I’d say just regular friends is what I want friends with benefits isn’t for me
Then you need to make sure you set clear boundaries and expectations, and maintain them. If you're going to be "just friends", you need to keep it JUST FRIENDS. No kissing, no touching, no making out, etc. Once you cross that line, you can't uncross it.
His hold my hand... while in the friendship
I choose your answer as best answer because it’s very informative on what friends with benefits is and what friends are.
Thanks. A lot of people don't seem to understand the concept, so hopefully they'll read my answer...
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So only works temporarily
Anything is possible, so it might grow to something bigger than friends with benefits, but the chances sound extremely thin.
Yeah me and him use date and I did sexual activity with him while dating on the third date. We broke up because he didn’t want to be with me and it seems like his Interested and I keep rejecting him when he asks me back out he wants the benefits.. an sexual relationship. I don’t know if it’s best to go for that. I did have a taste of causal sex last month for the first time his an virgin. And I’m not.. his jealous... and mad about me doing that.
But both not wanting an relationship
Personally, I only want a LTR.
True... he thinks the benefits will work but I don’t because of the attraction.
We didn’t work as a on/off couple dating causally, I wouldn’t give him sex only sexual activity in dating and his the type to have fun with...
So I told him we not friends with benefits
Why you don't wan to
Not my idea of a relationship... got used for casual sex the first time I did it but wouldn’t do friends with benefits... I prefer sex in a relationship with someone that is interested in me
Liked ur thought
Then you also don't sext
Yeah I don’t sext... I rather not let myself be used and taken for granted again... I had to remove him off social media he asked me why than he said all good... I don’t want an guy like him in my life..
I really say your thoughts are like me in this
Can we talk in pm if u are comfortable and if u think i am creep so you can leave
Sure we can
I’ve feelings for him but never tried it in real life not sure if he does for me he shows signs of being interested. We both don’t want the relationship with one other but he wants the benefits after me rejecting him, but we haven’t done anything sexual together as friends before.
okay, interesting, so decide if you want the friends with benefits or not is all i can say 😂
Yeah would it work if I had feelings for him but not wanting a relationship? His the type of guy to have fun with.
well if you want but just know you won't be the only one he would be fucking so if you know that it wouldn't bother you if you acknowledge he is having any kind of affair with another girl then i guess go for it.
His an virgin and I’m not I had a taste of causal sex... with another guy he got jealous, it feels good but I don’t want to go crazy with it. I use date him... and his idea of a relationship was the benefits. He wants a sexual relationship. I’ve done sexual activity while I was dating him so, should I go for it?
well he is a virgin but when he is not, you'll basically be opening doors for him, like i said if it won't bother you if he has sex with other women then yea go for it but im sure if he feels it once he will wanna keep doing it and he is going to want to fuck other women too ha
I want to make him wait...
um alright make him wait ig, i believe you are his closest door to loosing his virginity right now, something else you can do is have sex with him one and then keep your distance to try and avoid getting anymore attached
Me and him see each other once a week at a program but he wanted to hold my hand. I already have some attraction for him but he only wants a bit of sex with me and I want the sexual activity again and he doesn’t think we can be regular friends tbh but thinks we would be good as friends. If it does happen I hope it’s good while it lasts cause I don’t think it work.
well if you are emotionally attracted to him as well you will have a hard time with friends with benefits because after all if he wasn't going to fuck other women then he probably wouldn't have had a problem with starting a relationship with you, sounds like he is planning to clap all kinds of cheeks after you take his virginity, who knows, maybe he wants you to take it cause you are a good friend and a good girl and well who wouldn't want to loose their virginity to a girl thats worth loosing it too, better than some random thot, maybe he is waiting to loose it to you so he can go around doing shit, it would explain why he wouldn't want a relationship with you but would still want to have sex with you. 🤷🏻♂️
That’s why I want to make him wait... only seen him 6 times in person... and known him for 2 years...
make him wait? why? what difference would that make lol
He was an random I went out with... so I wouldn’t give it to a random guy.
And I don’t feel comfortable yet
huh? i thought you lost your virginity, im confused
if youve known him for 2 years thats not a stranger lol
Yeah but I lost my virginity to an guy I known for 7 years and I known him for 2 years...
well he wants to loose it to you apparently, maybe try just doing it to get it over with or something, because who knows, maybe he will change his mind
Than he said yes we are ok after I said we not friends with benefits
ok so whats the problem? lol
Think I just want to be regular friends
alright then its settled, just tell him that if he keeps trying to have sex with you
Yeah ok than
I’m not open to it but was just wondering I prefer not to have sex though with an benefit prefer an relationship
friends with benefits can ruin a friendship or make it better but both guy and girl have to set ground rules so there is no issues
True I prefer regular friends... a guy I use to date wanted to go back out with me for sex than I rejected him and he asked me for a sexual relationship and friends with benefits I said no to him...
And other guys that ask me to be friends with benefits I always say no
i would not ask to start with lol im to shy and would have probs lol
Not opened to it he dumped me four months ago didn’t want be with me doesn’t want a relationship i set my boundaries to just friends with guys
Oh true I wouldn’t try it... don’t want to get used and abused ever again..
That's your choice but we never used or abused each other. It was an agreement between friends nothing more.
I tried causal sex for the first time he asked me if I want date him I said no and he convinced me into it and throw him self on me after I said yes to it was making me feel good thinking his interested but wasn’t.. for used for it didn’t see him again he now has a girlfriend a week later after it so I cut off communication
Casual sex is different to fwbs
I wouldn’t be friends with benefits... and have causal sex again
But was with someone I knew for years and he sexual assaulted someone in school... and is a fuckboy...
That was bad
Yeah but I don’t regret it I treat others how they treat me
Ok I wouldn’t be friends with benefits with any guy
ohh ok no problem