Why can’t I get/stay wet?

Question

Last night my boyfriend fingered me for the first time. Usually when i masturbate im not wet, like it’s really hard for me to get wet. When he started i was wet, but it didn’t feel like anything, and it didn’t feel good. Just like a finger was in me. and then after a minute or two i wasn’t wet anymore and it started to hurt. Why can’t i stay wet/get wet? i wanted him to do it, and i was turned on until it started to hurt because it was just a little uncomfortable. Is there something wrong with my vagina?

Answer 1

HeyMikie | 1.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

This can happen to any woman and happens to some women on a regular basis. Your general health and age can be a factor as can your menstrual cycle. As far as nutrition goes, zinc is very important for both women and men when it comes to sex. It is necessary for semen production in men and vaginal lubrication in women. You might consider a low dosage zinc supplement. (15mg or less, or a higher dosage once every few days) You might also look into personal lubricants if it continues to be an issue.

Answer 2

friedofnone

Xper 1

Some girls just don't get wet like other girls. Some can be dry some can be kinda wet and then some girls can even drip. It's a normal issue for some people to have. Perhaps next time you should enlist the use of lube bit other than that there isn't really much you can do

Answer 3

Warmapplecrumble | 3.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Hormonal problem. Speak to a doctor.
What are your menstrual cycles like?

Increase fats in your diet and drink more liquids like bone broths, water, orange juice and milk.

Asker

11 mo
they start on different days each time but around the same day, and they last anywhere between 4-7 days, but usually 6 or 7.
Warmapplecrumble

11 mo
Are your cycles regular, is it a 30 day cycle that lasts from 4-7 days? Is there any pain , weight problems etc , ?
Asker

11 mo
usually starts at the beginning of the month but once a year it changes. i’m 5’0 and only 92 pounds if that could mean anything. i can’t really go to the doctor because i don’t live with my mom and she doesn’t take me to the doctor. i’m under 18 so i can’t go on my own to find out if something’s wrong
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Warmapplecrumble

11 mo
You can go to a sexual health clinic after school it's free also. Or book an appointment yourself after or in-between school time.
You can also talk to your nurse at school.

But I don't think there are any problems, when you masturbate are you turned on?

And many women use lube, it's not uncommon for women not to get wet. Make sure to read the ingredients as it can cause allergies in some.

Also are you of age, since you mentioned you are below 18. You should always practice safe sex and make sure you use condoms, check for STDs and have a back up plan for pregnancy etc.
Asker

11 mo
when i masturbate im never wet, i try everything and all kinds of things but nothing really ever happens. certain things feel good but it still doesn’t make me wet. i’ll try and see if i can get one of my friends to take me. i’m also really educated on safe sex and so if my boyfriend, and he also respects im not ready for it yet. he didn’t even initiate any of the stuff last night, i did lol.
Warmapplecrumble

11 mo
Are you turned on? You need to be turned on otherwise no matter what you rub etc it won't work.
Try to increase fats and fluids in your diet don't over do it.
Asker

11 mo
i can never turn myself on, no matter what i’ve tried
andy530

11 mo
Sounds like you have some underlying anxiety about sex and sexual feelings or pleasure. I’d suggest talking to a therapist about this problem
Warmapplecrumble

11 mo
That's the problem. Don't worry. It took me a long time to discover myself in that way. It takes patience and accepting yourself.
Warmapplecrumble

11 mo
Hope you are well and thanks for MHO 💜

Answer 4

Asker

they start on different days each time but around the same day, and they last anywhere between 4-7 days, but usually 6 or 7.

Answer 5

Warmapplecrumble

Are your cycles regular, is it a 30 day cycle that lasts from 4-7 days? Is there any pain , weight problems etc , ?

Answer 6

Asker

usually starts at the beginning of the month but once a year it changes. i’m 5’0 and only 92 pounds if that could mean anything. i can’t really go to the doctor because i don’t live with my mom and she doesn’t take me to the doctor. i’m under 18 so i can’t go on my own to find out if something’s wrong

Answer 7

Warmapplecrumble

You can go to a sexual health clinic after school it's free also. Or book an appointment yourself after or in-between school time.
You can also talk to your nurse at school.

But I don't think there are any problems, when you masturbate are you turned on?

And many women use lube, it's not uncommon for women not to get wet. Make sure to read the ingredients as it can cause allergies in some.

Also are you of age, since you mentioned you are below 18. You should always practice safe sex and make sure you use condoms, check for STDs and have a back up plan for pregnancy etc.

Answer 8

Asker

when i masturbate im never wet, i try everything and all kinds of things but nothing really ever happens. certain things feel good but it still doesn’t make me wet. i’ll try and see if i can get one of my friends to take me. i’m also really educated on safe sex and so if my boyfriend, and he also respects im not ready for it yet. he didn’t even initiate any of the stuff last night, i did lol.

Answer 9

Warmapplecrumble

Are you turned on? You need to be turned on otherwise no matter what you rub etc it won't work.
Try to increase fats and fluids in your diet don't over do it.

Answer 10

Asker

i can never turn myself on, no matter what i’ve tried

Answer 11

andy530

Sounds like you have some underlying anxiety about sex and sexual feelings or pleasure. I’d suggest talking to a therapist about this problem

Answer 12

Warmapplecrumble

That's the problem. Don't worry. It took me a long time to discover myself in that way. It takes patience and accepting yourself.

Answer 13

Warmapplecrumble

Hope you are well and thanks for MHO 💜

Answer 14

taleets

Yoda

Is he turning you on? Or are you more uncomfortable with the whole thing? If you are uncomfortable being sexual with him then that could be why

Asker

11 mo
it was my first time so maybe i was scared? but i was turned on and i wanted it but i just wasn’t wet
taleets

11 mo
You were probably less turned on than you think. If it was your first time then no worries

Answer 15

Asker

it was my first time so maybe i was scared? but i was turned on and i wanted it but i just wasn’t wet

Answer 16

taleets

You were probably less turned on than you think. If it was your first time then no worries

Answer 17

andy530 | 4.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

It’s possible you’re not mentally aroused enough or you loose mental arouseal and experience some level of anxiety that would have this effect

Answer 18

CaptainLegal | 831 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Explorer

Use a water based lube and drink water more often

Answer 19

Anonymous

Maybe you're dehydrated

Answer 20

Anonymous

Fuck off slut

Asker

11 mo
okay :-)

Answer 21

Asker

okay :-)

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