Am I pregnant or paranoid?

[Anonymous]

Right now, I am eighteen years old and I finally lost my virginity to my current boyfriend in February. We ve been having intercourse at least three times a week the past month. However, there are some minor complications. The first time we had s*x, I was worried because we did it unprotected and I bought a plan B. After one day of taking the pill, I had my period for seven days straight which is long for me. Then the next three weeks of using condoms pass by and before I left for my trip to Europe (where I am now), we had sex once more. I had a very bad feeling about this time even though we used a condom and spermicide, so I took another Plan B.

I am worried now because it has been 35 days ago since my self-induced period with the plan B. Would I have received it on regular time? Or am I losing my mind because the second plan B is delaying my period?

Thank you

[nightdrot]

Sweetheart, you are asking two different questions.

On the one hand, there is the fact of whether or not you are pregnant. From what you have provided here, my hunch is no, but there is no way to be sure. The best way is to take a pregnancy test.

The second point is about your fear of an unwanted pregnancy. Here two points are relevant.

First, any time you have unprotected sex, you have a chance of getting pregnant. That is just a great big palpitating fact and you need to realize that. It frightens you, but your actions are inconsistent with your fears. (Take it from a guy who has had three children out of wedlock with my girlfriend - don't worry, we are in a solid relationship. Then before that, two more, one who miscarried and one who aborted my little baby. The most painful thing I have ever known and even now, happy as I am, it still hurts to this day.)

To put it bluntly, if you are that afraid, you should not be having sex. You are missing what you should be having in the experience and it is turning something natural and beautiful into something frightening.

You are also playing with your health. I confess that I don't know enough about Plan B. (My girlfriend and I don't use it, and in any case, as those three little Munckins prove, we are not strong on birth control anyhow. By rights, we should probably have ten kids.) '
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However, it sounds like you are popping it almost instantly and that cannot be good for your body. You may end up stopping a pregnancy but if overused and in the wrong circumstances you could possibly permanently damage your body's ability to get pregnant or harm your unborn child if the timing is wrong.

Please believe me, I am not telling you not to use birth control. However, best consult your doctor about what is best for you.

Second, you need to master your fears. You are ruining sex for yourself and making the experience a source of fear and not of pleasure and fulfillment of your most basic needs and instincts as well as what you are sharing with the man you are with.

Keep repeating that pattern and eventually sex will no longer be a pleasure for you. Bottom line, use your mind to master your fears and keep some perspective. It is not paranoid - it is always wise to be prudent and careful - but you need to keep perspective and not let your fears get the best of you.

Finally, while I do not know your circumstances, if you do get pregnant, don't panic. Take it from a guy who has had his fair share of unplanned pregnancies. You will be surprised how such a special little gift will make your life better even in the worst circumstances.

That said, at least based on what you wrote, you do not sound like you are pregnant. So be calm, take sensible precautions and enjoy sharing what you are with the man you are with.

[Anonymous]

Hey,
I had been with this situation with my friend and as per her health and periods issue, this was all about pills which she took.
So I will suggest you to get yourself a small check and then chill because most of the times it's just pills effect.

[Anonymous]

It’s the pill you took my period lasted 2 weeks non stop and then I didn’t have another period after that for 2 months after taking the morning after pill or plan B as some call it I was advice plan be can do this and that it is normal and nothing to worry about

[Warmapplecrumble]

Just take a pregnancy test and wait another week if period doesn't come , book an appointment with the doctor.
The longest time I missed my period was 36 days I think. It could be stress, all the traveling and side effects of the tablets.

[Warmapplecrumble]

Thanks for MHO 🙂

[Anonymous]

Did he shoot his cum deep inside of your bare pussy? What position did he cum in you?

[Anonymous]

When in doubt see a doctor. Seeking medical advice elsewhere is not a good idea.