were something I would not do, I would say sorry, I can't. I would want the same from my partner. It's fine to say no. It's not fine to shame someone for sharing.

[eminde]

I hated a lots of things but when I actually tried them they made up to my top list
It’s never too late to try something new
I believe we both have equal rights to get our desires satisfied so I’ll probably try it
And even if I start to feel uncomfortable or something I can tell her
Can’t knew it until I try it right

[JackSmy]

Like what? Something harsh, and degrading, or just something different that you haven't experienced, and maybe pre-judge? :)

[Dchrls78104]

Depending on the fetish, either go along with it or dump. If I had a wife and she liked to take long baths before sex I could live with that, but if a girl liked wearing thongs I wouldn't marry her in the first place.

[pajamasam]

Consider if it's something I'm willing to give a try for my partner, because I would want her to at least try for me in the same situation, who knows it may end up being fun.

[EpicIrishman]

My girlfriend and I have this problem. I'm into a kink or two that she isn't, and vice versa. We just worked out a simple solution. 'You do A for me and I'll do B for you'

[EllieBlackfield]

Just tell them you're not into that. Thankfully I've always shared similar fetishes with my partners.

[Smccoy217]

For me this is usually the other way around. I'm into something she isn't. Sometimes its a deal breaker, sometimes, I work her into it slowly and see what happens.

[oldguystillhasit]

When we entered the world of kink we agreed to try each other's kinks. We have a rule if we both like a particular act we kept doing it If one of us didn't like it we we would never do it again.

[MackToday]

It just depends on if it's something that disgusts me or just something that seems weird. If it's just weird I'd indulge her.

[ohshee]

It's depends on what your talking about but I would try it once just to experience it

[R4vedave]

I'd see if there's a way we could compromise. If it didn't repulse me, I'd probably just indulge for their satisfaction.

[dany018]

Depends on the fetish. If it causes pain or discomfort, is humiliating or dangerous (like sexual asphyxiation), is out of the question.

[Ianto]

Still count yourself lucky to have a partner who is not an uptight vanilla missionary.

[OneManOnly]

It could be a dealbreaker sometimes other times its fine with me

[ColoradoKid]

It just depends on what it is. You can pm with details if you want. I have had to bring fetishes up on more than one occasion.

[sophiejo]

I will try anything once but if I don't like it then I will just tell them and try and satisfy them in other ways

[BasicBad]

I enjoy playing with my guys ass. Never did it Before.

[Missmouse]

Try it then break up. Really depends what it is we all have different things we like

[Steve37]

As long as I didn't find it painful or disgusting, I'd do it for her.

[curioushuman628]

Don’t do it. Be honest. Or take it slow and give it a try. Don’t feel compelled to do anything you don’t want to

[dumtampa]

Sex isn't allows about personal pleasure. Sometimes being able to provide your partner what they need is more important.

[Calvin_Shen16]

Tbh I'll just let them be but don't be negative towards a person who has fetish

[kreamykraemez]

Try it out, don’t like it, then I’ll ask her if we can do something similar that I am okay with

[SarahsSummer]

Request to take it slower

[Agape93]

Within reason I may indulge it

[Biancatsumi1991]

I would talk to him about it.

[call_me_scar]

Talk about it and make compromises

[Owen3]

Try really hard but I know it wouldn't work

[ND4SPD31]

U just have to live without doing that.

[B2281]

Just be honest with her.

[mnthan7]

Will agree with her and cooperate with fetish

[bklynbadboy1]

Talk to her about it

[crazybecky77]

Tell him or her