Why does he keep giving in to the unprotected sex if he doesn’t want to get me pregnant?

[nightdrot]

Speaking as a man with three children born out of wedlock - don't worry, my girlfriend and I are in a very settled relationship - it may be a combination of factors, one of which is obvious, the others less so. One being that it simply feels good. Condoms are not awful, but the physical warmth and sense of connection when I feel myself inside a woman is just intense.

The others being a little less obvious. For a man, the idea of getting a woman pregnant, even when they intellectually know that they don't want to, is a turn-on. It is for me, gosh knows. When my girlfriend looks into my eyes and says, "Put a baby in me," as silly as it sounds, it wildly turns me on. It appeals to me at the most base instinctive animal level.

To put my sperm inside a fertile woman and sire offspring is a natural evolutionary desire. It is how the species has survived several hundred thousand years and it really is arousing to many guys.

The other thing - and there is no way to know without knowing him and you - is that it may be for him a way to show that he likes you and to keep you with him. That may be conscious or unconscious, but you cannot completely rule out that he really wants a baby with you.

Not likely, but not impossible either.

Most likely it is just how good it feels to him and he is not stopping to think, in the moment, what the consequences might be. The unconscious motives are legion - he may even just want sex and does not want anything to stop him. He may really want - again consciously or not - to get you pregnant. Certainly that is a natural male instinct, though most men have more self-control, except perhaps in the moment.

For your part, you need to decide what you want. You too have a natural instinct, born of evolution, to carry offspring and give birth. Odd though it may sound. However, you cannot be a slave to that instinct but must think things through and act - or not - accordingly.

If you get pregnant, enjoy the beautiful gift that you have been given. Cherish and love the little life you will carry and hold in your arms.

Here, let me stop to tell you another part of my story. I have actually gotten three women pregnant. My girlfriend with whom I have lived for 12 years now and who has given me three of the most special beautiful little gifts a woman can give to a man. Another woman who had a miscarriage and did not tell me till literally years later that she had been carrying my child.

The last, who aborted my baby without telling me and I cannot begin to tell you how much pain that caused me and how it hurts and brings tears to my eyes even to this day. I failed my baby and I am so sorry and I love the baby I never held so much.

So enjoy the sex. It is natural and healthy and instinctive and romantic all at once and share it with that man for pleasure or for love - ideally both. However, whatever your instincts tell you, be prepared to bear the responsibilities that come with it.

[ohshee]

Because he is selfish and only thinking of him self he doesn't get pregnant you do,, he doesn't have to change his life style because he's having a baby you do he things he can walk away. And he will if you get pregnant,,, make control of your life and when you are ready to have a baby. ,, don't let guys use you for one thing. Don't have a baby with a guy who is not willing to be responsible when having sex. Or when you get pregnant ,,, and it's not about him it's about you and all your DREAMS either live them the best way possible or don't live any of them because now you struggle to buy dyipers food baby clothes. Etc etc

[Katerina_Belle]

If you don’t want to get pregnant then it’s your responsibility to ensure that.

Forget about what he wants unless he’s willing to commit to raise a child with you.

As for what he wants, it’s probably just more “exciting” to have unprotected sex. But a few minutes of fun is not worth having a unwanted baby and letting that child bear the consequences of the irresponsibility on both your parts.

[PrimalInstinct]

First, you're stupid if you think the only thing that can happen is pregnancy. Have you never hear about STDs?

Second, if you don't care why should he?
He's just putting up an "argument" for appearance sakes - on the off chance you actually start thinking & question the intelligence of unprotected sex - but really he couldn't care less.

[integrale77]

I'd say it'll be because he's got a preference to bareback. And because your giving into it he thinks your ok with it and he's assuming your taking whatever steps you need to after to avoid getting pregnant (possibly ignorance on his side).

If it's a big problem it's time to impliment a no glove no love policy (buy some condoms yourself if you don't think he has any)!

[sillyfairy474]

I can’t really say for sure. My ex did that to me too. In fact, he even asked if he could c** inside me. Then I got pregnant and now here we are. He tried to get me to have an abortion when it first happened, As for the reason, maybe he’s just careless and irresponsible. I don't know how old y’all are but possibly it’s that bulletproof mindset. The “It won’t happen to me”. Guys claim it doesn’t feel as good with condoms, so possibly there’s an element of selfishness as well.

[CrzyBtchN40]

It's either the excitement of playing Russian roulette or he can't stay away from u bc ur that good. Not judging, but how come u don't stop him? Unless you honestly don't care if u were to get pregnant. (again, not judging) I had a best friend a long time ago who purposely messed up her b. c. She wanted a baby, but wasn't trying and could justify in her head if it were to accidentally happen. Well, she won. She got pregnant, and she lost, dude didn't speak to her or the baby girl for five years, and I read on a social media site that he regretted his bitterness of taking it on the little girl. So be carefully

[ShannonSaxon66]

In this day and age do people, other than parents that is, really judge others like it's the 50's? I was under the impression that the world was more enlightened and was not supposed to be so judgmental. Guess I was mistaken. I have used a condom maybe one or twice. Not the smartest thing to do. I don't have to worry about getting someone pregnant. But thevm std's is something else. What Im getting at is Russian Roulette is fun until a bullet finds its way into the chamber pointed at you.

[Phoenix98]

Fetish maybe? Or just doesn't want to wear one.

But the question should also be if you don't want to get pregnant why aren't you on birth control and why do you keep having unprotected sex with him? If you did get pregnant you'd be just as guilty as he is for not being protected.

[Laozi]

1. Because using protection is less pleasurable for him.
2. by the way, do you want to get pregnant? Because if you haven't been on any kind of birth control then sooner or later this unprotected sex of yours will definitely going to make you pregnant.

[re-pete]

First, because it feels way better to go raw then use a rubber. Plus, it's kind of exciting for him to know you might get pregnant, even if he doesn't want that to happen. Finally, from my own experience, not wanting to get you pregnant is fairly normal, but you have to ask yourself how much he really cares if he does. If he plans to dump you if you do get pregnant, then he'll keep doing it raw until you do.

[michol1]

He’s not using a condom because it feels better he trusts you to not get pregnant or if you do to he trust you to handle it the way he wants, if you have sex wanting to get pregnant knowing he doesn’t want to, don’t complain when he’s shocked and leaves you

[Jackelray]

Honestly I think he answer is it that he is short sighted and doesn’t think about the risk.
i am always shocked by this as I am very pro safe sex but most dudes I know don’t want kids but they are out straight fucking unprotected, then they act shocked when they get a girl pregnant or get some sti.

its your body and saddly you have to be the one that draws those lines, cause so many men just don’t care. They just wanna ‘feel good’.
it probably doesn’t mean he secretly wants a baby.

[Reaperbot666]

heat of the moment.
doesn't like the feel of condoms. since sex often feels a lot better without one on for both people.
doesn't like to pull out or not used to pulling out since you were on birth control in the past.

[akihon]

Not going to be judgmental here but a few questions

Why are you having unprotected sex unless of course you want to get pregnant or catch something. It's your responsibility to look after your own health not his, you cannot expect him to look after your health anymore than he can you.

Now to the why, some men are weak and they'll crumble at the first sign of pussy, it's really that simple. Some men will walk through fire just to be able to see one in the flesh so to speak

[nella965]

haha sounds like you do not have experience with men. No guy is gonna tell you that he wants you to get pregnant if he knows u don't want a baby. but a guy will say absolutely anything to get sex. unfortunately he does not care for you and he's putting his needs above your own. You better be careful because there's a good chance you will fall pregnant one day. Pulling out has a VERY high fail rate.

[HayleyMarie]

Guys tend to prefer without.

BUT! If you want to ensure you don’t get pregnant and you’re not on birth control, tell him you want to start using condoms. It’s your body. Don’t ever let him pressure you to not use them just because that’s what he wants.
If he loves you he will care about your feelings and not try to force you to do something you’re uncomfortable with.

[BroodyRuby]

Neither my boyfriend or I want children but we don’t use condoms. I was on the birth control pill before I got my IUD so it wasn’t totally unprotected but that’s how him and I prefer things. He’s cool with using condoms but it just never came up in the moment 🤷🏼‍♀️

[Romeocuck]

1. most guys hate condoms
2. when a guy is in his horny mode he doesn't really think about the consequences
3. he might think that if you do get pregnant you will have an abortion and for him its obvious.. if for you it's not then make sure he understands it. and for the record I would make him sign an agreement so he will take responsibility in a case of you get pregnant.

[broken_heart_at_48]

Because he's a guy he's thinking PUSSY. For a lot of guys once you get them to that certain point they're brain takes a break and their dick is running the show. Not all guys but an awful lot of them. Why not just ask him.

[AndyOh]

Maybe he likes the thrill of the gamble.

Keep going unprotected sex and he is going to lose that gamble, and then you will get pregnant. Then what? Is he going to stick around?

[Silent_Bob]

If you're not trying to get pregnant, then you need to be taking SOME precautions. If he doesn't like condoms, and you got issues with the pill for whatever reasons, there are many other SCIENTIFICALLY ACCURATE options. But stop jumping without a parachute, that's just tempting fate.

[loveslongnails]

Apparently it doesn't matter to YOU either !! LOL You say "don't judge" - I don't know what you mean by that? The FIRST question anyone in their right mind is going to ask is: do you WANT to get pregnant? If you don't, then why aren't you on birth control or at least making him use a condom?

Since you're not doing either, we can only assume you either want to get pregnant or, if you don't, you're just too dumb to even be having sex. That's "conclusion based on information", not judgment.

[SongBird3]

He likes instant gratification rather then think about the consequences. You should consider getting on bc or telling him to fuck off

[MannySimms]

It's all HIS fault! Start picking out names...

[Bongem]

Because the feeling is more intimate or he can't control himself. Does he know you aren't on birth control?

[Truthatanycost]

Lack of discipline, lack of self control, and lack of life force (due to shooting it like its worthless). He gets a bigger dopamine hit when he does it without protection, and he does not have the discipline to resist.

[MannMitAntworten]

The blood leaves his brain and good elsewhere thus he gives into his desires complete abandon. It happens and probably the number one cause for “surprises”.

[Finchie40]

Cuz sex is better without condoms , condoms suck , yes he is taking the chance of getting you pregnant but he might also have a vasectomy and not tell you about it

[SHEKNOWS]

I hear it feels leagues better without a condom, that's my best guess.

[creampie99]

i recommend getting an iud asap!!! and make sure he isn't a cheater so u do not get std's

[GreyWolf9000]

Most of the time ejaculation is interrupted by condoms (the ring which is on the shaft), but still always use Condom to avoid STD's.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he likes to feel your vagina on his cock. sometimes a condoms can stop the sensation. also if you are very moist and hot he will enjoy the way your vagina feels more without protection.. do you enjoy the feel of an unsheathed cock more than a rubber in you?

[justjared]

Feels good but doesn't want to commit to a kid he's not rdy. I have only had protected sex

[reptocarl]

Because it feels good. Better question is why isn’t he a real man and get a vasectomy?

[GOOSEBOY78]

cos he expects you to take all the preventitve maintenance. ultimately it starts with him.

[madgoat]

He is presumably a wreckless thrill seeker.
Unless you want a world of pain, don't let him.

[Boromir]

Impregnation fetish is a thing... He’ll be more like ‘it’s her problem if she gets pregnant, as she did not ask me for any commitment’... You hope he stays once your pregnant? Or it’s more a ‘known sperm donor’ thingy?

[JohnAlaska43]

Unprotected sex always feels better on the guy. Condoms do not give me anytype of pleasure at all.

[October808]

Because you let him.

He'll probably bolt if you get knocked up. It's only fun until until he has to pay.

[one1wild00]

Because it feels that much better for him and he trust you enough and cares for you enough he will probably be there no matter what happens. and his unconscious self want to get you pregnant and keep you around.

[OddBeMe]

This is a strange phenomena in men. It’s widely known kink for men. Maybe biological or something. So girls just have to take the lead. But make us pay for birth control at least.

[Browneye57]

Get a IUD or on the pill. Unless you WANT to get preggo.

[Twalli]

It feels better. I don't care if my girlfriend is on birth control because I know she cheated if she gets pregnant.

[blueguy07]

It feels different than wearing a condom but he needs to be sure to make sure he takes it out before releasing

[Daniela1982]

Why are you letting him if YOU don't want to get pregnant. Don't worry about what he wants. Do you want to get pregnant, which will happen if you aren't using protection.

[E-Warren-lover]

The heat of the moment, nothing beats unprotected sex.

[winterfox10]

For the same reason that you want to have unprotected sex: it feels better.

[ThatGuy133]

Because he's dumb and keeps rolling the dice that you won't get pregnant?

[bradbradley]

it does feel better but the question is what happens if you do get pregant will he stick around or take off you need to make sure he uses a condom at least till you know if you to know what you want

[Anonymous]

To make you happy. I do things all the time to make my SO happy even though I don’t want to or not interested in. I don’t want her to be upset with me.

[Jerre]

Because it feels so much better to cum without a condom.

[andy530]

I’m protected sex feels better and the feeling is too much to resist it sounds like

[DiscomfortZone]

Yeah, he's the one "giving in" and you're the poor victim, right? It's not like you're the one who'll be pregnant... Please, please at least have the decency to get an abortion when that happens, spare the poor child!!!

[Plitty-Tank]

Maybe he likes the pulling out method or maybe he just hopes he is infertile.

[midnightmoon05]

You okay with it? and its exclusive? and you might get pregnant.. prehaps have these disucssions?

[beldath]

Because it feels so much better without, and he's hoping you pay attention to your cycle enough to know when you two can get away with no condom.

[teaguru90]

Maybe it feels better or he wants to please you and hoping that you don't get pregnant?

[Anonymous]

Because obviously feeling the actual vaginal flesh inside you for him is what feels SOOO much better

[Anonymous]

Either he has not thought about what would happen if u get pregnant. he is not bothered even if u get pregnant. So girl, u take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Try jumping into a swimming pool wearing a trash bag covering your entire body, that should give you a clue as to why he wants unprotected sex.

[pleasestopthis]

Because it feels good. Some people don't think about consequences when they are horny.

[Anonymous]

My question is why are you playing Russian Roulette?
Are you that close you can go without protection and no birth control?

[papito78]

you say “giving in” do you want him to get you pregnant if not then maybe you should not have unprotected sex