Have you ever had sex on a first date that then led to a relationship?

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Corey626 · Accepted Answer

I matched with a girl on Tinder that said she was NOT looking for a hookup on her profile. She was 5'10 and looked exactly like America's sweetheart of credit cards, Jennifer Garner. I'd eventually find out that she was more like Ben Affleck. And not Affleck from Phantoms. Affleck from Dazed and Confused.

He was the bomb in Phantoms. Couldn't help myself.

Her first question was "Do you smoke?" I said "I do. I've been dabbling in dabs recently, but I still prefer bowl packs of cannabis cup champions. How about you?"

(I didn't use "hbu?" If you stereotype me as a lazy stoner I will burn your ass for days.)

This is fun. Anyways, we talked all night. She texted me the next afternoon and asked if I wanted to hang out. She told me to pick up a blunt on the way. That should have been a red flag. Blunts are disgusting. But I said ok and told her I was on the way. Not otw.

She asked about the blunt immediately. I handed it to her and started driving. The first sign of Affleck emerged. "Uhh, you're not gonna roll it?" I told her I'd try. I hate blunts, why would I be able to roll one?

I somehow pulled it off. While driving with my knee. Cannabis promotes the growth of new brain cells. It also repairs and regenerates dead or dying ones. THC acts as a catalyst that stimulates the cannabinoid receptor system. The cannabinoid receptor system is a filamentous network that spans the entire length of the human body. Head to toe. It's like a superhighway that transports vital nutrients to every organ, muscle, ligament, and whatever the fuck else is in there. What was I talking about? Kidding. We were talking about that time I dated a real life psychopath.

I just joined this site. This is my first comment. I'm not sure how things go around here, but this is about to get salacious.

Sexual in nature. You gon' learn today.

Cannabis can also turn the Dazed and Confused version of Affleck into the only version of Jennifer Garner. My homicidal girlfriend to be suddenly became bubbly and flirtatious. She suggested we go back to my place. Scouts honor. (I'm using voice to text to speed it up now. For some reason, I said "scouts honor" like Good Will. I said it like Wahlberg.)

That's when she busted out the methamphetamines. (Literally lol.) I told her I'd never done it. "Ok, you should snort it then." It wasn't what I expected. I had a compulsive urge to clean my room. She sat on the edge of my bed and watched and laughed. I had to step over her to get to the little space in-between wall and bed. That's when she grabbed me.

Before I knew it, we were doing what she said she was NOT looking for on Tinder. It was... Incredible. I heard Prince singing "when doves cry" in my head. I made that part up.

It really was great though. I had to stop myself from saying "I love you" several times. I had a Gatorade and a pack of cigarettes on the dresser a few feet away. She wouldn't let me have either. Psycho.

(Out of room. Not done)

wankiam · Accepted Answer

many times... the 80s and 90s were like that

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Well thankfully I've never had sex on a first date, but that's because it makes NO sense to do so! Why would you sleep with someone you barely know or trust and hope it leads to more?

Maybe I'm being idealistic here, but shouldn't a relationship lead to sex?

If I'm in a relationship with a guy it means I trust and love him enough to have sex with him. Having sex before a relationship doesn't even guarantee it will lead to that point! If you're lucky, maybe. But most times it's just lust or someone looking for a fwb/one night stand. No thanks.

Lyndsielee666 · Accepted Answer

Yup. Been together almost seven years

nightdrot · Answer

Sure did. It started out as a one night stand and ended up being about a two year relationship.

We met at a party in college. I had seen her around but we didn't really talk or anything. Then we met at the party, went back to her place - an apartment just off campus, I was in the dorms. Got carried away and had sex. I spent the night and we had more sex in the morning and then I left and I figured that would be the end of it.

Key point. It was unprotected sex.

So flash forward about a month or so and she tracks me down and tells me she thinks she is pregnant. She is in tears and is scared to death. I am suddenly scared to death - how to explain to parents that their 19 year old college student son is going to be a teen dad and all the rest.

Well, it was a false alarm. Had we stopped to think it through, we probably could have figured that out a lot sooner. (A pregnancy test would have solved matters pretty quickly, but hey, you don't think of these things - at least we did not back then.) However I spent about another three weeks trying to calm her and take care of her - we kept everything to ourselves - and we grew attached. I found myself falling for her and vice versa.

Well, when she had her period that solved the issue, but by that point we had a serious relationship going. It ultimately lasted through the rest of our college career and - duh! - one more pregnancy scare along the way. (You'd think kids would learn.)

It ended a little sadly. We broke up because she wanted to get married and I did not. (I'm consistent. My girlfriend of 14 years and I have lived together for 12 years and have three children. Neither of us likes the idea of being married as we think it feels too contrived.) However, for two years of college I had a steady girlfriend and I still think fondly of her.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Ha! That would seem to be a relationship based on sex, because you sure can't get to know a person by sucking dick/pussy on a first date. You may start a relationship that way but it will probably be a short one when you get to know what the person is like out of bed.

opnbuk59 · Answer

It's true when I meet some one I don't rush and to try to take them out right away only when she's comfortable to point we have both known sooner about each other better trust and the ice is broken when I meet a woman it's with the intention of being in a long term if not permanent relationship I'm not into taking with dating multiple women at the same time just 1 good one who is ready for same

taleets · Answer

No unfortunately not

white_fang · Answer

I never had sex on a first date, ut I know a girl who is still in a relationship with a guy she had sex with on the first date.

ecfresh · Answer

Never had sex on a first date. Plus this is backwards. You should form a relationship before having sex, not have sex before the relationship.

BrexitAteMyLobster · Answer

Guilty ✋

BlondeGoneWild · Answer

I won’t bother with a relationship if there isn’t sexual chemistry

BadWolf67 · Answer

I met her at 3am forbsome sex and we've been together for 4 years now

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, twice. Was in my 20s though. I don't think It's a big deal if the chemistry is there and you are pretty certain you want a relationship.

ECityGirl89 · Answer

It was kinda turned into a lust relationship!!!

Dargil · Answer

Yes, but we were on the phone several times for hours before we got together.

luma666aah · Answer

I think its better to get naked with eachother without getting naked

jamesgoldman · Answer

how about getting into a relationship after getting a blowjob... we lasted 4 months and probably would have lasted longer had it not been for her going to university

Redstang88 · Answer

First no, second yes

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Several times.

Exterminatore · Answer

Yes. I’d did with my wife. We’re very happily married and could make rabbits blush.

genericname85 · Answer

no but i don't think that means anything. because i mostly noticed we weren't a good fit, which is completely independend of the sex. on the first date, you can't possibly know someone good enough and i think it is possible to end up in a relationship just like it is "possible" with a date you didn't fuck on the first date. it's not very likely overall. at least for me.