Men 30+ mostly: what makes you want to sleep with a girl?

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There’s a lot of conflicting information about this that often causes problems so please feel free to clear it up if you’re brave enough to be honest...

chadpattan · Accepted Answer

It's a trickier question than you think.

To me, there are three levels of attraction: "cute", "beautiful", and "sexy".

Sexual attraction requires "sexy". I wouldn't turn anyone away necessarily, but it wouldn't be all in (no pun intended) if she's not "sexy" to me. Which is a carnal attraction, can't really be explained.

When you're "sexy", something sets off and in your mind, it's what you want.

Isa Briones is "sexy". Prime Christina Aguilera was "sexy". Prime Chilli (TLC) was "sexy", somewhat still is. Halle Berry past AND present is "sexy". Nikki Bella is "sexy". Prime Madonna was "sexy". Prime Christina Applegate was "sexy". Pamela Anderson, past and present, is "sexy". Prime Ashanti was "sexy". Prime Mya Harrison was "sexy". Prime Kristen Kreuk, and even now, is "sexy".

When you're "beautiful", it's like they're great to look at, you wouldn't turn them away, but it's not like you couldn't look away if someone else caught your eye. The SEXUAL attraction isn't there.

Taylor Swift is "beautiful". Prime Tyra Banks was "beautiful". Prime Gloria Estefan (in the 80's) was "beautiful". Aaliyah was "beautiful". Amanda Saccomanno (Mandy Rose, WWE) is "beautiful". Barbie Blank (WAGS) is "beautiful". But there's nothing "sexy" about them.

It's how they carry themselves really. You can look all kinds of attractive, but it's really how you carry yourself and how you present yourself, take care of your body, etc. It's carnal.

ScottStevens · Accepted Answer

Let's make sure we define "girl" before going on. Your ID says you are over 30, so I will assume you mean lady over 30, NOT a young girl!

Ladies your age are not only physically beautiful, they also have total confidence in who they are and direction in their life. I am over 50 so I will tell you ladies in there 30's are very attractive in the ways that are most important to a man who no longer is driven by his childish teenage hormone issues. And yes that can keep going on through his 20's!

Older men want more than quick roll in the hay. They want to feel a connection to the lady they are in bed with. Most men having an affair are there because they no longer feel important to the one they are married to. Ladies in there 30's just seem to fill a void that needs attention. While the stereo type is for an older guy to lust after a much younger girl, and that might be true is some cases, what a man (most anyway) truly wants is a lady who knows what she is doing and happens to be physically attractive as well.

So how is that for honesty?

Red_Arrow · Answer

First step would be at least a bit of physical attraction. Then how we get along. If we enjoy being with each other and talking. At that point, if she seems interested in sex, I would be all for it.
Of course, pretty much applies to my younger years. But the point is, a beautiful, sexy woman can arouse me quickly, but even a plain gal can build an arousal in me by the way she is in a friendly way.

normalice · Answer

If she is reasonably attractive and makes it obvious she wants to sleep with me. That's pretty much all it takes.

Luna1998 · Answer

I am here to listen 😂 wanna know too

worldscolide · Answer

If she is kind to me, doesn't take me for granted.. If there is attraction..

AynonOMouse · Answer

Only if I am emotionally attached, in a relationship with her, and think it has long term potential/we are compatible.

duanemc86 · Answer

Her pussy. If she didn't have it, I wouldn't want her. 🤷‍♂️

morganlove · Answer

Mmm... im shallow enough to say pure physical attraction

HeyMikie · Answer

There are sexy bodies and there are sexy beings. But both of these have to do with a man's perception. For me, playfulness and willingness are the most important factors. So is availability.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

For me it would be a combination of: 1. Compatibility, including fulfilment of personal sexual fantasies. 2. Real love, trust, and respect on both sides. 3. Passionate desire.

Dragan · Answer

I always first had a relationship, and after sex if i like the girl. I'm married now and have sex with my wife only.

COMMODOREII · Answer

The same reason if im a teen in my 20s or 30s. Want a girlfriend that leads to marriage

Steve37 · Answer

For me it's one of two things. It can be genuine desire for intimacy and as an expression of love or simply physical attractiveness and lust.

navyP · Answer

Just about anything

KrakenAttackin · Answer

To have sex with her or have a relationship with her? To be physically attracted to her is easy, but I am MUCH pickier about women I will actually date than when I was younger.

colinthenewfie · Answer

At my age if she's breathing and wants to have sex that's usually good enough LOL

andy530 · Answer

For me it’s combination of things: looks, personality, sexual chemistry, sexual curiosity, etc.

Forte89 · Answer

A lot of things. General physical attraction, personality, attitude. Age can come into play, I'm more attracted to girls in their 20s.

Jaycrowe · Answer

TBH if I met a girl n we chilled n kicked BK n she let me put it in i would? N would b up to here if she Wana stay chillin or what

bad_dad · Answer

mostly, primal desire. without reference to the situation, I'm unable to pontificate further.

Anonymous · Answer

Built-in sex drive from 3.7 billion years of evolution.  From my perspective, it's both sexual and romantic desires. Both part of reproduction.

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