Why is it so many guys seem to forget they have a tongue and a finger and can buy toys?

[Boppy]

A lot of the talk about women preferring bigger dicks leads people to think that if they're born with the right size and shape, their partner will enjoy it and be satisfied.

Overall, the dick stuff is kinda dehumanizing. People feel like they're judged by just that part and if it disappoints, they are not a good man and are due to be replaced. For example, the penis commonly called his "manhood" and people are mocked for being small. I guess that mindset hits harder with something like a sex toy bigger than them. If their partner can get off with a big toy dick and can't get off with theirs, it's proof that another man could get her off while having piv sex.

I say it's dehumanizing because it doesn't take into account the emotional parts of the relationship. Stuff life communication and enjoying a partner's pleasure are awesome, I imagine.

[Bongem]

Because in the mind of the man, sadly, that's how he thinks he can be different and better from other guys. Every guy can use a tongue, finger or toy, but not every guy has the same dick. That being said: I want to emphasize here for the male readers:

pleasure her with your fingers by focusing on her enjoyment and not the "depth".
Write words with your tong on her special place and trust me, she'll honor you with a nice concerto.
And last but not least: don't be to proud to show her that you care by buying some toys, because, when you follow these three rules, trust me, she'll be able to show you how much she appreciates what you do for her in her own magical ways. You'll be "her man" and only hers!

[WhiteShoulder]

God yes!

Pincers can be applied gently to one or two parts of your body (maybe even two at once) to make them swell up until they get all stiff and aching, but after that they'll be REALLY hot and you'll need a nice soothing lobster tongue to cool them down.

Of course, that might make other parts of your body hot (not to mention somewhat damp), but that's life...

[Duckysback]

I'm guessing it comes from the mindset that their own satisfaction is more important than third partner's.

"I'm gonna stick my dick in there because it's warm and wet and feels good." Rather than "I'm gonna make you fun so hard you black out"

[FancyPantzzz]

because we're selfish and dont care about ur pleasure,
we jus care about ourselfs... and a finger or tongue.. doesn't feel as personal... it feels kinda like she's rejecting us for tongue or finger... if we can make her cum with dick instead it feels more she came to us... and not cheated on us with the finger or tongue... u know what i mean?
we jus wanna feel accepted / desired /wanted... not want her to find our finger or tongue more attractie... that makes us sad and feel like were not good enuff to make her cum... u know what i mean?
i have trouble explaining myself

[Dongtai]

Because our fingers and tongues don’t make us men. Some guys correlate their comfort with their dicks with their adequacy as a man. Too small, not a man. Can’t last long in bed, not a man. It’s the same reason why some girls are insecure about their vaginas. Sure she could use her hand or mouth to make a guy cum, but what difference does that make if the guy doesn’t like her vagina? She’ll still feel inadequate if he isn’t satisfied with her vagina and how she used it.

[0112358]

I think that’s good advice but doesn’t change the fact that a significant percent of women actually prefer to orgasm via intercourse. I would suggest most women find persistent premature ejaculation somewhere between a disappointment and a frustrating waste of time.
My sense is this becomes more true fairly rapidly with age and experience. If you two are each other’s first partner everything is hot and exciting compared to masturbation.

[genericname85]

why do women always seem to forget that there are muscles in their lower belly and pelvis area that she can use to make things feel good for him AND herself? so many questions xD

i do love fingering and licking or even toying her, if she's into that xD no idea if there was ever a guy who didn't like that. can't imagine a straight guy not to be into it to be honest.

[Jaycrowe]

Shyt I love using toys... using toys n watchin n listening to her sound n feels fukn sexy... she has a 8in dildo a butterfly vibrator a bullet vibrator n I hav extension n wear a thong juss for her tho... Nobody knows unless she snitches on me bt yeah find someone like me dat little to play (with ur body)

[wyzb_ondmyears]

I just always use my tongue and finger first until she's had a couple before I even start, and I've never came before her once I put it in even if it was quick. I only know that because every woman I've had sex with ended up squirting even when they didn't know they could.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao this made me laugh so hard 😂 i loved my ex but he wasn't the most impressive down there and he wasn't a great kisser or licker or fingerer. But he was good at talking dirty so that distracted me enough haha. I dont like sex toys so nahh

[reptocarl]

All your age are piss poor lovers and don’t know shit

[mrmonogamous]

I wife is not so into fingers as much as my tongue. She is totally close minded to toys (except me!). And quite honestly, I consider myself an artist with my tongue!

[Anonymous]

I don't know maybe they're just lazy

Vote here please: Girls - Do you find this guy attractive?

[bangyourhead]

Would you be satisfied if the only way you came from a guy was with his fingers?

[adi_369]

When you aren't with your partner and you get high drive.. sex toys are the best options rather that sexting to anyone else or doing something that gonna ruin the relationship.

[MannySimms]

Really? Home schooled? Did you drop this?

[Meropatrick]

To us guys we see that our dick is everything. I mean it spares us the labor of thinking sometimes and thinks for us

[Cannuck22]

Why because there are many guys that don’t care. They only really care if they get off. Then you have guys that are jus inexperienced, shy and not adventurous.

[morganlove]

Not sure on this one. Once I figured out she got off on my tongue and wasn't worried about how long I lasted, it opened a whole new world for me.

[HeyMikie]

Excellent point! I've given more orgasms with my tongue than with all of my other body parts combined. LOL!

[goodlongman]

You are correct mouth and hand and brain works every time

[Silence00]

Clueless about their own brilliance and rage of it.

[BrexitAteMyLobster]

I only have pincers 😞

[Anonymous]

It is same when girls ask about boob size or did you ever cum from penetration...

[billluc69]

i love the tongue and fingers and toys for both him and her

[Anonymous]

You're asking this question on the most socially and sexually backward site on planet Earth.
Think "Sue"
Guys in the real world know what's what.

[beebella]

I agree with you, mom.

[chriscdi]

what a bunch of donuts

[sophiejo]

Amen👌👌 so many guys seem to forget

[CaptainLegal]

I almost always use toys with my girlfriend

[StarGayle]

They are ridiculous

[dvp734]

I love eating a girl out and fingering her.

[COMMODOREII]

That's why i got mine. 😂😂

[yourpsychosuburban]

Cause they don't know how to use either😭

[Plitty-Tank]

Maybe men think the women should ask.

[CubaPirate]

Not guilty ma lady!

[Anonymous]

Absolutely!