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Is it normal for guys not to cum every time they have sex?

Maybe it's because I'm not that experienced. Don't get me wrong though, sex with my boyfriend is great. But sometimes he will stop in the middle of it and say he is tired or some other excuse. I really hope it's not because of me. I would also think that guys would tell you if the sex was bad or if I was the reason he couldn't cum.

I don't know... It's making me insecure. However, I dont always cum during sex, but it takes more time for me and that's not really why I have sex to begin with. Maybe he has the same reason, but I just thought it was easier for guys to cum.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Girls can have multiple orgasms in a single session. However guys only shoot their load once and after that they're done so if you've had a lot of sex in a short time the sperm might not be "ready again". Also having a boner for a long time can be quite painful tbh so maybe that's what stopped him from having sex with you. I wouldn't assume that you're doing something wrong because you two had sex before and I assume he did cum before so as long as you haven't changed a lot since then the problem is on his end not on yours. However if he is avoiding sex in general and doesn't want to spend as much time with you as he used to maybe he has other things to think about that keep him from thinking about you and the sex so you might ask him if something is bothering him. If not just give him some time to reproduce some sperm and get ready for another round 😉

    • Yeah like he says my body is amazing and my ass is "wank material". He is always wanting to have sex with me and is always sexual, but he can't always cum. I just couldn't see the connection between the two so I got worried. But he is still interested and with me and sexual so it could be something else.

    • He seems to be in love with you that's for sure so at least you don't have to worry that he is into another girl. So I could imagine that he either has other things going on that stress him to the point that he can't even calm down for some proper sex anymore or he has other issues maybe he prefers something new or something else while having sex and just doesn't know how to tell you or doesn't want to ask you because it might not be your thing or he might have physical issues and should to go to a doctor to check anyway it's definetly not your fault and you don't have to worry. Just give him some time maybe ask him if he is alright and have fun in bed

    • Yeah agree to this

  • It's definitely not normal for a healthy guy to not be able to cum unless he has se kind of physical or medical problem. If he drinks too much alcohol or uses illicit drugs or is on prescription medication these things can interfere with the ability to cum or in some circumstances not even be able to get or keep an erection. If he's uncircumcised and has a problem with a tight foreskin that can cause pain which obviously will hinder his ability to finish to the point of cumming. Personally I never have a problem cumming I may shoot more cum sometimes then others but I always cum. Sometimes I can even go for a second round and cum again. If you want to chat further about it pm me.

Most Helpful Girls

  • My husband is the same, 40% of the time I can't get him to finish for whatever reason. I've found tho that what helps is not to jump into sex too quick. Do any foreplay he likes and switch it up until it seems he can't take it anymore or is getting frustrated. Start slow with the foreplay and slowly crank it up. By the time you crank it up if you're doing it right, he should be ready to go. And then when you do go, make sure you're giving it all you got. Start out with him on top for a minute but finish out with him on the bottom and dont quit the touching and kissing and all that. He may just needs a chnage of sensations and everything happening all at once to get over that hill sometimes. Or he could just be tired

  • it's not normal for him not to cum... just a check are you comfortable around each other? don't answer it but if he's at all nervous around you I can see it... other than that he may have a health issue like diabetes not likely but a possibility... or maybe he fears something all things to check out with yourself and him.

    • Well a girl stomped on my balls and I cummed without masturbati ng

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  • when guys have done that to me, I find out they have another woman they are having sex with, even that day and are able to finish with me... or they are addicted masturbaters and have no sperm left for me.

    • basically their balls are almost empty and they don't have the strength to finish and cum for you.

  • I finish every time pretty easily, as do most guys, as far as I know. This definitely isn't normal, especially assuming he's in your age range.

    • Yeah most guy finish quite early

  • Yeah it's normal they can still orgasm without ejaculating.. it's something a experienced guy does or someone who takes a very long time to ejaculate.

  • I dont know how normal it is but that has happened with my boyfriend too. I used to but don't take it personally any more.

  • If it is frequent then it is kinda of not normal. How often do you two have sex? Is he out of shape or a bit older? Try some lube and lots of foreplay.

  • I get tired, also if I stop myself from cumming so I can last longer I sometimes can't cum at all. Also I feel like general stress sometimes prevents me from finishing and the medication I take interferes with my sexual activity randomly.

    in my opinion foreplay is so important. It really helps out rather than jumping right into sex.

  • No it’s not normal, the point of sex is to make both the man and woman cum..

    For me, woman’s orgasm is the opening scene of my sexual act, then cumming is the closing scene, so if one/both of you don’t cum when you had sex, then I’d say it is a problem.. either he didn’t get enough stimulation or he just bored with you.

    • Agreed

  • There are occasional no-cum sessions.

  • Its not that normal no, a guy really should cum during sex to be honest

  • I dont think it is at least its not my experience and i have quite a lot of experience honey
    Yes they would cum a very little some times but i haven't seen them not cumming tbh

  • i don't think it's normal. from what I know it's usually pretty easy for them to cum.

    i did read somewhere that a guy who masturbates a lot struggles to cum during sex.

    but i don't know a lot about this subject

  • He's probably not all that into you and no guys sometimes have an even harder time to orgasm. It all depends on the guy but I personally need a ton of stimulation

  • Its rare for me not to cum.

  • The only times I haven't cum during sex is when I was interrupted.

  • It is easier than it is for women, but usually we are doing a lot if the work, so we get tired.

  • No that’s not normal

    • Why not?

    • I’ve always came during sex and unless something happens to where we can’t continue at the moment, then I’ve never just stopped.

  • Yeah, especially if he's wearing a condom.

  • No, but there could be a lot of reasons guys don’t cum. Medication was a problem with me for while. But normally, guys should always cum.

  • No, it’s not normal. The point of having sex is to eventually cum.
    There might be different underlying reasons, though. Emotional and physical ones.

  • It's normal for me

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