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  • I don't find this to be true; it certainly isn't for me and I don't have evidence of it in general. My girlfriend and I were both virgins when we started dating, and being able to share that first time together was an amazing experience.

    If I had to generalize people's sexual experience and preferences regarding your question, there would be four types:

    1. The Newbie
    Has little to no experience, prefers inexperienced partner.

    This is where I was not too long ago, the rationale being that sex is something special that should only be shared strictly between people who trust and respect (and, ideally, love) each other. Of course, people can be this way for a variety of reasons (just like any other alignment); for example, it might be out of a sense of fairness or fear of being taken advantage of.

    2. The Expert
    Has experience, prefers experienced partner.

    This is someone who knows what (s) he wants and is looking to get it, possibly manifested in the form of a player, although not necessarily averse to relationships.

    3. The Student
    Has little to no experience, prefers experienced partner.

    This person might be scared of having sex for the first time, or just trying new things related to it (different positions, kinks, etc.), and therefore wants someone to serve as a guide through the process.

    4. The Teacher
    Has experience, prefers inexperienced partner.

    Here we have someone whose goal is to introduce others to the world of sexual pleasure, possibly to be able to show them what it means to be treated right, or maybe just out of a desire for control.

    Basically, everyone has different sexual preferences when it comes to experience, just like any other factor. These are broad categories to help you get a sense of what people are looking for and what some of their motivations might be, but there's much more to it than can fit into four boxes. Look for someone whose goals complement yours — regarding this as well as everything else, really — and you'll be setting yourself up for a happy, healthy relationship!

    • This was a well-written answer.

    • @Jamie05rhs thank you! I didn't mean for it to be so long at first, but I got a bit carried away and figured it could help someone so I might as well complete it lol

    • Very well thought out answer... big thumbs up to you

  • He might not want to bother dating a virgin because virgins are often "saving" themselves for marriage. I wouldn't waste time on someone who wasn't planning to have sex at some point. I wouldn't consider marrying someone without having a sexual relationship with them first. I couldn't trust someone enough to marry them if they didn't first trust me enough to give themselves fully.

    If she wasn't saving herself for marriage, that changes things. I would gladly date a sweet, inexperienced girl if she was eager to experience sex and become a woman. We would have to talk about it. I'd want to know if she masturbates; if she orgasms, if she is on birth control; if she is emotionally ready to become a woman. It would even be great to hear some of her fantasies. I want a woman who is erotic (that's not the same as kinky). At that point, I'd be happy to be gentle, caring and sensual, and make her first time special. It would be an honor. It's a big step for a girl.

    The only reason a girl would disclose that she is a virgin would either be to signal that she doesn't plan to have sex until marriage or to make sure that the guy will treat her right and make her first time enjoyable and special. The second scenario is absolutely rational, acceptable and understandable. Her first time SHOULD be enjoyable and special.

    Who knows, the experience might lead to a deeper relationship and even marriage in the future. But sex cannot be predicated on marriage. Marriage can't be purchased with pussy. And sex doesn't guarantee a life-long, "happily ever after" fairy tale. Neither does marriage.

Most Helpful Girls

  • unfortunately guys aren't in it for love they're in it for sex and pleasure which is the same... I say it but I say it with remorse because love is most important sex lasts for the moment and that's it... I feel sorry for the human race.

    • Yeah.. One of those assumptions and rumors that isn't even the slightest true 😉

    • Check your self. You should say ,, some,, guys Not guys are in it just for sex. Also men are not the only gender that desires sex this much that is a stereotype.

    • Leave her alone, guys. She has a valid point and you know it.

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  • My boyfriend only really likes virgin girls because he doesn't take sex lightly and he sees it as a valuable thing like me. He's also a virgin. We plan to lose it to each other soon in the most romantic way possible. Don't give up!!!

    • Thanks

    • I hope you guys know what you're doing.

    • I'm on the pill and we're using a condom:)

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  • Sorry to here that is how it is today. When I was in High School my girlfriend was not ready. We graduated virgins, that does not mean we did not have a lot of fun together!

  • plenty do. don't generalise.

    • So would you date a virgin?

    • all I've dated are virgins. well, until they met me XD

    • Lol...

  • Been a long time since I met one!

  • Virgins are overrated. I'll just leave it at that... otherwise I'll have to go into detail lol

  • how does the guy you date know whether or not your a virgin? lots of guys want to date virgins so they do not have to worry about getting a sexually transmitted disease from a whore or a slut ! thanks

  • I have to guess here that guys are pathetic and see others gettign what they want without any commitment or work, so they want that too.

    In other words, they figure they can "get some" someplace, and if she's a virgin, then that isn't gonna happen, so they don't bother. These guys are following the other pathetic guys.

    That leaves some subset of guys and virgins to date. there are virgin guys by the way. and there are people who want to wait for marriage and such.

    Our societies have declined in values and just a few "spoiled apples" spoils quite a few more... Don't grade everyone by the same pen though, there are still people with values that value the person.

  • They're a hassle. 🤷😱

  • Takes too long to talk them into having sex.

  • A lot of guys expect to hook up by the third date

    • Ikr...

    • You’ll find a guy who respects you

    • I hope so

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  • The question is based on a false premise. Guys do not avoid dating virgins any more than girls avoid dating virgins, in my opinion. You make the assumption that all guys are like the handful of guys you know. You’re not the only one it is very frequent on these pages no matter what topic, that people over generalize and paint huge numbers of people being a certain way, based on the way only a few are. It’s called stereotyping, and it never leads to anything good. I would never avoid dating someone because I thought they were a virgin, so there’s that. 😎

  • I mean I don't avoid virgins, I also don't seek them out. Virginity is fairly meaningless to me.

  • Because usually virgins don’t stay committed after they have sex , they feel like they are missing out on having sex with other people so usually the relationship ends cuz the y want to explore once they realize how amazing sex was , usually a non virgin already did the exploring so they are more prone to staying committed to someone

  • The lack of experience? Or perhaps having to be the first one is to much for them.

  • The only logical reason I can think of comes from a relationship I had with a virgin. This girl wanted me to teach her how to be what I liked.. which meant that the burden of our relationship succeeding fell completely on my ability to communicate what I wanted and her ability to learn.. love and sex are not text-book. People need to BE compatible, not LEARN obedient compatibility.. there was no way of knowing if this girl enjoyed the same things I did because she only knew what I liked. I want to know that my partner and I “click.” Passion comes often from being excited by your partner.. but it’s hard to be excited about something you planned out and basically choreographed move by move in the romance department.

  • Players don't want virgins, a descent man deserves the woman he wants to spend his life with to be one. Throw away your virginity for fun and your future husband will now have to settle for a second hand woman and he does so with resentment.

  • Right or wrong, guys expect a sexual component to relationships. Perhaps not intercourse, but "productive" sexual intimacy in a reasonable time. For a man, "romance" is just a temporary cover for sexual desire. Dating without sexual intimacy, or the future promise of it, is sterile. Men make better friends for men.

  • Most guys like dating and having sex with former virgins.

    Most guys are not as keen on dating and not having sex with virgins.

    Guys who want to hook up and move on may suspect virgins either won't hook up fast, or if they do, will get emotionally attached right away.

  • Guys get the same treatment, just look at the "desperate male virgin" stereotype.

    Society generally seems to view it as something bad for some reason...

  • They want experience. I personally don't care if she has none and never becomes "good" at it. If I want her, I want her.

  • When did I ever tell you that I would not date you?

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