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Why does he keep giving in to the unprotected sex if he doesn’t want to get me pregnant?

I don’t need people to judge here I’m just simply looking for some advice. This guy and I we have sex sometimes and lately I haven’t been on any type of birth control. We have had unprotected sex more than once. He claims he doesn’t want to get me pregnant but yet he has had unprotected sex with me multiple times. If he doesn’t want to get me pregnant why do you think he keeps giving in to having unprotected sex?
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  • Speaking as a man with three children born out of wedlock - don't worry, my girlfriend and I are in a very settled relationship - it may be a combination of factors, one of which is obvious, the others less so. One being that it simply feels good. Condoms are not awful, but the physical warmth and sense of connection when I feel myself inside a woman is just intense.

    The others being a little less obvious. For a man, the idea of getting a woman pregnant, even when they intellectually know that they don't want to, is a turn-on. It is for me, gosh knows. When my girlfriend looks into my eyes and says, "Put a baby in me," as silly as it sounds, it wildly turns me on. It appeals to me at the most base instinctive animal level.

    To put my sperm inside a fertile woman and sire offspring is a natural evolutionary desire. It is how the species has survived several hundred thousand years and it really is arousing to many guys.

    The other thing - and there is no way to know without knowing him and you - is that it may be for him a way to show that he likes you and to keep you with him. That may be conscious or unconscious, but you cannot completely rule out that he really wants a baby with you.

    Not likely, but not impossible either.

    Most likely it is just how good it feels to him and he is not stopping to think, in the moment, what the consequences might be. The unconscious motives are legion - he may even just want sex and does not want anything to stop him. He may really want - again consciously or not - to get you pregnant. Certainly that is a natural male instinct, though most men have more self-control, except perhaps in the moment.

    For your part, you need to decide what you want. You too have a natural instinct, born of evolution, to carry offspring and give birth. Odd though it may sound. However, you cannot be a slave to that instinct but must think things through and act - or not - accordingly.

    If you get pregnant, enjoy the beautiful gift that you have been given. Cherish and love the little life you will carry and hold in your arms.

    Here, let me stop to tell you another part of my story. I have actually gotten three women pregnant. My girlfriend with whom I have lived for 12 years now and who has given me three of the most special beautiful little gifts a woman can give to a man. Another woman who had a miscarriage and did not tell me till literally years later that she had been carrying my child.

    The last, who aborted my baby without telling me and I cannot begin to tell you how much pain that caused me and how it hurts and brings tears to my eyes even to this day. I failed my baby and I am so sorry and I love the baby I never held so much.

    So enjoy the sex. It is natural and healthy and instinctive and romantic all at once and share it with that man for pleasure or for love - ideally both. However, whatever your instincts tell you, be prepared to bear the responsibilities that come with it.

  • Because he is selfish and only thinking of him self he doesn't get pregnant you do,, he doesn't have to change his life style because he's having a baby you do he things he can walk away. And he will if you get pregnant,,, make control of your life and when you are ready to have a baby. ,, don't let guys use you for one thing. Don't have a baby with a guy who is not willing to be responsible when having sex. Or when you get pregnant ,,, and it's not about him it's about you and all your DREAMS either live them the best way possible or don't live any of them because now you struggle to buy dyipers food baby clothes. Etc etc

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  • If you don’t want to get pregnant then it’s your responsibility to ensure that.

    Forget about what he wants unless he’s willing to commit to raise a child with you.

    As for what he wants, it’s probably just more “exciting” to have unprotected sex. But a few minutes of fun is not worth having a unwanted baby and letting that child bear the consequences of the irresponsibility on both your parts.

  • First, you're stupid if you think the only thing that can happen is pregnancy. Have you never hear about STDs?

    Second, if you don't care why should he?
    He's just putting up an "argument" for appearance sakes - on the off chance you actually start thinking & question the intelligence of unprotected sex - but really he couldn't care less.

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  • Impregnation fetish is a thing... He’ll be more like ‘it’s her problem if she gets pregnant, as she did not ask me for any commitment’... You hope he stays once your pregnant? Or it’s more a ‘known sperm donor’ thingy?

  • Not going to be judgmental here but a few questions

    Why are you having unprotected sex unless of course you want to get pregnant or catch something. It's your responsibility to look after your own health not his, you cannot expect him to look after your health anymore than he can you.

    Now to the why, some men are weak and they'll crumble at the first sign of pussy, it's really that simple. Some men will walk through fire just to be able to see one in the flesh so to speak

  • Honestly I think he answer is it that he is short sighted and doesn’t think about the risk.
    i am always shocked by this as I am very pro safe sex but most dudes I know don’t want kids but they are out straight fucking unprotected, then they act shocked when they get a girl pregnant or get some sti.

    its your body and saddly you have to be the one that draws those lines, cause so many men just don’t care. They just wanna ‘feel good’.
    it probably doesn’t mean he secretly wants a baby.

  • Why are you letting him if YOU don't want to get pregnant. Don't worry about what he wants. Do you want to get pregnant, which will happen if you aren't using protection.

  • I hear it feels leagues better without a condom, that's my best guess.

  • Because he’s reckless.

  • Feels good but doesn't want to commit to a kid he's not rdy. I have only had protected sex

    • He does have 2 children already from a previous relationship.

    • Ok is he taking care of them

    • @blueguy07 absolutely! He’s a great dad.

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  • Simple. It feels good. Damned good!

  • You okay with it? and its exclusive? and you might get pregnant.. prehaps have these disucssions?

  • It feels better

  • I can’t really say for sure. My ex did that to me too. In fact, he even asked if he could c** inside me. Then I got pregnant and now here we are. He tried to get me to have an abortion when it first happened, As for the reason, maybe he’s just careless and irresponsible. I don't know how old y’all are but possibly it’s that bulletproof mindset. The “It won’t happen to me”. Guys claim it doesn’t feel as good with condoms, so possibly there’s an element of selfishness as well.

  • I'd say it'll be because he's got a preference to bareback. And because your giving into it he thinks your ok with it and he's assuming your taking whatever steps you need to after to avoid getting pregnant (possibly ignorance on his side).

    If it's a big problem it's time to impliment a no glove no love policy (buy some condoms yourself if you don't think he has any)!

  • Guys tend to prefer without.

    BUT! If you want to ensure you don’t get pregnant and you’re not on birth control, tell him you want to start using condoms. It’s your body. Don’t ever let him pressure you to not use them just because that’s what he wants.
    If he loves you he will care about your feelings and not try to force you to do something you’re uncomfortable with.

    • She's the one who wants to get pregnant.

  • Lack of discipline, lack of self control, and lack of life force (due to shooting it like its worthless). He gets a bigger dopamine hit when he does it without protection, and he does not have the discipline to resist.

  • Because he thinks with his dick

  • Maybe he likes the thrill of the gamble.

    Keep going unprotected sex and he is going to lose that gamble, and then you will get pregnant. Then what? Is he going to stick around?

  • haha sounds like you do not have experience with men. No guy is gonna tell you that he wants you to get pregnant if he knows u don't want a baby. but a guy will say absolutely anything to get sex. unfortunately he does not care for you and he's putting his needs above your own. You better be careful because there's a good chance you will fall pregnant one day. Pulling out has a VERY high fail rate.

  • He likes instant gratification rather then think about the consequences. You should consider getting on bc or telling him to fuck off

  • i recommend getting an iud asap!!! and make sure he isn't a cheater so u do not get std's

  • Because the feeling is more intimate or he can't control himself. Does he know you aren't on birth control?

    • Yes he does

    • Hm, I think he should control himself a bit more then. Do you want to have his children?

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