My mom is dating the father of the person I lost my virginity to should I tell my mom before they get too serious?

Question

Yes tell your mom

No

Select age and gender to cast your vote:

GirlGuy

Answer 1

Surely | 1.5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

You could always say to your mother, that if she marries this guy, that she would be making one of the guys you dated/liked in the past your step brother,
Leaving out the sex part.
Let her wonder what you two might have done.

Surely

11 mo
Thank you for the MHO.
Good luck!

Answer 2

Surely

Thank you for the MHO.
Good luck!

Answer 3

loveslongnails | 3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Your mother is dating the father of the boy who was your first, so what difference should that make to your mother? Do you think there's a family plot going on, or do you live in the backwoods of some state? :)

Asker

11 mo
Huh? And no just maybe i like this boy
loveslongnails

11 mo
So why does it matter if you tell your mother or not?

Answer 4

Asker

Huh? And no just maybe i like this boy

Answer 5

loveslongnails

So why does it matter if you tell your mother or not?

Answer 6

modeve | 2.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

It's matter between your mom and father of guy who had sex with you. Keep it separate from your own affair.

modeve

11 mo
Thanks for MHG.
Asker

11 mo
Your welcome

Answer 7

modeve

Thanks for MHG.

Answer 8

Asker

Your welcome

Answer 9

ZELLxoxo | 422 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

Why have you not told her that before?

And yes.

Asker

11 mo
Cause I don't want her knowing i lost it already
ZELLxoxo

11 mo
You didn't need to mention sex. Just say you are dating this guy. That's all you need to say to her.
Asker

11 mo
But we didn't date.
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ZELLxoxo

11 mo
Then why did you do it?
Asker

11 mo
The first time was just for fun the 2md time he ask me for it
ZELLxoxo

11 mo
Look.. tell your mom. She should know.
You shouldn't hide this. It's wrong.
Tell her you 'dated' him.

Answer 10

Asker

Cause I don't want her knowing i lost it already

Answer 11

ZELLxoxo

You didn't need to mention sex. Just say you are dating this guy. That's all you need to say to her.

Answer 12

Asker

But we didn't date.

Answer 13

ZELLxoxo

Then why did you do it?

Answer 14

Asker

The first time was just for fun the 2md time he ask me for it

Answer 15

ZELLxoxo

Look.. tell your mom. She should know.
You shouldn't hide this. It's wrong.
Tell her you 'dated' him.

Answer 16

Curmudgeon | 1.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

They actually had a novel and a movie with a plot like this:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Summer_Place

Curmudgeon

11 mo
And now I have that tune stuck in my head:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9SeDGvfR0HU
Asker

11 mo
Wow your old.
Curmudgeon

11 mo
I am older, yes. Nothing new under the sun, don't you know...
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loveslongnails

11 mo
That's what every 18 old thinks.

Answer 17

Curmudgeon

And now I have that tune stuck in my head:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9SeDGvfR0HU

Answer 18

Asker

Wow your old.

Answer 19

Curmudgeon

I am older, yes. Nothing new under the sun, don't you know...

Answer 20

loveslongnails

That's what every 18 old thinks.

Answer 21

Elliegirl | 3.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

If it’s going to be a problem, you should tell her. If it doesn’t matter that much, keep it to yourself. Are you still having sex with him and how long ago was the last time you had sex with him?

Answer 22

BroodyRuby

Xper 4

Are you still with this person or do you intend on being with this person? If not, I don't see the issue.

Asker

11 mo
Maybe just for sex.
BroodyRuby

11 mo
I don't think you should tell your mom. If you don't intend on having a real relationship with them and she is happy in her new relationship, I think it may cause more drama than it is worth
Asker

11 mo
Okay but can i still be active with him?
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BroodyRuby

11 mo
I mean, you can do whatever you want at the end of the day. It's up to you
Asker

11 mo
Okayy thanks

Answer 23

Asker

Maybe just for sex.

Answer 24

BroodyRuby

I don't think you should tell your mom. If you don't intend on having a real relationship with them and she is happy in her new relationship, I think it may cause more drama than it is worth

Answer 25

Asker

Okay but can i still be active with him?

Answer 26

BroodyRuby

I mean, you can do whatever you want at the end of the day. It's up to you

Answer 27

Asker

Okayy thanks

Answer 28

Flower7 | 1.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

You shouldn't tell her you had sex with the guy. But just tell her that you used to date him.

Answer 29

Thatsamazing

Guru

uhhh... What? why would you tell her that when it has nothing to do with her, the guy's dad, or the fact that they're dating?

Answer 30

andreasderjuengere | 2.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

That's between you and the boy in question.
Unless that boy is your own brother...

Answer 31

scooogy | 4.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

No don't! You get that chance like once in history of mankind for your mom to have a stepson-in-law! 🤣

Answer 32

dthomas89

Xper 7

So you'd have fucked your new step brother.. if they get married

Asker

11 mo
Ya twice
dthomas89

11 mo
And you're under 18?

Answer 33

Asker

Ya twice

Answer 34

dthomas89

And you're under 18?

Answer 35

UKMidsGuy

Xper 5

You could tell her but it shouldn’t make any difference to her relationship with the dad

Answer 36

Anonymous

No don't,
Then you can play fantasy of step bro...
IRL!.

Answer 37

CharlieBadger | 1.6K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Explorer

There's not really any reason that he or she needs to know.

Answer 38

billluc69 | 5K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

i say no, unless you are in to some freaky sexual group thing

Answer 39

Anonymous

Maybe if it gets serious because it may not turn into anything

Answer 40

Red_Arrow | 9.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Not a big deal. No reason to tell her.

Answer 41

lightbulb27 | 1.7K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

oh for sure... who knows what's up...

Answer 42

msss98 | 1.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

What difference does it make?

Answer 43

Dargil | 30.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Are you still seeing him?

Asker

11 mo
No we ended bad m

Answer 44

Asker

No we ended bad m

Answer 45

Drumlin2001 | 2.8K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

You could. there's no real reason it should matter

Answer 46

Light_beam | 63 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 7

Your mom would fuck him?

Asker

11 mo
Huh?
Light_beam

11 mo
Yea?
Asker

11 mo
Fuck who?

Answer 47

Light_beam

Yea?

Answer 48

Asker

Fuck who?

Answer 49

Yammy | 286 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Does it make you uncomfortable?

Asker

11 mo
No? Because we broke up almost a year ago
Yammy

11 mo
Then why tell your mom?

Answer 50

Asker

No? Because we broke up almost a year ago

Answer 51

Yammy

Then why tell your mom?

Answer 52

Plitty-Tank

Yoda

You can tell your mom but it may not work.

Answer 53

COMMODOREII | 14.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

How old is this guy?

Asker

11 mo
My mom's boyfriend? Or the one i lost my virginity to?
COMMODOREII

11 mo
I had to read that again. 😂😂 wow if they got serious and married you guys would be step sister and step brother. 😂
Asker

11 mo
I know which is why I'm debating on telling.
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COMMODOREII

11 mo
Technically you really are not blood relatives so you both could date. You could also just keep it quiet and sneak into each others rooms. 😂
Asker

11 mo
Lol late at night? Lol
COMMODOREII

11 mo
Yeah. 😂 i shouldn't be encouraging this. Lol you could always tell your mom that you are dating his son. Lol
Asker

11 mo
Lol I'll rather not cause the sex. Was ok not great
COMMODOREII

11 mo
Oh then maybe you should tell your mom. After the father is often like the son and you are just looking after your mom's happiness. 😂
Asker

11 mo
I don't know what you trying to say by this
COMMODOREII

11 mo
Me either. Lol
Asker

11 mo
I think my mom ganna marry him
COMMODOREII

11 mo
Cool so you got a new brother coming. 😗
Asker

11 mo
No :/ i don't wanna move
COMMODOREII

11 mo
Move? 😕
Asker

11 mo
My mom told me we are moving into the guys house spring break
COMMODOREII

11 mo
Wow they are moving pretty fast?
Asker

11 mo
She told me they been dating for almost a year but recently got super serious
COMMODOREII

11 mo
So how did you meet his son? 😗
Asker

11 mo
School. his a junior im a freshman