Do I really have to do crazy nudes and videos to keep this guy?

[Anonymous]

[SpeedVoid]

Some guys like porn because they like someone with a mismatched sex drive, it might not be all bad. If it bothers you I would just tell him straight up. As far as doing crazy nudes that's up to you. No one HAS to do nudes for anyone. Some folks like it, some don't. But understand all people have different tastes in a partner. It should be because it's something you want to do and feel good about.

The fact you're here asking this though tells me it's something you probably don't want to do. It doesn't sound like you guys are in a strong enough place for that kind of extra fun yet anyway.

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[Asker]

Recording girls in the changing rooms...

[SpeedVoid]

Is that something he did?

[Asker]

No he wants me to do it. He asks extreme stuff it's not that it's a mismatched sex drive he's not right in the head

[SpeedVoid]

Adding or removing his interests or fantasies doesn't change the core question here. Regardless of extreme nature or not. He want's something in his life that you don't want. We can't say it's right or wrong. No one can make those calls. He wants what he wants and so do you. You both want different things in your sex life and that's OK. Maybe you could talk and work it out or you two just might never work. As a personal aside, recording people in changing rooms is pretty greasy behavior in my opinion.

[Asker]

It's not worth getting caught and put into jail

[SpeedVoid]

Definitely not. Why do you want this guy anyway?

[Asker]

Maybe his looks I should step away

[SpeedVoid]

Keep in mind I have a very limited view into your particular situation but I think walking away might be a good idea.

[Browneye57]

Only if you're okay with him sharing them around with his buddies for a good laugh, and then posting them up on the internet when it all implodes, which it surely will.

Please don't tell us you're really that dumb.

[dthomas89]

she doesn't realize that most of those women on insta, are paid to do it

[Janice2000]

Yes but he is not worth it so go for someone who won't push you and make you do stuff

[Crystal03]

Because you let him do that to yourself.

Where's your self respect as a woman?

[Asker]

We are long distance and he's suggested having sex with a girl then send him stuff of us

[Mega_illuminati]

@Asker , and doesn't that tell you something about his opinion on you? I mean, anyone would wanna be in a relationship with someone who at least respects them. His treatment of you, does not really sounds like he is respecting you.

[Crystal03]

Yup. Seems like he only wants your body but not you.

[Asker]

@Mega_illuminati well I've heard he's treated his exes all about the sex aswell

[Crystal03]

You've heard? Tsk, soon you'll be one of those exes as well if he's done with you.

[Asker]

Yip if he treats his girlfriends like a friends with benefits then there is no point trying to be with him

[Mega_illuminati]

Okay, I gotta ask. If you already knew what kind of person he was, why did you get in relatioship with him?

[Crystal03]

I'm guessing maybe because of his looks and outgoing personality, Correct?

[Asker]

He was charismatic but actually didn't have many friends

[Asker]

I'm the quiet but have more friends than him

[Mega_illuminati]

Honestly, its becoming hard to sympathize with you @Asker. And his suggestion that you make out with a girl and send him video, only suggests that he got this courage because you were obidient to his earlier requests. Please please get yourself out of it. Otherwise you might end up like another user, whose boyfriend wanted her to have sex with dog and send him a video.

[Asker]

@Mega_illuminati yeah he's treating me bad no way I have to do this stuff to keep him

[Crystal03]

Dump him then.

[Warmapplecrumble]

No you don't

[SydneySentinel]

No way.

[saggittarius039112]

No! Dont keep him if thats the the deal. Dont do that to yourself. Drop the dude.

[Asker]

he's treated his exes just for sex aswell why doesn't he respect anyone

[saggittarius039112]

Darlin.. His issues have issues. You need to get out of that. Ur not something to be used. Put your foot down.

[dogbert111]

No! Tell him to sod off! No girl should be blackmailed like that!

[Asker]

Yeah that's all he's doing really

[dogbert111]

It sure is! Never succumb to blackmail. He might threaten all sorts of things, but call his bluff. He won't want to be labelled as a blackmailer, so it's very unlikely he will actually do anything!

[Asker]

he's just using me

[Dargil]

You should:

Your relationship will end in sorrow sooner or later.

[Asker]

Yah it will get to extreme

[chriscdi]

you dont gotta do anything you dont want to do and if this person doesn't like you for who you are then he would pressure you to do anything, let him follow girls if he wants

[chriscdi]

wouldnt*

[Asker]

Yeah if he wants to follow girls I've stopped caring I'm not here to entertain

[chriscdi]

exactly, this guy ain't it chief

[Asker]

Yip if he's treated girlfriends like a friends with benefits then hope is all lost... everyone will always be a sex object

[chriscdi]

well to this person yes, and you as a person with respect for yourself shouldn't be looking for acceptance from people like this, mostly if this person wants you to show your body to them, mostly when you dont wanna, have someone that will look at your personality just as much as they pay attention to your physical appearance, this is a red flag, you need respect not lust

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Apparently so.

[one1wild00]

Nope, you don't he may like watching various but he IS with you.

[Robbam55]

Honestly you should send me them then I could give you an honest answer

[Iron_Man]

No way if that is what he's all about drop him like a bad habit

[Lottifan]

This guy is not really interested in you but what you have in your panties.
Get rid of him and find a guy that respects you for who you are.

[bangyourhead]

You don't.

[dthomas89]

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do

if he can't tolerate it, he doesn't deserve you

[COMMODOREII]

Nope not at all.

[navyP]

Time for you to find a new guy

[Twalli]

Quite possibly, probably not a good guy to have though.

[Asker]

I agree not a good guy at all with the stuff he wants from me

[Twalli]

Any guy who considers any sexy pics or videos you choose to send as a surprise (albeit a welcome one) is one you should try to keep. He won't make any demands that are too unreasonable.

[Luxhian]

One nude a day keeps the lover away

[andy530]

If that’s what he wants and you’re willing

[nailu]

Piss on that

[DomTreddo]

Leave him. You will be happy in the long run