Is it possible to have sex if the man's penis isn't erect?

In an episode of Parks and Recreation (I'll post the clip in an update), there was a sex education class for elderly people. They were being taught how to use condoms to protect from STDs, using a banana. One old man said, "What if the banana is soft and mushy and dangles sharply to the left?"
My question is: Can men even have sex if they're soft? I never thought that was possible.
Is it possible to have sex if the mans penis isnt erect?
I have no idea
Vote A
It's possible to engage in intercourse when soft.
Vote B
Intercourse isn't possible, but it's possible for the man to receive oral (fellatio).
Vote C
Neither intercourse nor fellatio are possible if a man is soft.
Vote D
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  • I am sure it is possible but what would be the point? He wouldn’t really feel pleasure from it and the girl wouldn’t either , that’s why their is a pill called viagra for men that have trouble getting erections , viagra is good for guys that can already get erections as well , it helps the blood flow to the penis to stay erect for a long period of time even after the guy ejaculates he can still keep going , I have taken viagra on special occasion nights when we both knew we wanted to have sex all night long , it is a miracle pill for men. period and it only works if the guy is in the mood , some girls get upset by it cuz she thinks the guy is only getting erect from the pill which isn’t true at all , for it to work he has to be turned on , I dated a girl that was pissed that I took a pill and she said you must not find me attractive if you had to take that pill to have sex with me I laughed and so No babe this pill only works if I am in the mood and I am taking it so I can fuck you all night long , it also helps the guy to last longer as well from ejaculating fast so again nothing wrong with viagra i recommend every guy to take it to rock their girls worlds , just don’t get carried away with it just use it on nights you both want all nighters lol

    • 😠... 😉

  • There is a range between flaccid and erect. Sex is virtually impossible with a flaccid penis (though it may be possible to cram the head in no thrusting is possible). But somewhere less than fully erect can probably sort of have sex though falling out is much more of a problem. Condom use is also challenging. I think I’ve read this is a real challenge trying to get old people in retirement homes to use them with new partners - condoms tend to be easiest with rock hard erections that stay hard without stimulation while putting on and can be difficult for elderly people to use.
    I didn’t vote since the answer is murky.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Yeah. Tmi, but my boyfriend starts to get soft very quickly if he isn’t receiving constant stimulation, and we actually used this to our advantage when trying intercourse for the first time. While fully erect, he was just too big for me and it hurt too much to actually get all the way in, so we’d wait a couple minutes until he was like half-flaccid before he tried going in very deep and that made the first few times a lot easier on me.

  • In my case it's absolutely not possible, the guy has to get a very strong erection because I'm extremely tight. It was a problem with my last sexual partner, we couldn't have sex because he wasn't mature enough and insecure, so he hadn't full erections. There was an erection but not full, so eh.

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  • Yes possible but if not erect at all, then it is very difficult.

    Semi hard aka erectile dysfunction is more easily doable but can be slightly difficult...

  • I believe the phrase is "pushing rope" or "thumbing it in" and many frustrated cocain users all over the world know this plight

  • Does a halfy count? That's possible for intercourse.

    I've came from limp dick during oral before, so that is definitely possible.

  • I mean it's going to be kinda hard to put it in.. but if you try maybe

  • He had a mouth tongue can satisfy her that way and maybe stimulate himself it's all in the mind you show negative thoughts in well that's what you get again just go with it the body will surprise you in more ways than you can imagine and all the magic you want to perform starts with a thought

  • I imagine it'll make insertion more difficult, but once inside there could be small thrusting without slipping out, I imagine.
    Recieving oral is easier, due to suction.

    A man can have an orgasm and shoot while flaccid.

    Disclaimer: I haven't had sex, so just my guesses on the intercourse part.

  • It's possible. Done it. 😂

    • How did you get it inside you?

    • @Paige90 you just squish it in carefully

    • Pretty much

  • Nope but a bj usually helps make it hard pretty quick lol.

  • If you mean like totally soft no. He needs to be at least semi hard to penetrate.

  • Maybe the real question is can he get you to have the joy you want, not even needing to be erect? Who said he has to be hard to have a really great, very intimate, and great sexual time together? Men and women have different ideas of sex, and what is great, or not.
    Seems that many rely on porn, and big erections, and his orgasm, but what about her?
    What if, half the time you are together, it is just all about her, and her joy, in whatever way?

    • True but I don't see why a guy would need to put a condom on his dick if his dick wasn't going to be utilized

  • It is a question of your perception - If you are with your girlfriend/wife and use fingers/mouth/toys, she came 10 times now she is soaking in the bath with a beaming smile - Was that not a sex session worthy for her of hinting at to the girls on coffee break tomorrow

    • Intercourse? Okay. Not at all missunderstood here...🙄

  • Yess possible! My guy has fucked me while being soft and it still felt good 😝

  • I have no idea how you would. That would be like trying to shove a slab of bologna up your cooch hole.

  • I don't know. Never tried.

  • I have had this happen exactly once. A girl surprised me with reverse cowgirl anal. With adequate lube it still goes on if she knows what she's doing. I wasn't expecting sex at all, but I figured I would get hard given time. However, I didn't get hard because I came like 20 seconds into it. It was just too close to a fantasy too suddenly and unexpectedly and I came while soft.

  • If there is no medical reason why a man can't get erect, it must be because he isn't excited or is repulsed by his mate. I'm an older man that takes testosterone and occasionally take Viagra which both are prescribed by my doctor. I also workout with weights and walk regularly. My body is trim especially for my age. i am very sexually active and feel it is very important that I feel like a man even in the face of growing old. However, if something happened to me to render me totally impotent, I would still be able to enjoy pleasuring my woman. My only fear would be that no matter how much pleasure I would give her through cunnilingus, strap-ons, vibrators, etc., she may seek someone that can satisfy that animal calling humans have. The feeling of a hot and aroused male who would have no choice but to gasp and cry out during climax.

  • No, he won't be able to insert it if it's soft. This cause a lot of frustration in my most recent relationship.

  • I doubt it because it'd be so difficult to insert the penis when it's soft --

    -- but I have on a few occasions experienced insertion into a girl's vagina whilst mine has been semi-erect, deliberately because the sensations of it growing to it"s completely full hardness inside the girl are just so beautiful & pleasurable

  • Depends on his flacid size id say

  • Intercourse while flaccid? No way. But sex is far more than just PIV intercourse!

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