Do all guys like to have fast and hard sex the whole time?

Question

The guy I am dating and just started sleeping with wants to fuck super fast and hard the whole time. I prefer some fast some slow and mix it up. He’s also very well endowed and I am not used to that. Guys, does it feel much better for you going hard and fast or is it just what he thinks I like or what it looks like on porn? Girls do you like it like that the whole time?

Either way I’m going to talk to him about it and say that I like some slow time mixed in but since this is only the 2nd guy I’ve slept with I wasn’t sure if this is more normal that the first guy I was with.

ecfresh · Accepted Answer

Doing the same thing each time you have sex will always get boring. Mix it up, go slow, go fast. Take breaks and change positions. Sometimes you don’t even need intercourse as there are so many other intimate things to explore.

You have a great opportunity to explore new sexual things with him. Suggest this outside of the bedroom and then try something new with him. Worst case it fails and he fucks you hard since that’s his goto. But best case you each add sexual experience and diversity.

summiter · Accepted Answer

To me there is a difference between fucking and making love. Both are good at the right time. I'm like you and lie a bit of each. Does he get you to orgasm going fast and hard? How often are you two having sex? Maybe try to change things up with you on top to control the pace... your thoughts?

ushagomez · Accepted Answer

Oh definitely talk to him about it and let him know what you like. You can also take the lead. Variety is so much better than a Duracell bunny.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It's what they see in porn. They think big dick and fast thrusting is what gets us off. It's not.

Lliam · Answer

He seems inexperienced and doesn't know what the fuck he is doing. You have the right idea. He should be focused on pleasing you. The idea is to make love to your partner, not beat her to death.

Dobbiboy · Answer

He probably thinks it's the best way to do it. Make sure to teach him properly

Bongem · Answer

We like it mixed too, don't worry about that. In a relationship it is important to talk about what you like to each other. You could also get on top of him if you want to determine the pace more for example, that would be something you could try to show him how you like it.

TadCurious · Answer

I like slow and sensual prolonged thrusting until I start getting closer to cumming and then I like it faster and harder.

winterfox10 · Answer

Not all guys, no. It's more common with men who are circumcised though, because removing the skin makes the penis a lot less sensitive.

es20490446e · Answer

Good sex isn't a matter of speed, or softness level.

arun934 · Answer

Fast sex will never gives complete pleasure to your partner. It should start slowly and ends up. with a big bhoom

theCobbler · Answer

there's a multitude of possible answers, and all are personal to the individual, myself , being told at a young age , Sex was bad , until you're married , was my reasoning for fast and hard , ( get it done quick , as not to get caught) now through education and personal development, Sex is sex ; but making Love, can take decades !
I'm a firm believer, that Sex is the icing on the Cake of Love!

bangyourhead · Answer

I like a mix of all kinds.

dthomas89 · Answer

sounds like he just wants to get it over with, not let you orgasm, yourself

JRK100e · Answer

I prefer to go really hard and fast lol I've been told by many that I fuck like a pornstar. That's just my preference though

COMMODOREII · Answer

Nope not really. I like slow intimate sex too

Steve37 · Answer

When I was much younger and much less experienced, I felt the need to go hard and fast all the time. I quickly learned there's much more out there than that.

navyP · Answer

No not always most of the time it's slow and ateady

Twalli · Answer

I prefer fast for vaginal aex because it feels better. I go more slowly with ansl for the same reason.

TienShenhan · Answer

He's probably a pretty simple guy. Tell him your desires are more complex than "smash."

IOwnYou · Answer

Not everytime, it depends, if its a one night stand then yeah most of the time women want it hard on a one night stand, but if it's a relationship, I get to know what she wants and if she wants it slow, romantic sex then I'm all in