Not turning him on in the bedroom?

[Anonymous]

So my fiance was speaking to me last night saying that the sex is getting stuck in a rut and boring.

He said that I dont spend enough time on him and that I need to do more things. No matter what I try he doesn't like it though. The other night I was kissing his neck and he said he doesn't like it and that it sent shivers down him. He went soft.

I know he likes sexy outfits and teasing though.

But in terms of physical touch I find it very hard. And I even asked him and he said he doesn't know what he likes himself.

Has anyone else been through this?

[DoTheThew]

The point of absolutely everything else you could do for foreplay, is either pain, domination, or a tingly feeling that sends shivers down his spine. If he's not into those, then I don't know what he expects... Does he get turned on by pleasuring you? You could try switching up the order of things.

Otherwise, just drag him to a sex shop and tell him that you're not leaving until he's found at least one thing he likes.

[Asker]

Yes he does get turned on by pleasuring me. But he said he wants me to be more dominant. I get that, but my question is how can I be dominant when everything I do he doesn't like? And he doesn't want me going for his willy all the time, which I get. But almost feel like I'm left with no choice. Tried his nipples, neck and thighs and feet.. Haha good idea that to be honest

[zayndan]

He maybe wants you to spend a great deal of time sucking him. Maybe try to wip the mf. Safest route tho, is to as him exactly what he wants

[Asker]

He says he doesn't want me to just focus on his penis... I have been doing that haha

[zayndan]

It sounds that you're most likely his firstcmaube second sexual partner. Because i dont think he even knows what he want.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm his second sexual partner. The last one he wasn't with for a long time either

[zayndan]

He seemed to have had great expectations and a whole fantasy. Maybe he watched porn and it looked like it felt a certain way, and expected to feel that way. I don't know. Try using a massage candle and tease him sexually.

[reptocarl]

Well if he doesn’t know how the fuck are you supposed to know?

[JimmyInSpace]

His erectile dysfunction is not your fault.
It can also be caused by diet even in his 20s:

https://youtu.be/OVXzT_RBxFk

[joshy822]

Communication is key. Ask him what kind of pork he likes and watch some together

[joshy822]

Porn not pork lol

[Asker]

We have done this also

[harryxoxo]

Spend more time on sucking him. Cock, balls, nipples. Get wild.

[Asker]

The whole cock thing he says that he doesn't want me to focus on just that. I've tried nipples but he says he can't feel much?

[harryxoxo]

Ummm.. okay. Try playing some erotic music in low volume. Dominate. Put seductive expressions. Imitate kamasutra lol