How many dates should I have before sex?

[ScottStevens]

Let's change "sex" to "intimate". You two have changed your friendship phase into a together thing and seem to be enjoying the change. The question now is are both of you ready to be intimate, that includes emotionally. Are you willing to give your partner everything you know about yourself and he the same. If you don't think this way, the transition from friend to lover is really difficult. Time to have a really nice dinner date in a quiet restaurant where you can start the dialogue of being more to each other. Include what you expect from this "new" standing, and he should be able to share with you the same.

My bet is the evening goes so well both of you can't wait to get home and explore more than just your bodies!

Best Wishes

[egarcia1360]

There is no magic number of dates, months, or anything else.

The factors you should look for (assuming you want a serious long-term relationship) are trust, respect, and love, all of which are closely interconnected but slightly different. These form the foundation for a solid line of communication, which is crucial throughout a relationship in general, and especially during sex. If, for each of those words, you can genuinely and confidently say to yourself, "I _______ this man," you should be able to have sex without regretting it.

[Cynicaldreamer]

When it feels right. There's no set timeframe for that sort of thing.
Personally I'd recommend waiting until you're sure he's serious and wants a relationship with you and isn't just after sex or a friend with benefits. If he pushes it too much, or before you're ready, that should be your red flag right there.

"Would having sex early in the relationship turn him down faster?" Yes and no. Too soon and he might not take you seriously.
But some men get impatient and assume if you don't sleep with them after x amount of dates, you're not interested 🙄

It's finding a balance. If/when the subject comes up, just let him know what you want and expect and go from there.

[Daniela1982]

If you have to ask strangers you probably are not ready for it.

[AustinMan]

When the emotional connection is strong enough, have sex, but not before. It's not about time. It's about connection.

[Bongem]

When you both are ready, it will just happen. Should you block it? I don't think so. If the guy is only interested in this... well if you are not saving yourself for "the one", you'll maybe have a good experience (or not) but is it really that "heavy" as a thing you could do? This depends on how you feel about it. If you want to have sex with him and he wants you... well, there are no guidelines about how long you have to wait really. I waited with in a previous relationship for 5 years before she was ready and in another... well first date... still together, so it really doesn't matter if you are trying to figure out if the relationship will break because of it or not. Go with your feeling at the moment I would say.

[opnbuk59]

It depends if you in your heart feel here's a keeper long term lead to marriage follow your heart listen to it women are very intuitive trust your instincts if you feel good about in gift date do it second third it's up to the 2 of you no pressure never forced mutual always

[Dargil]

I've always thought the first two dates were interviewing.
Goodnight kiss on the third. This is the vote of confidence or no confidence.
After that, a slow-walk the bases on dates 4 through 9 through mutual oral/69.
Then decide where to do the deed. It can be yes, not yet/ready/until marriage, even never.

[Caleb103]

What is your opinion on a 6 and a half inch dick to 7 inches (hard)? ↗

[justasking247]

If you feel like having it on the first date go for it. Don't give him a BJ on the first date second or third make him wait for that. Having sex on the first date is okay but giving a BJ will make you look like a hoe. You're grown so you do grown people things and if you want to have sex go forward. Just don't be too nasty because believe me we tell our buddies then make him wait a month after

[R4vedave]

However long until you feel comfortable. There's no specific number, everyone is different and everyone has their own boundaries and limits. It depends on how you feel, not some "right" answer, because it reality it's completely subjective.

[slatyb]

Sex is sex. You can't trade sex (or anything else) for love. And no, having sex too early won't make him leave. Nor will it make him stay. He'll stay if he enjoys being with you, and leave if he doesn't. So if you want to have sex and he's willing, then do it, enjoy it, and don't regret it.

[Smccoy217]

I would argee with the other comments. I always thought it was 3 also. Lol according to 'how I met your mother' anyway. Looking back, it has almost always been 3 ish.

[theronaldmcdonald]

Girl, do whatever feels right! If you’re both ready and the moment feels right go for it. Don’t worry about it too much.

[R_ūshī]

As many or as little as you need and want🤷‍♀️

It doesn't matter in my opinion

[MannySimms]

Oh, stop.
Really?

[justjared]

As long as u feel like u should. Tbh I waited 3 dates b. c I was scared to ask.

[Shamalien]

The earlier a girl gives up sex, the less a guy respects her. This isn't usually conscious, but it's easy to observe all around you if you understand this dynamic.

If a guy leaves because you won't give up sex soon enough, he wasn't that invested. Once a girl fucks a guy, she really has no way of knowing whether he's really into her or not.

[jacket_off]

If it's a one night stand then its over right there. He has to do more than just earn it. That learning you as a person. But if u really don't need a man and just testing out his cock then its up to you. A dude not gonna say wait. Unless he has herpes. Lol

[katjmj]

It depends between you two. If it feels about right, it wouldn't matter when you have sex. Just make sure you're on the same page and want the same endgame from this.

[luciferz]

Chances are that he will turn you down after the sex but depends on what are his preference with you and how much he is really looking for you and him together in future

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Has nothing to do with number of dates.. has everything to do with the connection you two have! The right guy will wait as long as it takes or he won't think less of you if you have sex right away!

[brittany23]

As many as you feel you need, numbers are just numbers. You'll know when it's time

[Samantha_17]

There is no rules when it comes to relationships and sex :)

[Twalli]

3 months if neither of you is a virgin. 6 months if either of you are.

[dthomas89]

They say, 3. That the third date, is the sex date, but, it's just a GUIDELINE

[collegestudent96]

That’s up to you and what you feel. You could on the first date or on third or tenth, whatever you want. Just make sure it’s what you want

[R_Cakes91]

Have sex whenever you want. If he really likes you, it won’t matter when you have sex

[SarahsSummer]

I'ts not a set number of dates. You wait until you feel ready and comfortable in the relationship. But you want to "turn him down"?

[Thatsamazing]

Uh... as many or as few as you want. But if you just tease him and lead him on or whatever without ever putting out or putting out soon enough, he's going to get bored of you.

[KrakenAttackin]

If I was your date I would say, no more than two hours. ;)

[Pallavi37]

Doesn't matter. We can have sex on first date also or not till last date also. Depends on partner and your mood

[kim45456]

Till marriage. If he can't wait till then, he is not the right one

[Anonymous]

Usually a girl who puts out fast shows her worth and loses all value.
But you have known him for over a year.
These rules don't apply.

[Grkgod12]

Its your choice.
But, what are the reasons you are waiting?

[DiscomfortZone]

One. We dump you because of lack of sexual chemistry, not because of "losing interest after sex". Have sex soon - find out if you're compatible soon.

[topur]

As many dates as until marriage. Just my personal opinion..

[theCobbler]

there's no such thing, as 3rd date, 4th date for Sex ! Wait til it feels right, and you're both really ready!

[honestGUY45]

I think the idea to wait before having sex is to get to know the person. If you've already known him for a year, then I'd say you're ready now.

[wyzb_ondmyears]

When it's time, you'll know... but if he doesn't stick around until you're ready, he isn't worth it anyways.

[Anonymous]

You already know him so any amount of dates doesn’t matter, it’s when ever you want to at this point when you feel comfortable

[Cannuck22]

until you feel comfortable. Don’t let him pressure you

[ManFriday]

I fund dates give me the runs, so probably best to avoid them.

[OlderAndWiser]

What do you mean by "turn him down faster?"

[Miristheiss]

3 months worth to a year.

[bigshark21ft]

It depends on the attraction and how horny you are.

[admles]

As many as you need to feel comfortable to sleep with him.

[Anonymous]

I say whenever your pussy is craving to be filled with a hard dick and cum, you should just let it happen :)

[Nice222]

Talk to him about it. And I would say once you are both comfortable

[samismsm]

Why you think in sex now.. wait till marriage honey

[JesseJayNeak]

I would at least wait for 5-10 dates. There's no need to rush

[Anonymous]

Whenever you feel ready and want to. All my relationships have started from early sex.

[Anonymous]

Enough dates that lead to a normal opposite-sex marriage, before having sex. We're now in the final days, and we have to concentrate on pleasing God.

[mustangwhiskey]

0? Depends on how you feel.

[Meatunnel69]

After about 5 dates i think intercourse is fair

[lucas262]

All the ones prior to a ring

[Nades]

Can you help me figure out a girl?

[elizamichale1]

I usually do it at 1st or 2nd lol

[AlongCameCindy]

I don't think there is rules, go with the vibe.

[saggittarius039112]

3s the standard

[Laozi]

Whenever you both are ready.

[Anonymous]

As many as you need to feel comfortable enough.

[Titanic1912]

You should get married first before having sex.

[BasicBad]

Have sex before first date