Why sex is the only way to make me happy?

Question

I don't find any other thing bring me happiness except sex. my family being toxic family, school (my school life fucked) , friends (backstabber, badmouthing).. overall it made me depressed, exhausted, and I feel so lonely and I feel like I unable to make friends anymore.. since everyone point me as bad..

Answer 1

cicchis0 | 453 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 6

I would guess that you had unmet intimacy/care needs in childhood (and/or early sexual activity), which has manifested as a psychological need for nurturing that sex temporarily fulfils.

Asker

11 mo
isn't that too late?
cicchis0

11 mo
Well, yes, it's a coping mechanism rather than redressing the past, which you can't change. However, you can learn to understand what is going on in your mind and adopt some more healthy coping mechanisms. I think your question means that you are already on this path, as you have some self-awareness. A clinical psychologist would be best placed to help you work through this. I can give you access to a book that does not directly address this specific issue but may still have some information that you find useful: documentcloud.adobe.com/.../track
Asker

11 mo
thanks :)

Answer 2

Asker

isn't that too late?

Answer 3

cicchis0

Well, yes, it's a coping mechanism rather than redressing the past, which you can't change. However, you can learn to understand what is going on in your mind and adopt some more healthy coping mechanisms. I think your question means that you are already on this path, as you have some self-awareness. A clinical psychologist would be best placed to help you work through this. I can give you access to a book that does not directly address this specific issue but may still have some information that you find useful: documentcloud.adobe.com/.../track

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Asker

thanks :)

Answer 5

saggittarius039112

Xper 7

Im sorry hun. Seems like you've been dealing with that for awhile. Try seeking simple conversation. Screw that backstabber and bad mouther. Your not alone darlin. 😊

Asker

11 mo
it's not for awhile. it has been happening to me since 4 years ago..
Asker

11 mo
now I feel like I can't holding it anymore. I feel like want to die. just can't stop wish for something to kill me
saggittarius039112

11 mo
Rock bottom darlin. We all hit it at some point. Some more than a few times. You need to vent it all out. Let it out. Break down if needed. Ill talk to you all you want. Im off and not busy. I enjoy helping people
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Asker

11 mo
I don't know how to do it..
saggittarius039112

11 mo
Well when did you first realize this was a problem for you?
Asker

11 mo
since I was 20..
Asker

11 mo
4 years ago
saggittarius039112

11 mo
What made you turn to sex? I understand its an escape but what drove you to it? Was it what you've listed?
Asker

11 mo
I often received compliment from guys and some of them asked for it. and I started to like to do it. and I find it made me forget about my problem.
saggittarius039112

11 mo
If I may ask. What was the initial problem?
saggittarius039112

11 mo
Also @asker. I know I don't know you but im sure your not a bad person.
Asker

11 mo
those are initial problems..
saggittarius039112

11 mo
Ok. Just making sure. Lets take it bit by bit. If it gets to be too much. Let me know and ill stop. With the toxic family. Could you elaborate a little more on how its toxic?

Answer 6

Asker

it's not for awhile. it has been happening to me since 4 years ago..

Answer 7

Asker

now I feel like I can't holding it anymore. I feel like want to die. just can't stop wish for something to kill me

Answer 8

saggittarius039112

Rock bottom darlin. We all hit it at some point. Some more than a few times. You need to vent it all out. Let it out. Break down if needed. Ill talk to you all you want. Im off and not busy. I enjoy helping people

Answer 9

Asker

I don't know how to do it..

Answer 10

saggittarius039112

Well when did you first realize this was a problem for you?

Answer 11

Asker

since I was 20..

Answer 12

Asker

4 years ago

Answer 13

saggittarius039112

What made you turn to sex? I understand its an escape but what drove you to it? Was it what you've listed?

Answer 14

Asker

I often received compliment from guys and some of them asked for it. and I started to like to do it. and I find it made me forget about my problem.

Answer 15

saggittarius039112

If I may ask. What was the initial problem?

Answer 16

saggittarius039112

Also @asker. I know I don't know you but im sure your not a bad person.

Answer 17

Asker

those are initial problems..

Answer 18

saggittarius039112

Ok. Just making sure. Lets take it bit by bit. If it gets to be too much. Let me know and ill stop. With the toxic family. Could you elaborate a little more on how its toxic?

Answer 19

boggboss | 5.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

You are living wrong gaining your enjoyment or validation from sex which kinda shows you are not able to love yourself and this can lead to you being used easy

boggboss

11 mo
You garuntie your own unhappiness in the long run by not addressing the issue here
Asker

11 mo
your opinion isn't helping. and I don't understand what you mean
boggboss

11 mo
Relying on sex to bring you happiness is not a positive aspect in your life and you should work out why you are that way as people will take advantage of your need to feel happy through sex

Answer 20

boggboss

You garuntie your own unhappiness in the long run by not addressing the issue here

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Asker

your opinion isn't helping. and I don't understand what you mean

Answer 22

boggboss

Relying on sex to bring you happiness is not a positive aspect in your life and you should work out why you are that way as people will take advantage of your need to feel happy through sex

Answer 23

cetm_

Xper 3

It's a phase... just don't try drugs and you will be okey to figure out there are plenty stuff that makes you happy, just Don't try drugs never ever , I cannot reccomend this enough lol

Answer 24

Dargil | 30.1K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

It is the only thing that validates you. I wish that weren't true. Protect it carefully. Don't let it get corrupted like the others. Don't let it break bad.