How do I feel comfortable in my body again after contracting Herpes?

Question

Hello everyone, please don’t be too hard on me. This has been an emotional rollercoaster for me finding out this news. I’ve only ever had 2 sexual partners and I’m 25 years old. One was from years ago who I was planning on marrying and then he became physically and emotionally abusive so I left him. The relationship gave me PTSD so I haven’t dated in a long time. The other is a really sweet guy I’ve been seeing for two months now. 10 days after sleeping together I started getting ulcers on my vulva. (Skin around vagina) I was tested immediately and came out positive. I’m so heartbroken and upset because I’ve always been so responsible and didn’t whore around. How am I ever suppose to feel comfortable in my own skin or even consider having sex again? I feel so dirty and disgusting. I just don’t know what to do... Does anyone have helpful advice to get me through this rough patch in my life? Thank you and please no nasty comments.

Answer 1

Anonymous

''I’d feel a lot more comfortable if this was something I could cure but it’s not.''

Most of the things people think have no cure, are only the case because only something natural can resolve it, therefore there is no money in it. This is how you are going to feel more comfortable, but you will need an open mind to do so.

Read the book ''The miraculous results of extremely high doses of the sunshine hormone vitamin D3 my experiment with huge doses of D3 from 25,000 to 50,000 to 100,000 IU a day over a 1 year period'' This will give you an understanding of where I'm coming from.

Our bodies are designed to cure all sorts of illness, but due to a lack of understanding, and over reliance on chemicals, they are rarely given the resources and building blocks they need to do so.

Studies already show a close link between recurrent herpes and low vitamin D3 levels.

Also read this https://anh-usa.org/herpes-why-is-conventional-medicine-ignoring-the-obvious-solution/

Opinion Owner

10 mo
Read this discussion

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''My brother, who had herpes, became completely cured with BHT and even though he hasn't taken it for many years he has never had another outbreak''

Answer 2

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Read this discussion

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''My brother, who had herpes, became completely cured with BHT and even though he hasn't taken it for many years he has never had another outbreak''

Answer 3

COMMODOREII | 14.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

I found these.

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/stds-hiv-safer-sex/herpes/living-with-herpes

https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-sexual-health/genital_herpes_common_but_misunderstood

*big hug*

Asker

11 mo
Thank you. 😌
COMMODOREII

11 mo
You will get through it. 💓
Asker

11 mo
I sure hope so. I’m just a nervous wreck over all of this.
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COMMODOREII

11 mo
I understand.

Answer 4

Asker

Thank you. 😌

Answer 5

COMMODOREII

You will get through it. 💓

Answer 6

Asker

I sure hope so. I’m just a nervous wreck over all of this.

Answer 7

COMMODOREII

I understand.

Answer 8

Secret6620 | 8.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

I couldn't imagine the betrayal you feel and the depression this could cause. You will have to work overtime on self love. 🌸💜🌸

Answer 9

AndyOh | 3.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

HI there. Very sorry to hear of your predicament. HSV2 is no picnic and can also really bring one's self esteem down.
Because of the way you feel about yourself right now, i would highly suggest getting in to see a counselor. A good one can do wonders for you.
A lot of people have it, including me. The good thing is it can be controlled and the breakouts lessened to nothing. The bad is that now you have something no one wants and you have to kind of look in new areas for dates.
Good luck with it. Remember you are still a beautiful person (inside and out).
Message me if you want.

Answer 10

blutwolfe | 1.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

Just realize Stds are more common than you think, hell I got chlamydia from my ex, then turned around and got back with her again and got HPV, shit happens to us all even if we don't sleep around ourselves. Granted mine were curable/not deadly, but that relationship definitely ended.

All you can do is start seeing a doctor and getting treatment, I'm sure they have plenty of similar stories as well

Asker

11 mo
That’s my thing. I’ve feel a lot more comfortable if this was something I could cure but it’s not. I feel so lost right now. The guy I’m seeing is being really supportive about this but I just feel disgusting in my own skin. He still hasn’t gotten tested for it because he currently doesn’t have insurance and needs to go to a free clinic when he isn’t working. It’s just so nerve wracking... the thought of having sex again makes me sick...
blutwolfe

11 mo
Oh ya I get that I'm nervous to have sex again too, got some bumps on my dick, I'll have HPV forever but bumps will go, but my partner can get vaccinated so she'll never get it, thankfully. It's still nerve-wracking topic I get that
Asker

11 mo
I’m sorry that you’re going through a similar situation. 😞 The guy I’m seeing still hasn’t gotten testing done since he needs to get to the free clinic on his day off. Does that mean he could possibly not have it? I got the ulcers 10 days after our first time We slept together. I’m just so confused on how it even happened. I was careful. 😞
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blutwolfe

11 mo
Well sounds like he gave it to you, everyone reacts differently to them, some people give visible signs, others not so much

Answer 11

Asker

That’s my thing. I’ve feel a lot more comfortable if this was something I could cure but it’s not. I feel so lost right now. The guy I’m seeing is being really supportive about this but I just feel disgusting in my own skin. He still hasn’t gotten tested for it because he currently doesn’t have insurance and needs to go to a free clinic when he isn’t working. It’s just so nerve wracking... the thought of having sex again makes me sick...

Answer 12

blutwolfe

Oh ya I get that I'm nervous to have sex again too, got some bumps on my dick, I'll have HPV forever but bumps will go, but my partner can get vaccinated so she'll never get it, thankfully. It's still nerve-wracking topic I get that

Answer 13

Asker

I’m sorry that you’re going through a similar situation. 😞 The guy I’m seeing still hasn’t gotten testing done since he needs to get to the free clinic on his day off. Does that mean he could possibly not have it? I got the ulcers 10 days after our first time We slept together. I’m just so confused on how it even happened. I was careful. 😞

Answer 14

blutwolfe

Well sounds like he gave it to you, everyone reacts differently to them, some people give visible signs, others not so much

Answer 15

reptocarl

Master

Sue him

Asker

11 mo
Why would I do that?
reptocarl

11 mo
Because he knowingly gave you herpes
Asker

11 mo
When did I ever say someone intentionally gave it to me? I’m pretty sure it’s from the guy I’m currently seeing since I had the breakout 10 days after our first time sexually together. Sometimes people are asymptotic with herpes so they wouldn’t know. The guy I’m seeing is going to get tested on his next day off of work.
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reptocarl

11 mo
Bullshit. He knew
Asker

11 mo
Even if you were right, that’s something that I can’t prove. (which I truly don’t think that’s the case)
reptocarl

11 mo
It’s been done before. He’s marked you for the rest of your life
Asker

11 mo
I suppose anything is possible. That’s just not the advice I’m exactly looking for. I’m looking for advice on how to deal with my emotions and plummeting self esteem. Or how will I ever be able to put myself out there again. I’m afraid to be passionate with anyone now.
reptocarl

11 mo
A wad of cash can go a long way in helping
Asker

11 mo
Nah, money isn’t going to solve this one sadly.

Answer 16

Asker

Why would I do that?

Answer 17

reptocarl

Because he knowingly gave you herpes

Answer 18

Asker

When did I ever say someone intentionally gave it to me? I’m pretty sure it’s from the guy I’m currently seeing since I had the breakout 10 days after our first time sexually together. Sometimes people are asymptotic with herpes so they wouldn’t know. The guy I’m seeing is going to get tested on his next day off of work.

Answer 19

reptocarl

Bullshit. He knew

Answer 20

Asker

Even if you were right, that’s something that I can’t prove. (which I truly don’t think that’s the case)

Answer 21

reptocarl

It’s been done before. He’s marked you for the rest of your life

Answer 22

Asker

I suppose anything is possible. That’s just not the advice I’m exactly looking for. I’m looking for advice on how to deal with my emotions and plummeting self esteem. Or how will I ever be able to put myself out there again. I’m afraid to be passionate with anyone now.

Answer 23

reptocarl

A wad of cash can go a long way in helping

Answer 24

Asker

Nah, money isn’t going to solve this one sadly.

Answer 25

Jmmmfi4 | 3.3K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

That's got to be really hard diagnosis to get.

Asker

11 mo
It definitely wasn’t easy. That’s why I’m here asking for advice...

Answer 26

Asker

It definitely wasn’t easy. That’s why I’m here asking for advice...

Answer 27

Anonymous

❄❄☃⛄🌈

Asker

11 mo
Come on... Serious comments only. 🥺
Opinion Owner

11 mo
I thought they would make your mood bright.
I did not comment anything, just nice emojis.
Asker

11 mo
I’m sorry that I’m being snappy. I’m just under a lot of stress and I’m looking for advice.
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Opinion Owner

11 mo
I understand.

Answer 28

Asker

Come on... Serious comments only. 🥺

Answer 29

Opinion Owner

I thought they would make your mood bright.
I did not comment anything, just nice emojis.

Answer 30

Asker

I’m sorry that I’m being snappy. I’m just under a lot of stress and I’m looking for advice.

Answer 31

Opinion Owner

I understand.

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