How should I approach bringing up having a threesome with another guy to my bf?

[Anonymous]

[whipitout]

Honestly, from you're going to have to make that final decision based on your own judgement of your boyfriend. I recently spoke to someone on here who was very open minded about his girlfriend mentioning a MFM. As far as I understand, he's not bi and he's a similar age to you. They were discussing fantasies they had, not necessarily ones they actually wanted to have happen, but ones they thought about, and she brought it up. He asked if that was something she actually wanted and she said she honestly wasn't sure but she'd like to think about it more if he would be up for it. If it were my relationship, that's how I'd want it to go.

That being said, I'm sure there are guys who would freak out at the idea. So starting with the gentle approach and asking about a FMF first, might be easier. You could also make it less specific, maybe tell him that a friend of yours was talking about threesomes, or you saw an article online, or anything really, and ask him what he thinks about threesomes in general. It can be easier to discuss a topic generically first, before you discuss it in reference to your relationship.

Several people mentioned that guys are actually into seeing their girl with another man, even if they won't admit it, or maybe don't even know it. I'm in agreement there. It does seem to be a growing trend, but I don't exactly have stats for you 🤷‍♀️

Either way, good luck!! I hope it's fun 😜

[Anonymous]

Trust me on this, because I know what I'm talking about.
You do NOT ask for a MFM. That will devastate him. Ask him what his thoughts are on a FMF!

He may or may not take the bait, but if he does... then you're set!
As you begin planning for the FMF and who and where to have it with, casually bring up the old "tit for tat" thing.

He will either blow a gasket, or agree whole heatedly to your request for another guy. I believe that most guys secretly fantasize about watching their girl with another guy, but would never admit it in a million years. But you're putting it on the table as kind of a fairness thing.

If he rejects the idea, then don't go through with the FMF.

[Asker]

What makes you say most guys are into the idea? I haven't heard that before.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course you haven't heard that before, because guys would rather die, than admit it. The largest growing kink on the planet is cuckolding/hotwifing. This site is worthless for the topic you brought up. But go on a swinger site or just a regular dating site. Don't be judgmental, and talk openly about your fantasies. Once you gain the guy's trust, he will open up to you. I get that talking to other guys online about this isn't going to help you achieve your goal, but it will help you understand just how common this kink really is. Also, you only get one shot at presenting this, so you need to tread lightly. You never get a second chance to make a first impression.

[holidaze]

You are very wise, just wanted to say that.

[Opinion Owner]

@holidaze It's all about baby steps! Don't ask for a MFM threesome! Ask for a gift certificate for a massage. But instead of a masseuse ask for a masseur! :)

[pierre7i]

Sorry but I do not agree at all with your assumption that most guys secretly fantasise about watching their girl being sexual with another guy ! I am quite certain if you/anyone did a poll on this the vast majority of guys will think like I do. I honestly can't think of anything, sexual or otherwise, that I would hate more in a relationship ! For me it would absolutely destroy my love for her !

[broken_heart_at_48]

You know your boyfriend better than anyone of us. Is he insecure about your relationship or himself? Do you guys have a solid relationship? If you're not sure about this kinda stuff you're not ready. If you feel it's all good you could add a dildo while he's fucking you again be sure he's secure with himself or you could bring up a ffm threesome and get him going on that and depending how that conversation goes throw in the mmf threesome and don't like full on ask him on the first conversation but if he asks you you should be like. Of course wouldn't you? But say it like duh who wouldn't

[simplelikeme]

You should never bring this up to your boyfriend or husband or significant other. If you want to experience this kind of stuff be single and go do it experience the things you want to experience but don't bring that into a relationship because it will only ruin it

[DoTheThew]

Ask him if he's ever thought about what it'd be like to actually have a threesome together. Ask how he would feel about sharing you with another guy. Tell him you'd like it. 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

Direct is best, then, you think?

[Red_Arrow]

Bring another woman in first. Then demand equal time later.

[pajamasam]

Talk about kinks. Ask him about his. Ask if a threesome ever crossed his mind. Then ask if MMF is something he's okay with. Also be ready for him to ask for FFM threesome, because it's best to be fair.

[Miristheiss]

Ah, so you want to ruin your relationship and cheat.
Just break up.

[kenFold]

Does he want this too or is it just you that has to convince him?

[kenFold]

If you have doubts try finding a passable CD to invite for a 3way. He'll think it's ffm and be thrilled. After you two get him all turned on and ready, break the news to him then. Chances are much higher he won't care one bit at that point.

[ShannonSaxon66]

Better bring a really high paying porn contract with you. Cause he ain't gonna like the idea... Just sayin'

[Ripper_E]

All I would hear is
"Can I have sex with another guy?"

Do you feel he would agree to it?

[Asker]

Not if that's what he heard, no. This is why I'm trying to get some ideas.

[Ripper_E]

I mean I would let her say what she needs to say. I wouldn't be angry about it. Women have fantasies too, but that's all I'd hear because the only difference with a threesome and just letting her have sex with another man is I'm in bed with him or simply participating. And it must be someone she wants to have sex with, otherwise, why do it? Just sit down with him and talk to him. Ask him to hear what you have to say before he responds and if he says no he says no.

[Asker]

Thanks for sharing your perspective on this, I appreciate it. I'm kind of keen to hear a guy's idea of how this could sound, so thanks for that :)

[Ripper_E]

Well not all guys are like me lol some guys might just be like "I'm not gay" or something like that. I'm not gay either but I understand that women have desires just as men do. I've personally never had a desire for threesomes, even if it's with a woman.

[ColoradoKid]

I can only think that if you offer a threesome with another female it would be better than just one with another guy. Don't be surprised if he doesn't just set there and watch or participates minimally. You also need to prepare yourself to be single for a little bit unless the 3rd party is single and you really want him.

[holidaze]

Just curious, what are you hoping to get out of it, (well, not the obvious reason, heh) What is driving your desire to do this? The feeling of 2 guys at once? The taboo aspect of it? Having two sets of hands roaming all over you? Wanting to see how your boyfriend interacts with another guy in the bed? Something else?

[MackToday]

The answer is you don't or you'll be looking for a new boyfriend unless he's some faggot or cuck in which case you don't really have a boyfriend.

[chriscdi]

all the insecurities that are goin to fly through that mfs head 😂

[Meropatrick]

Scream at him : I WANT A DP

[joshy822]

Open communication!

[CuriousQuestions8423]

It's a sensitive subject at times. It depends on the guy but it can definetly successfully happen as I've had it happen with 2 girls on numerous occasions. What I did was say it bluntly but nicely.

[KrakenAttackin]

That won't go over well. A man would only share his woman with another man if he doesn't give a shit about her.

[Kreese82]

I think you just need to talk to him openly about it

[Kreese82]

If you’ll follow more I have some advice I’d like to keep between us in a pm

[Dvarik]

Ask him if he likes men and if he wants to try cock with you.

[OddBeMe]

Sure, we’re usually more open to it. But not with another guy. I doubt that will fly. If you want to fuck another guy, ask him about a hall pass for both of you.

[wannabe_cuckold_23]

Just talk with him about fantasies you both have, normally make a fun joke about it first but when you have the conversation started tell him your fantasies and see what he thinks you never know he might be into the idea

[Asker]

Any ideas for the joke?

[wannabe_cuckold_23]

You could say that you had a weird dream about him wanting to share fantasies, or maybe say you saw a TV program about couples and their fantasies and just make light jake a out it just to get the conversation started

[engel23]

Good question, is he kind a horny guy? Give him my number I'll do it 👍