Would you consider it a deal breaker if your partner finds your kinks funny?

Question

It has happened in the past when I thought we were both in the zone and I let him give me a facial only to end up being laughed at that he jizzed on my face.

I thought it was rude and got major doubts whether I could introduce to him some other stuff I'm into. I was also turned off a little.

Answer 1

HellaBread_

Xper 4

Yes. They shouldn't laugh at you. Both my girlfriend and I have kinks, some similar and some different. But we discuss them first. We never really laughed at each other. And to be honest, even if we didn't exactly share that kink, we would still help satisfy that kink for the other every now and then.

I would say it's rude and kind of hurtful.

Asker

12 mo
Thank you for saying that. And it's nice to know you and your girlfriend have a healthier take on things
HellaBread_

12 mo
That's okay :) Yeah just remember, communication is key. Try talking to him about it if you haven't already. He should listen to you and respect that, and you in return should do the same if he ever needs to talk about anything
Asker

12 mo
Let's just say I already took a different approach on this 😂

But yeah you make a valid point. I did it in the first place cuz I thought he liked it

Answer 2

Asker

Thank you for saying that. And it's nice to know you and your girlfriend have a healthier take on things

Answer 3

HellaBread_

That's okay :) Yeah just remember, communication is key. Try talking to him about it if you haven't already. He should listen to you and respect that, and you in return should do the same if he ever needs to talk about anything

Answer 4

Asker

Let's just say I already took a different approach on this 😂

But yeah you make a valid point. I did it in the first place cuz I thought he liked it

Answer 5

Anonymous

It took me a little time to get up the courage to ask my partner to use a toy on me that really does pull the trigger. No doubt she thought it was a combination of funny with a healthy measure of "Ewww" thrown in. By when she watched how much I liked it, she got to liking doing it. But she does giggle when I cum.

Would you consider it a deal breaker if your partner finds your kinks funny?

Asker

11 mo
I see your point. It's nice that she got on board and was understanding about it

Answer 6

Asker

I see your point. It's nice that she got on board and was understanding about it

Answer 7

SpeedVoid

Xper 4

Wow. That is a strange reaction. Most of the boys (term for friends where I'm from) I know would love that kind of invitation. Anyway, kinks are important to bring up and talk about if you are serious. It sounds to me like he may just be a little less mature than you. You might have scared him (DO NOT say this to him). I still can't imagine laughing at this though. I wouldn't call it a deal breaker before a serious talk.

Sit that man down and let him know you have serious needs that deserve fulfillment as mush as anyone else. See if he changes his tune after that.

Asker

12 mo
It was some time ago already. It never happened again (him giving me facial).

To be fair, I had my own share of fun and revenge by jerking him off and letting his jizz fly out to his face. So maybe maturity is a little questionable here
SpeedVoid

12 mo
LOL... that must have been a satisfying revenge.
Asker

12 mo
Happened more often than not so yeah pretty much 😛

Answer 8

Asker

It was some time ago already. It never happened again (him giving me facial).

To be fair, I had my own share of fun and revenge by jerking him off and letting his jizz fly out to his face. So maybe maturity is a little questionable here

Answer 9

SpeedVoid

LOL... that must have been a satisfying revenge.

Answer 10

Asker

Happened more often than not so yeah pretty much 😛

Answer 11

AndyOh | 3.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

No, you are right, he is wrong.

If you want to share kinks, you might do a little checking to see if your guy is into things you like. To laugh at you like that is just wrong! You don't want to date a jerk. You want a guy who is into the things you like or is very interested in learning.
Problem is, the kinkier you are, the more you have to look.
I am still looking!
Good luck.

Asker

11 mo
Goodluck to you too!!
AndyOh

11 mo
Thanks. :)

Answer 12

Asker

Goodluck to you too!!

Answer 13

AndyOh

Thanks. :)

Answer 14

KingDio | 897 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

If both find something funner I say its ok to just have a giggle but when they just laugh at your kinks and really isn't funny I say yep both a deal breaker and mood killer. It had happened to me before where they just start laughing in the heat of the moment and just killed the mood... it was shit

Asker

12 mo
Yes!!! Instant mood killer!!

I'm sorry I have to ask, why did your partner laugh?
KingDio

12 mo
The constant questioning and talking while we were having sex , now ex (Not for this reason lol ) just started laughing with what I answered her and just killed the mood
Asker

12 mo
Oof. That doesn't sound good. Maybe she thought she was just being cute
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KingDio

12 mo
Don't think so as she said that she just couldn't help but find it funny and wanted to continue.. but that ship sailed and mood killed

Answer 15

Asker

Yes!!! Instant mood killer!!

I'm sorry I have to ask, why did your partner laugh?

Answer 16

KingDio

The constant questioning and talking while we were having sex , now ex (Not for this reason lol ) just started laughing with what I answered her and just killed the mood

Answer 17

Asker

Oof. That doesn't sound good. Maybe she thought she was just being cute

Answer 18

KingDio

Don't think so as she said that she just couldn't help but find it funny and wanted to continue.. but that ship sailed and mood killed

Answer 19

mrmonogamous | 61 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 1

I don’t know if it’s a dealbreaker, but except me as IM. My pleasure should be your concern, as yours is mine. Fortunately, I have been married to the most wonderful woman in the world for over 30 years.

Asker

11 mo
That's really wonderful to hear 💕💕

Answer 20

Asker

That's really wonderful to hear 💕💕

Answer 21

EroticArab | 169 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

Satisfying needs is important. I mean, someone might not be into what you're into, but that doesn't give them the right to laugh at what you like. And I don't think there is anything funny about it. So, to answer your question: Yes. It's a deal breaker.

Answer 22

MrSlim | 203 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

People deal with uncomfortable situations in weird ways. Probably best to not ask this here and just have a blunt conversation with him.

Asker

11 mo
That is true too. It happened in the past and I was just wondering in retrospect if I did the right thing about it

Answer 23

Asker

That is true too. It happened in the past and I was just wondering in retrospect if I did the right thing about it

Answer 24

Grkgod12

Xper 6

Your partner should definitely encourage your kinks, if he wants to explore more.
He is an idiot for laughing, making you feel that way.
I would love to hear about your other Kinks.

Answer 25

Anonymous

Yeah, I find that odd, even in porn when there is dom/sub stuff and they treat it like a joke, it's a turn off to me.

Answer 26

Anoniemus

Yoda

Did you talk to him about it?

Asker

12 mo
I did express my annoyance and displeasure at the time and he apologized, but all the while still laughing.
Anoniemus

12 mo
Sounds like he doesn’t care. I would have been malicious (making fun of his lack of sexual skills). It you might not be like me.
Asker

12 mo
Exactly! Which is why I chose to let it go and just not let it happen again.

Answer 27

Asker

I did express my annoyance and displeasure at the time and he apologized, but all the while still laughing.

Answer 28

Anoniemus

Sounds like he doesn’t care. I would have been malicious (making fun of his lack of sexual skills). It you might not be like me.

Answer 29

Asker

Exactly! Which is why I chose to let it go and just not let it happen again.

Answer 30

bethgurl | 740 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

Well that was disgusting

Asker

11 mo
Which was?
bethgurl

11 mo
What ur boyfriend did to u
Asker

11 mo
Lol thanks for clarifying that one out. I thought you meant getting a facial was disgusting 🙈

Answer 31

Asker

Which was?

Answer 32

bethgurl

What ur boyfriend did to u

Answer 33

Asker

Lol thanks for clarifying that one out. I thought you meant getting a facial was disgusting 🙈

Answer 34

bklynbadboy1 | 4.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

I think you should talk to him about it first.

Asker

12 mo
I told him upfront I didn't like that he laughed and he apologized, but he was still laughing which made me even more annoyed.
bklynbadboy1

12 mo
In box me
Asker

12 mo
I'm kind of shy 🙈
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bklynbadboy1

12 mo
Don't worry your secret is definitely safe with me I just don't want to put all your business in a public forum

Answer 35

Asker

I told him upfront I didn't like that he laughed and he apologized, but he was still laughing which made me even more annoyed.

Answer 36

bklynbadboy1

In box me

Answer 37

Asker

I'm kind of shy 🙈

Answer 38

bklynbadboy1

Don't worry your secret is definitely safe with me I just don't want to put all your business in a public forum

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