by sexually, like, what's the line? there was a girl in my physics class one time who seduced me with liquor when my girlfriend was out of town. weird because she just knew. i didn't tell her, but she followed me home from school the day my girlfriend left. like, she brought a liter of whisky to class with her... it was premeditated.
we never really had sex, but we made out a lot and we... well actually we mostly just punched each other... like in the arm until we got bruises. she was really into that. I didn't really care. like, it was fun, but i wasn't really into it.
I didn't like try to hide it from my girl friend, i wanted her to play too (but she wanted to hit me with pots and pans!!). Like the chic from class was really just a friend, she was just really horny and 18. We would sit around campus and check out hot girls together, which was super fun to do with another girl. it was so casual. I couldn't explain it to my girlfriend tho. I was just like... you should try making out with her too, it's fun. you'll prolly like it.
Also, it made physics class a lot easier, because I would go under the table and kiss around on her under-the-table-parts (still clothed) when i got bored and she would figure out how to solve all those crazy electro-magnetism problems.
Like, i really wanted to just everybody be friends. The girl made us dinner and we had a sort of double date, because she also had a boyfriend. it was super uncomfortable and awkward for my girlfriend and the girl's boyfriend.
The girl was going out drinking with her friends, so i went with her, but the other two weren't into it. Unfortunately her friends did not like me... so that kind of sucked.
Another time, my girlfriend, and the girl from physics went hiking in the forest on acid. i thought it would be super fun... but it wasn't... for some reason? like i mean, it was just hiking in the forest on acid... what else are you gonna do in Santa Cruz with 2 girls?
eventually it ended up that i broke up with my girlfriend, and the girl from my class wasn't really stoked about that. eventually we stopped talking to each other. but i kept living with my ex-girlfiend. (and i got a new girlfriend who moved in with us... and my ex-gf got a new boyfriend). it was super weird at first, but it was cool after a while.
I'm still good friends with all 3 of them. (not the girl from physics tho... never talked to her again... to the detriment of my grades. hahaha)
I wouldn't want to do that again. I'm not really a swinger or anything... so it's kind of strange when something like that comes up. all in all it was a bad scenario, for a while. I wouldn't recommend it!
With my current girlfriend never - and I never would. We did have in our very early stages a time when we were having sex with other people but we were just starting out and we told each other. Now I would never dream of it.
In my late teens in early 20s though, I did cheat. Not proud of it and I make no excuses. Call it evolutionary instinct or teen hormones, in my young years I was controlled by my penis, bluntly. When an opportunity presented itself, I took it.
As a guy, in fairness, evolution did program that instinct into us. It is how the species has survived several hundred thousand years.
However, we are more than the sum of our instincts an we can be better than that. Moreover, somewhere along the line you meet that woman you love and who makes you want to be better than what you are.
Then, suddenly, it is not like that instinct to have sex with any woman goes away. It is more like it just does not mean so much to you anymore as she means to you. In that moment you grow up, you mend your ways and nothing means so much to you anymore as just being with - and yes, having sex with - her.
It makes a difference.
Once again you nailed it professor it seems you have a wide array of topics for which you are very wise. I especially like the label evolutionary tactic or whatever it was you said it did have to do with in board deeply seated instinct to so my seeds far and wide just like May 30 great great grandfather did back in the caveman days
@Girther10 Thanks for your generous compliments, as always. Oddly enough, I have a girlfriend who works in family law and policy and so I see a lot of research and anthropological studies on human sexuality that she brings home from time to time. That stuff about the "caveman" as you called it is actually rooted in science. The human male's instinct was to impregnate as many females as possible. It is how the species has survived. The female, however, had to expend enormous amounts of energy to bear and care for the baby - and normally she could only have one. So she was looking for the alpha male with healthy sperm to sire a healthy baby and to then find food for mom and baby and ward off predators and rival males. You may have heard the old line - "For a woman, there is no sex until there is love. For a man, it is not love until there is sex." Well, the above explains the anthropological origins of why men and women view sex and relationships differently. The funny part being that we have transcended that and if you look at the data, both want a meaningful relationship. The problem is in the nuances. Anyhow, sorry to prattle on. Thanks again for your kind comment.
Sorry bout that last- the app did not type all the right words, and now I can’t figure out wtf I was trying to say... my apology...
I had an emotional affair when I was dating my high school sweetheart. I told him about it before it became anything physical & suggested we take a break. I told him openly I wanted to experiment with other people & gave him free pass to do so too. I really cared about that guy, but our sexual expressions just didn’t mesh well. And we were just holding each other back. I did the hard & hurtful thing & just ended it all together. He fought so much with on staying together too & even wanted to marry me. But I knew I could never commit myself to him in the way he deserved & wanted. I had more growing up to do on my end.
But it’s OK now! We’re friends & both in new/better relationships.
This is about sexual affairs, not emotional affairs
Cheating in general is fucked up. If that person isn't satisfying your needs you should just leave them, if their not giving you that spark, you should just leave them, if you don't feel attracted to them, you should just leave them. It's really not HARD! YOU'RE REALLY NOT ANY BETTER OF A PERSON FOR DOING THAT. I would never ever cheat on my boyfriend. I don't even look at guys. I'm loyal to the core once I'm in a relationship nothing else matters. Unfortunately people are so ignorant to see that these days and they just want more and don't appreciate what they have.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!This is going to disappoint a lot if my followers but I haven't cheated.
Cheated. After she cheated twice and lied about it.
Most recently, 'C', we were not clearly 'exclusive' at the time, so it wasn't technically cheating, but I still have feelings of guilt.
And yes, I was very satisfied.
i did actually...
we had a history test and i cheated off her paper in the last minute of the exam.. but o failed
“Technically” I did, I guess. My sexual satisfaction was never a problem. I was perfectly fine not having sex.
Yes I have cheated many times in lots of different relationships. It was not because I was not sexually satisfied in fact I was always sexually satisfied. The reason I did it was because the other girl was super hot and had something about her that really turned me on so it would have been a one time only deal but I did it just because I was horny all the time
That's fucked up
Not really, the people I was with were there with me because they wanted to be there with me. No one was ever forced into anything, in fact sometimes they came on to me first... some kind of taboo type thrill... lol
But in no way would I blame it on my partner. I cheated all by myself, no one made me. I just gave in to the temptations when they came along. I was addicted to blow jobs at an early age, like around 12 years old. It became a drag on my life for years. It also contributed to my desire to cheat. I liked having several sex partners, sometimes I’d have three different girls in one day. Mostly because I could.
Never have and never would. Cheaters are inhuman pieces of trash. It is of no fault of the partner.
Maybe those undies are his. Not all guys wear boxers or briefs. They could be his.
No, I don’t commit to a relationship to be single my ex cheated on me , why she is my ex and I have been with girls that were secretly cheating on their husbands and boyfriends with me without me knowing but then finding out after the fact , so I kind of laugh when polls say guys cheat more then girls do , I still find that very hard to believe lol I think Guys that cheat just aren’t as good at hiding it like a Girl can. But a guy will cheat if his sex life sucks at home A girl will cheat with a man for his status , his job, his looks and personality even if she has a good man at home it doesn’t matter a girl is turned on by status. When I found out the married girls I was having sex with were married I asked them why they did it and they all pretty much said he isn’t attractive anymore so who knows people cheat for all reasons , my thing is don’t get in a committed relationship with someone if you plan to fuck around
Sadly to many stupid fools cheat. No good excuse on why they do it.
If your not satisfied leave that s/o.
My ex cheated on me for 15 years hind sight kills.
I keep love and sex separate in my mind and so having sex with someone is usually just for tye fun snd feel good aspect. My wife is the same way and it works well for us but we both had problems in prior relationships.
Emotionally cheated yes, and by that I mean I caught feels for someone else. Nothing ever actually happened, like kissing or sex or anything. But I really liked him. Then again.. I was in a very abusive marriage that I was terrified of leaving, and was manipulated into not leaving. Then when this sweet guy came along I fell for him.
Yes I've cheated because I wanted more sex mid life 40s.
Do you still like more sex Rebecka or has it subsided. Asking because I've heard it goes on for a while then stops.
@BlacqueSupaMane yes it goes on till 52 55 ish
I have never cheated.
Nope... never. Easier to simply end things and retain my integrity.
Very admirable
Thank you, petrichowu.
I didn't cheat but I thought about it. I wasn't sure if I was still in a relationship.
Damm there is a lot guys who never been in a relationship
Makes me think I should delete this app
@Pric_Nick nah
Well how can someone give you advice on relationships if they have never had a relationship
We're guys having lunch with Co workers 😁 doesn't make us cheaters.
I never cheated on any of my girlfriends and don't plan to.
I would rather break up than play with their hearts
They cheat cause she don't give any pussy.
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