Why does my guy friend always want to talk about sexual things when we're both married?

He's my friend. We're both married. He always steer conversation to sexual (texsting, chatting in person). He asks jokingly, indirectly about me but never talk about himself. When people tell him it's not ok, he says he just likes to talk about it and he wouldn't take it any further than talking with any woman since he has sex at home when ever he want it.
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  • Honestly, I like talking about sex. Sex is something we can all relate to and we can learn from one another, even without getting physical. I wouldn't look too deeply into it, he just sounds like he wants to talk and see if there is something he can change in the bedroom to try on his lady.

  • He is probably looking for some side action and grooming you towards it with this talk. If you are not comfortable with it you need to lay down the law and tell him to stop for that reason.

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  • He is testing the waters
    Finding out if you laugh along with his jokes, or go along with the conversation.
    He is most likely a cheater and wants to know if you are interested in cheating with him.
    Does he have the balls (stupidity) to talk the same way in front of your husband?

  • Either he likes you more than a friend would. Seems the more probable option.
    Or, he want to talk about it to get advice or something. Cause he can't get serious talks from his guy friends.
    Or.. he's got some bad humor going on and just can't control what he says.

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  • Maybe he's testing your boundaries

  • If you're age given here is correct, you know perfectly well why he always wants to talk about sexual things.
    Proceed with caution.

    • I will be cautious. The age is correct, and it's realy hard to explain why I'm not sure about his intentions. My gut is telling me it's something fishy but I was raised very conservative and I'm married for 20 years and in all that time never had any closer interaction with any man that is not my husband's friend and always in his presence so that is why I'm not sure about my judgment. Not that I wasn't alowed but it just happend like this. This guy I know from free time activity that I attend by myself. We know eachother for 5 years, but last 2 texting and all that time he's pushing boundaries from acquaintances to casual friendship to close friendship.

    • He sounds like the kind of guy who is sex obsessed. Not all men are like this, but this idea of men always being obsessed with sex exists for a reason, and that reason is men like him. He's going to slowly keep pushing his luck with you until one day you're alone together and he can try and make a move on you, probably after he's had a few drinks so he has an excuse if you turn him down. If you don't want this, you need to be clear with him about boundaries and his flirtatious nature doesn't make you feel comfortable.

  • Ask him if he will let you confirm with wife that she is okay with him flirting like this.

  • Yeah that's bullshit, he's testing the waters with you to see if you're the kind of married woman that would cheat. It's gauging your interest and he'll keep pushing the boundaries as much as you allow.

  • If you’re not having sex, you might at least like to talk about it. Maybe his spouse is not adventurous enough to talk about sex with him.

  • He might be unhappy with his sex life, maybe he's just salacious like that. Some people just like talking about sex because they're into it.

  • You're in the beginning stages of an affair. Beware. 🧟‍♂️

  • I think it depends on the context. He might just have a platonic interest in some of those topics or he might be trying to flirt with you.

    If you feel bad, think about what you would be comfortable hearing your husband say to another woman as a gauge.

  • He's behaving inappropriately.
    Drop him.

  • He wants you bad

    I would stay away from him if I were you

    • Good call

  • If it bothers you, tell him and stop responding. If he continues then block him.

  • Who knows but you shouldn't talk about stuff like that with other guys.
    Keep that private between you and you husband.

  • Cuz he wants to have sex with you and cheat on his wife

  • Record the conversation sometime and tell him if he does not stop you will ask his wife to tell him to stop.

  • Probably he's perverted, seems kind of weird really under the circumstances.

  • There are 3 main reasons.
    1. He wants to have sex with you.
    2. He wants advice from a female. Because he's own sex life sucks.
    3. He's just a creep.

    So, you should talk to him about it. Ask him straight why he's doing this. After that take any decision.

  • Because your like one of the boys to him and he feels comfortable with u.. or it's a subtle hint and he's feeling the situation out seeing your reaction

  • That's highly inappropiate. I doubt your husband or his wife would be okay with that, so don't let him.

  • y'all married, simple as that

  • ... Because males and females are not actually friends. Unless there is literally no attraction on the part of the male aimed toward the female. You two being married is irrelevant.

    No idea how this is something that is magically so confusing to females.

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