If you're sexually aroused by a person getting humiliated/mocked over a body part, does it mean you find their body part unattractive?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I voted F, but D is probably going to be true as well.

Understand that, when it comes to humiliation play, the point is for the "bottom" (the person who receives the attention) to be humiliated, REGARDLESS of what they look like. They could look like your absolute perfect ideal of the opposite sex, and you could still humiliate them based on their body, by mocking their "strengths". The idea is to get the job done (which is to humiliate them), because IT TURNS THEM ON. It has absolutely nothing to do with how you (the "top") actually feels about those body parts or the person themselves.

It's no different if I call a girl my "dirty little whore". Do I think she's actually a dirty little whore? Probably not, or I wouldn't be sleeping with her, but many girls get aroused by "being dirty" and are able to set aside their sexual guilt (taught to them by parents or religion) and be sexually free IF someone is already treating them and talking to them like a whore - it's like they don't need to worry about their reputation, because it's already as bad as it can be, so they can "let loose" and actually enjoy sex. It doesn't mean I think she's actually a dirty whore.

There's a reason why the BDSM community refers to such interactions as a "scene" - because people are often acting out things that they're overwhelmed by or afraid to share in other contexts - and when it's over, their partner will often give them "aftercare", which can be as simple as a hug or a pat on the head up to cuddling or letting them cry on your shoulder. It's cathartic and it's an important completion to a scene most of the time. And part of that aftercare is to help reassure them that anything that might have seemed "mean" or "cruel" in the moment wasn't actually how they see you. And remember that the "bottom" normally asks for what they want, or specifically seeks out a Dom/Master who has experience doing the things that they want - it's not like the Dom/Master gets a random girl and just does whatever he likes with her.

Have you ever seen a video made by Kink. com? At the start of every scene, the girls are interviewed and asked what experiences they want to have, what limits they have, how to communicate their safeword (s), and so forth. And after the scene (and aftercare) is done, they interview them again to find out their perspective of how the scene went. That's the kind of thing that's done with "proper" or knowledgable BDSM participants, regardless of cameras.

Sensmind · Accepted Answer

I am thinking of sph here "Small Penis Humilation" - I thinkk most of these just seekthe numiliation as a way to get off - A small penis just gives mistress something to focus on - I don't think guy cares about size of his penis

kangy · Accepted Answer

as long as it is negative behaviour like humiliation it will not get me excited.

Natattack21 · Answer

OR, you have a fetish...

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I don't find humiliation arousing. I wouldn't want to be with anyone that does.

Girther10 · Answer

At first glance I thought you said “please read all options before vomiting”... which actually makes more sense than what you wrote... lol

zvedavy · Answer

It can be fetish... I think, if somebody has some kind of body part fetish, they would like it

0112358 · Answer

Yeah it’s actually E to F for me. F is common enough I voted for it.  And I’d want my partner to actually know I felt that way.

mrkdvsn · Answer

I've never been aroused by anything associated with BDSM or humiliation/embarrassment.

Plitty-Tank · Answer

That doesn't arouse me. I think it doesn't mean they are always unattractive to them if they mock it.

selfdestruction · Answer

Nope.

GuHadoSa · Answer

Not really. I've talked to some girls (in real life) who do sph with their bf's and they actually find it quiet amusing. It's not like they don't like their bf's dick, they just like the power they get from doing sph and how aroused their bf's get.