How do you feel about Friends with Benefits?

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justathotty · Accepted Answer

Got into it recently, some 8 months ago, had a few friends with benefits since then.

I think if the only thing you are looking for is sex (or something else physical) and you and your friends with benefits are both honest with each other and on the same page about stuff, with good communication skills it will work for some time at least. I don't keep contact with a guy I was with 8 months ago, but I do keep contact with someone from approx. 6 months ago, though not as often as in the beginning.

In my experience, it goes bad once someone starts catching feelings (look for signs of jealousy, wanting to spend time outside the arrangement, being overly romantic, speaking about relationships/your common future) and in this case it is best to bring up the matter and decide whether you should stop seeing them or if you are both more interested in something more serious (wouldn't hop into the latter one too easily myself though, in a relationship you need commitment and trust which friends with benefits don't always have).

In short: talk with your friends with benefits if you're planning on having one, starting petty fights or trying to make the other person jealous lead nowhere!!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I enjoyed friends with benefits situations before I met a great guy to settle down with. I enjoyed having the freedom to do whatever I wanted and not have to report back to someone. I enjoyed not asking for permission to go out somewhere with friends, guy or girl. It was enjoyable most of the time. A lot of my former friends with benefits were a little more than just that, with lots of cuddling and shit.

I wouldn't go back, though.

Red_Arrow · Accepted Answer

If you do not have an SO, and are not looking to settle down yet, but still want sex, it would seem to be the safest and best way to handle it. One person you can rely on for physical satisfaction when you desire it. No bar pick-ups. No hunting the social media hook up sites. Just one reliable person who you can rely on to be safe from STIs.

pierre7i · Accepted Answer

I think it can be really nice -- Ihave enjoyed being sexual with my closest female friend on a number of occasions and each time we have both greatly enjoyed giving sexual pleasure to each other

And we have both found it is actually a special bond between us and has definitely enhanced our friendship 🍊🍆

chrissykerdock · Answer

I just had a session with mine he comes over on Saturday's for blowjobs and I like being able to give them

AzureGirl · Answer

Not something I would ever be interested. I also think it’s something that always bounds to end up messy.

pajamasam · Answer

Sounds really fun.

summiter · Answer

I have had two. One while in college and one while I was in my early 20's. It was way fun to still consider myself "single" but to have sex just about anytime I wanted it (which was frequently (fortunately). It was fun and there were great orgasms for both of us!

bluehen46 · Answer

I have had several it can keep you from getting hurt in a serious relationship if both parties are not ready. It also relieves stress as you need your tubes cleaned out every now and then and you learn for future partners. Sometimes it becomes more. Both have to be on the same page and can't hope it goes more and more and "eventually he will fall in love with me"

Finchie40 · Answer

Nothing wrong with it but it’s usually a 50/50 chance on whether it is going to progress or turn bad but it’s pretty much on the same lines as dating just with the added benefits

nodnol32 · Answer

Its cool. 2 consenting friends who are single.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I believe anyone who wants to do it that is their decision not for me to judge one

emmajaneg · Answer

Not tried it you but it might happen soon?

jgirl99 · Answer

I dont like it, I like having an emotional connection with someone who I'm fucking

OneManOnly · Answer

The friends with benefits have really busted my balls, literally, so I don't think it's a good idea

Jersey2 · Answer

I think it is just one more thing that will ruin life for the Millennials. They will end up lonely without a family in a shifty apartment.

curiousquandry · Answer

Never had the opportunity, but I'm willing to see if I like it or not.

Sazidhassan · Answer

I can't cope with it... If I have sex I also want to be emotionally attached with her... it doesn't suit me

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Immoral, inane, impractical for me; generally not a good idea.

oldermale · Answer

A dear friend if 30+yrs and I had a friends with benefits thing for 3yrs.  Best sex we both ever had we agreed.

crazy8000 · Answer

Nothing in particular. Rarely works in the long run.

dthomas89 · Answer

Relationship, without a label You're actually hurting yourself more, being in this "label", than you are if you were to be broken up with "in a relationship" I guran FUCKING TEE YOU