Do you agree with the statement that someone not wanting to date a trans woman, or man, is then Transphobic?

[ksmiller]

I think it depends on the reasoning. If it is because they don't like transpeople or don't believe in people being trans, then it is transphobic. However, I think that it is acceptable not to be interested in someone who is trans, regardless of their looks or stage of transition, if it is for any other reason.

[Secret6620]

I don't think so. Everyone has a preference. For example, I would never call someone racist because they are not attracted to women of color. It's just their preference 🌸💜🌸

[coachTanthony]

---------It's called having a preference and the people who you are attracted too. Am I a racist if I don't care to date a black woman? Or vice versa?

The answer is NO.

[MrOracle]

Absolutely NOT. There's a HUGE gap between being transphobic and not being attracted to trans people.

[ghostqueen]

Yeah, that's just preference.

[akihon]

Ah yes Riley Dennis of you tube fame, a vapid cretinous self absorbed transgender fucktard who sees the world as transphobic and bigoted or accepting if trans, to him/her/zebra there is no grey area and no in between.

This then stems fro a discussion he had with somebody who he was attracted to who in turn was not even remotely attracted to him

In order to then justify his position he claimed that not being attracted to trans people makes you a bigot.

Ok so I'm going to stop going out of my way to offend him now and refer to it as she or her. She had the weakest of all arguements here because she couldn't apply the same logic to gay or lesbian people however the law if transitive properties applies that if a lesbian doesn't want to sleep with a man then she herself is also bigoted as also applies to gay men not being attracted to any woman.

When you spread it out to cover the whole field then you can see how pathetic the argument is and how short sighted it is and how damaging to the trans community as a whole. The argument can even be stretched then that if a trans person doesn't want to sleep with another trans person they themselves are as bigoted as those they are accusing, what about a trans person not wanting to sleep with a non trans person, well with Riley's argument they are of course bigoted, but wait we now have the get out of jail card in that they aren't bigoted because they are oppressed.

Well that takes us right back to black and white without any grey areas, the problem is that it ignores any preference, that I might say prefer blondes to red heads etc, tall to short or thin to fat or fat to thin. It ignores that I might prefer conversation to sex etc.

And here's where it all breaks down, I don't like to look at penis's if I did then I'd probably be gay but I don't and lots of women don't like to look at the vagina of another woman, so then there is the inherent problem in that physical appearance is always going to play a part in attraction and certain physical attributes are going to affect the overall picture one has of another.

[Curmudgeon]

Listen to the claim of the demented: we are "transphobic" because we do not like being deceived and defrauded. And that we must indulge their mental disorder. At the furthest point of transition, a trans woman may have breast implants. They may have had their throat shaved down, their hair removed, their face ‘feminized’. They may have had their penis removed, turned inside out, and an *open wound*, which has to be periodically maintained with cutting, carved in the urogenital area, to create a ‘neovagina’.

They are still not a woman. They still have not changed sex.

[cth96190]

The idea is an absurd attempt by trans activists to bully the feeble minded into sleeping with them.
A so-called trans woman is not a woman. That person is a man in a dress, whether or not he has been surgically altered to resemble a female.
XY chromosomes = male.
That is the science.
I have no interest in getting into bed with a trans person, because I am not homosexual. Someone who has sex with a person of the same sex is, by definition, homosexual.
There is male.
There is female.
Everything else is mental illness.

[fashionguy17]

It's not transphobic. Straight people want to date other straight people. I don't understand why trans people always want to try to get with straight people. There was a song I was listening to on the radio a few moments ago, and it speaks volumes of this current society. Here are some of the lyrics that are relevant to this topic (please excuse the vulgarity of the lyrics):

Why the gay n***as tryna fuck the straight n***as
That's tryna fuck the gay b***hes that look just like the straight n***as?
While the straight n***as that the gay b***hes tryna look just like
Tryna look, just like the gay n***as

[NorthShoreCalling]

Totally disagree. Surely transphobic relates to not liking trans people in general. I’m not attracted to red haired men, that doesn’t make me phobic of them. Honestly, where is the common sense sometimes people.

[Pamina]

Why is this exact same questions being asked here like every other day? It's starting to get suspicious.

The answer will always be the same obvious one - it depends on the reason. If it is because they have a problem with trans people in general, then obviously yes. That's the definition of transphobic. If it is simply because they're not attracted to them, then obviously no. Not transphobic.

[Anonymous]

Fuck no, that's just a snowflake created shaming tactic.

Not wanting to date someone with Downs doesn't mean you hate the mentally disabled
Not wanting to date someone in a wheelchair doesn't mean you hate the physically disabled
Not wanting to date outside your race doesn't make you racist
Not wanting to date fat doesn't make you fat phobic

Preferences are not something you can force.

As a straight male, being told you are expected to rewire biology and choke down cock because it's claiming to be female... is like trying to force a shark to eat Kelp by telling them it's fish.

[Eagle_93]

I wish folks would stop throwing around words with phobia on the end when they don't know what it means.

One look at the dictionary will tell you that a phobia is an IRRATIONAL fear.

Please stop just repeating what the media shoves down folks throat.

I do not fear trans people, or anybody for that matter. But I do have my own sexual preferences, and THAT is no phobia.

[andreasderjuengere]

To a certain extent this is true.
And it's ok.
Nowadays people tend to make it a personal flaw when someone has very specific ideas about what he likes; and what he doesn't.
I don't let society dictate my personal decisions. The 'tolerance' that is expected from me - I claim it towards myself as well.
As I'm not advocating to put them into concentration camps, but let them walk free - I pose no danger to 'them'.

[CountessSarah]

No, and as a tgirl myself, I don't know any trans person who actually holds this position. It seems to just be an invention of tumblr.

[R3DthatDude]

I think it’s the opposite. The same way a gay person doesn’t like the opposite gender is the same way straight people don’t want to be poached by gay people. You are being narcissistic if you think I have to like you because your trans. As a person I respect you, but what I like is born a woman women. That is preference

[genericname85]

is a man who doesn't wanna date other men gayphobic? no. just not gay. not liking something doesn't mean having a phobia of something.

trans people like to assume that something is wrong with everyone else instead of them. that's how they cope with being different. they can't take being different in a way that most people don't like.

[potatoiswhoiam]

There is nothing wrong in not wanting to date a trans person, just like some people wouldn't wanna date a person who's had plastic surgeries.
And I think people deserve to be informed of such things before having sex!

[crmoore]

No. Saying "I don't believe is god" is not religiaphobic or christiaphobic, ir however it would be. It's merely a disagreement, a disbelief. Saying "I hate trans people, they're disgusting" is transphobic. Merely disagreeing with a notion doesn't mean you're "phobic" to it.

[Joe_Barbaro]

First of all, "transphobic" is not a thing, having an aversion to mental illness is called common sense. Second, someone not wanting to date a "trans" person just makes them straight, nothing more, because a "trans" person is still the same gender, only butchered and made into a Frankenstein, but people can never completely change their gender, it's biologically impossible, and if some surgeries make them the opposite gender, then Dennis Avner, god rest his soul, was in fact a tiger.

[Bman4907]

Seriously, this question again?

Only way you are transphobic is if you scream, "they're gonna take over the world, they must be stopped," as you set fire to their house. Not wanting to date someone because you don't like something about them is your choice. You don't want to date a smoker, fine, date an over weight person, fine, short guy, fine, chick with a dick, fine. It only becomes bad if your behavior is bad. I. E. setting fire to a car.

[_gigi18]

No. Sometimes they can't be the support a trans person needs maybe they want biological kids it doesn't make anyone transphobic people these days are so PC

[yahyahyah]

Voted no - just because you don't want to date someone, it doesn't mean that you condone treating that group of people with less respect or denying them rights. Everyone should be able to freely choose who they do and don't date.

[Anonymous]

No. I don't hate trans people but in my opinion being trans is a sort of identity disorder and I don't want to date a man with a vagina. Even if they get SRS we will never be able to have kids on our own.

[MrSlim]

Not at all. A trans women is not a woman, A trans man is not a man. I don't understand why people can't understand basic biology. If I sold you a dog and it was actually a pig and you didn't want a pig does that make you pigphobic?

[Jersey2]

This site is loaded with trans women. No, I want a biological woman, not a look alike. I am programmed to breed, someone with an XY chromosome can’t do that for me.

[Anonymous]

No. It means you're not interested. Just like you can be uninterested in sleeping with fat or ugly or stupid people, but it doesn't mean you're afraid of them (phobic).

There's a lot of entitlement going on these days. You're not entitled to getting fucked by someone. Deal with it.

[looneymalooney]

so basically rape should be the new norm in the vision of the liberal media and advocates.
Hey, you don't like me, but I do, so let me use you a bit... sshht... just close your eyes

[Savage_Wisdom]

Not wanting to date someone whose transgender isn't transphobic. Just like a man who doesn't want to date a man, or a woman who doesn't want to date a woman, isn't anti-gay.

[kangy]

no because it is preference but it does not mean they have fear towards others

[AGIS88]

No. This is a way for Trans people to guilt-trip people into being with them. It's pathetic. I'm not sexually attracted to (x), does that mean I hate (x)? No. It's means I'm not sexually attracted to (x) and thats fine. I'm allowed to have preferences with my own body.

[ApacheGazella]

No, just bc u don’t want to date a certain person doesn’t mean your transphobic.

[AzureGirl]

Eh, it largely depends on the reasoning behind not wanting to date a trans person.

[OlderAndWiser]

Hell fucking no! I don't want to date a guy pretending to be a girl. That does't mean that I am afraid of those guys.

[MannMitAntworten]

No. A phobia is an irrational fear of something. I don’t fear trans folks. I am just not interested in being with one. Even if they had the thing turned into a vagina, still not interested. I like my women with two “XX’s” and nothing else.

[wankiam]

no... it just means they are straigh... like im straight and dont want a relationship with a gay man but i am not homophobic in any way shape or form

[Bongem]

No, if a man doesn't want to date another man, does that make him homophobic? Not at all. Same thing here.

[MackToday]

No that's stupid on a previously unknown level. I mean literally it's like seeing a kind of stupid I didn't know was possible that anyone would defend this kind of view point.

[pajamasam]

No that's just preference. You can be completely supportive of trans people and their rights without sleeping with them.

[nelly83]

No, if you were a trans man, and you reject a woman who wants to date you, does that mean you're anti lesbian?

[KrakenAttackin]

There is nothing wrong with personal preference. To say someone not wanting to date a "trans" person is "transphobic" is BS.

Personally, I think "trans" is mentally ill, so go ahead and call me "transphobic".

[Anonymous]

How is that transphobic? If they look like a she, but has a dick then the straight man thinking he was with a woman, is more than welcome to not be down with that. It's not transphobic.

[Ripper_E]

That's like saying a man is gay for enjoying a blowjob from a man but didn't know it was a man because he is blindfolded.

[FireSky7]

Personally I don't want to date blonde women, so I am blondephobic.
I also don't want to date crocodiles, so I am also crocophobic.

[wagsingle]

Sexual attraction is a very complex thing. We all like what we like.

[duanemc86]

If my preference makes me evil, then I'm evil. If you want to live like a freak, fine. Dont ever expect me to just jump on the band wagon because its trending.

[OfDeath]

No. Transphobic is if you won't shake their hand or won't sit next to them on the train or something like that. Not dating them is a completely different issue.

[colinthenewfie]

These are one of the questions that I don't like. No I don't want to date a man that thinks he's a woman

[sweet87]

No not at all, like a trans person has a preference others do too. Anyone who would speculate such a thing could do with a crash course in freedoms and equal rights.

[Anonymous]

How the fuck is them not wanting to date a trans person make them transphobic this is one of the dumbest shit I have ever read

[Daddyjewel]

I like how most trans women make themselves look very beautiful and sexy but I also believe that to date one you have to be willing to except everything that comes with it so admiring one and not wanting to date one does not make you transphobic.

[bangyourhead]

First, no one sleeps with a trans woman and thinks it's a real woman. Second. We're allowed to have dating preferences.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Well trans people don't wanna date someone their opposite gender so that means they're heterophobic?

[sersss]

this whole area is quite new for men) Sincerely, I don't know how I would react if a woman would tell she was a man one day...

[hamadazopry]

No!!! There's no term called like this and if someone doesn't want to sleep with a transgender he's free to say it and can't be blamed!!!

[OddBeMe]

Preference is fine. Hating them for being trans is phobic.

[simpleguy996]

does not being into children mean you are childphobic? wtf

[zapana]

It is my right to not date a trans man. For my, trans man is not a real man.

[Steve37]

Not everything that doesn't support the trans lifestyle is transphobic.

[simplelikeme]

Just because some people are not into that doesn't mean that they are transphobic of it LOL

[koolkal]

No. It's a person's preference, especially if they want to have kids.

[Guanfei]

Another gigantic bullshit. They come one after another.