What do I do if I want a long lasting and serious relationship but I also really want to lose my virginity/have sex for the 1st time?

Is it normal that i feel so horny that i want to lose my virginity? I haven’t even started dating this guy but we text a lot and are interested in each other. How long should i wait? I don’t want to be seen as disposable so some wise advice would be nice
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  • Yes, that's completely normal. The average of first intercourse for women in the US is 16.

    How long should you wait? Have sex when you: want to have sex, have a willing partner you want to have sex with, and have taken the necessary measures to prevent unwanted consequences. Don't have sex because you think it will make the guy stay with you. Don't avoid sex because you fear the guy will think you're easy -- those guys are misogynists and you don't want them for a partner. In short, suit yourself, be responsible, and don't worry about anyone else's opinion.

  • I y girlfriend and I waited 6 months. That's my rule if I am with a virgin. Otherwise I'll wait 3. This is how long we have to date before I allow you to have sex eith me. You can be ready any time after that if you want to do it.


    Make sure you have a good relationship before having sex. Sex makes a relationship stronger, but you should get a strong relationship before sex.

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  • I’m gonna message you

  • Its very normal

  • I would say don't make decisions based on emotion or lust.

  • Jus keep waiting, if he's really into like that the he will wait

  • Hi u don't no him from only from text how do u liked him and y u thought to lose Ur virginity don't do
    From months he knows u u only chatted have meet him

  • You're too young to be dating, in my opinion, but, it's whatever

  • Gotta control ur horniness if u wanna be viewed as a person not just a fuck doll. Hopefully u can find something long term fast

  • Don't fight that urge, get your experience in, don't let those consider viewpoints skew your experience of being young

    • Conservative viewpoints*

  • Yes it’s normal for you to feel that horny. You could loose your virginity but still be committed to the other guy

  • It is very normal. Be careful though. many guys will use a woman for sex. Making him wait will show that he is interested in you as a person.