What Would You Do If You Don't Like Your Partner's Fetish?

[anon1903]

well imagine you have finally reached the stage where you are ready to take it on next level and your partner is into something you are not, what would you do?

[KeziL]

I had a partner once who was into choking me, and at the time I hadn’t really been with anyone else who liked that, so I wasn’t used to it and it made me nervous. I didn’t like not being able to breathe and like basic human instinct is to panic when you can’t breathe, so can you really blame me?

The first time he did it, I let him for a second and then reached up and pulled his hand away. I told him he could hold down my wrists instead, if it was a control thing. try to find a comfortable medium.

Before I saw him next, I did a little research on my own on why guys like choking, and that helped me understand so I could think about it in a way other than “danger”. I told him it was alright this time, but to please be gentle about it. He was careful to follow my wishes, and I felt a lot better about it.

id say just try to find a compromise. Is there something you can do that is okay for both of you? Can you adjust what your partner wants to suit you better? Work out a good medium and try to go with it. Just talk openly and be honest about what you want/need.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d say im not into it and i would prob become less attracted to them... sadly this has occured a lot before. And if they continue to pressure me into it, i’ll leave them

[Dargil]

If it does not harm or degrade me or her, I am likely to comply.
Some things are "ritually degrading" without actual harm. one girl INSISTED that I give her a punishment/humiliation enema. On a hunch I did so and even added a little painless spanking and scolding to it. Here's the deal. After she stopped weeping, her mood dramatically IMPROVED, Sunny. The best I'd seen her.
'Everybody's looking for something.'

[slatyb]

Depends on what it is. If I could accommodate her without much trouble, but it didn't turn me on, I would do it and get enjoyment from her satisfaction. If it were something I would not do, I would say sorry, I can't. I would want the same from my partner. It's fine to say no. It's not fine to shame someone for sharing.

[EpicIrishman]

My girlfriend and I have this problem. I'm into a kink or two that she isn't, and vice versa. We just worked out a simple solution. 'You do A for me and I'll do B for you'

[Missmouse]

Try it then break up. Really depends what it is we all have different things we like

[pajamasam]

Consider if it's something I'm willing to give a try for my partner, because I would want her to at least try for me in the same situation, who knows it may end up being fun.

[ohshee]

It's depends on what your talking about but I would try it once just to experience it

[SarahsSummer]

Request to take it slower

[JackSmy]

Like what? Something harsh, and degrading, or just something different that you haven't experienced, and maybe pre-judge? :)

[anon1903]

so long the principal of pleasure is involved, i don't care what wagon i have to ride it to get there. i don't pre-judge, i try not to. this is a broad range question.

[sophiejo]

I will try anything once but if I don't like it then I will just tell them and try and satisfy them in other ways

[joshy822]

Hurry for intelligent answers

[EllieBlackfield]

Just tell them you're not into that. Thankfully I've always shared similar fetishes with my partners.

[dany018]

Depends on the fetish. If it causes pain or discomfort, is humiliating or dangerous (like sexual asphyxiation), is out of the question.

[R4vedave]

I'd see if there's a way we could compromise. If it didn't repulse me, I'd probably just indulge for their satisfaction.

[Smccoy217]

For me this is usually the other way around. I'm into something she isn't. Sometimes its a deal breaker, sometimes, I work her into it slowly and see what happens.

[Agape93]

Within reason I may indulge it

[oldguystillhasit]

When we entered the world of kink we agreed to try each other's kinks. We have a rule if we both like a particular act we kept doing it If one of us didn't like it we we would never do it again.

[eminde]

I hated a lots of things but when I actually tried them they made up to my top list
It’s never too late to try something new
I believe we both have equal rights to get our desires satisfied so I’ll probably try it
And even if I start to feel uncomfortable or something I can tell her
Can’t knew it until I try it right

[eminde]

Know^

[ColoradoKid]

It just depends on what it is. You can pm with details if you want. I have had to bring fetishes up on more than one occasion.

[MackToday]

It just depends on if it's something that disgusts me or just something that seems weird. If it's just weird I'd indulge her.

[OneManOnly]

It could be a dealbreaker sometimes other times its fine with me

[call_me_scar]

Talk about it and make compromises

[Biancatsumi1991]

I would talk to him about it.

[Ianto]

Still count yourself lucky to have a partner who is not an uptight vanilla missionary.

[anon1903]

what am I hearing — you in a vanilla flavored sexual life? hard to believe.

[Ianto]

A gracious compliment from one so young. Makes me wish I was 40 years younger. 😅

[anon1903]

but really though, vanilla sucks. with biscuits and in bedroom. agreed?

[anon1903]

guess that's just bdsm girl opinion of mine.

[Ianto]

My ex was a civil servant, so extremely conservative. Vanilla was the normal flavour, with occasional excursions. Vanilla can be wonderful, but it gets monotonous. Everybody enjoys variety occasionally, and relationships thrive on a sense of excitement, adventure, and variety.

[anon1903]

not my cuppa tea, can't stand conservatives tbh😅