Why can’t I get/stay wet?

[Anonymous]

Last night my boyfriend fingered me for the first time. Usually when i masturbate im not wet, like it’s really hard for me to get wet. When he started i was wet, but it didn’t feel like anything, and it didn’t feel good. Just like a finger was in me. and then after a minute or two i wasn’t wet anymore and it started to hurt. Why can’t i stay wet/get wet? i wanted him to do it, and i was turned on until it started to hurt because it was just a little uncomfortable. Is there something wrong with my vagina?

[HeyMikie]

This can happen to any woman and happens to some women on a regular basis. Your general health and age can be a factor as can your menstrual cycle. As far as nutrition goes, zinc is very important for both women and men when it comes to sex. It is necessary for semen production in men and vaginal lubrication in women. You might consider a low dosage zinc supplement. (15mg or less, or a higher dosage once every few days) You might also look into personal lubricants if it continues to be an issue.

[friedofnone]

Some girls just don't get wet like other girls. Some can be dry some can be kinda wet and then some girls can even drip. It's a normal issue for some people to have. Perhaps next time you should enlist the use of lube bit other than that there isn't really much you can do

[Warmapplecrumble]

Hormonal problem. Speak to a doctor.
What are your menstrual cycles like?

Increase fats in your diet and drink more liquids like bone broths, water, orange juice and milk.

[Asker]

they start on different days each time but around the same day, and they last anywhere between 4-7 days, but usually 6 or 7.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Are your cycles regular, is it a 30 day cycle that lasts from 4-7 days? Is there any pain , weight problems etc , ?

[Asker]

usually starts at the beginning of the month but once a year it changes. i’m 5’0 and only 92 pounds if that could mean anything. i can’t really go to the doctor because i don’t live with my mom and she doesn’t take me to the doctor. i’m under 18 so i can’t go on my own to find out if something’s wrong

[Warmapplecrumble]

You can go to a sexual health clinic after school it's free also. Or book an appointment yourself after or in-between school time. You can also talk to your nurse at school. But I don't think there are any problems, when you masturbate are you turned on? And many women use lube, it's not uncommon for women not to get wet. Make sure to read the ingredients as it can cause allergies in some. Also are you of age, since you mentioned you are below 18. You should always practice safe sex and make sure you use condoms, check for STDs and have a back up plan for pregnancy etc.

[Asker]

when i masturbate im never wet, i try everything and all kinds of things but nothing really ever happens. certain things feel good but it still doesn’t make me wet. i’ll try and see if i can get one of my friends to take me. i’m also really educated on safe sex and so if my boyfriend, and he also respects im not ready for it yet. he didn’t even initiate any of the stuff last night, i did lol.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Are you turned on? You need to be turned on otherwise no matter what you rub etc it won't work. Try to increase fats and fluids in your diet don't over do it.

[Asker]

i can never turn myself on, no matter what i’ve tried

[andy530]

Sounds like you have some underlying anxiety about sex and sexual feelings or pleasure. I’d suggest talking to a therapist about this problem

[Warmapplecrumble]

That's the problem. Don't worry. It took me a long time to discover myself in that way. It takes patience and accepting yourself.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Hope you are well and thanks for MHO 💜

[taleets]

Is he turning you on? Or are you more uncomfortable with the whole thing? If you are uncomfortable being sexual with him then that could be why

[Asker]

it was my first time so maybe i was scared? but i was turned on and i wanted it but i just wasn’t wet

[taleets]

You were probably less turned on than you think. If it was your first time then no worries

[CaptainLegal]

Use a water based lube and drink water more often

[andy530]

It’s possible you’re not mentally aroused enough or you loose mental arouseal and experience some level of anxiety that would have this effect

[emperor90]

Some girls get more wetter then other girls

[Anonymous]

Fuck off slut

[Asker]

okay :-)

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're dehydrated