Why do I feel guilty of having intercourse with someone I don't really know?

Question

Hello everyone. I'll be addressing to both the guys and the ladies out here. I'm going to be straightforward. I'm 21 and I'm a virgin. I have no complaints against this. The thing is that when I go hang out with my friends at some night club or some beach party, we are always talking about getting hooked up.

What's up with me is that even though sometimes I get the opportunity to have intercourse with someone who is willing to do it, I feel guilty of it and I end up doing nothing. And I think it's because I'm emotional and I like intimacy, and I want my first time to be with someone I love, like real love, and not with some random girl who's up for a one night stand and only to satisfy her needs. And I think that it's going to take a long time since I have decided not to date until I'm ready for marriage. So does anyone of you here feel the same way or is it just in my case? If so, what should I do, or what should I change?

P. S I've tried to keep this as decent as I could and I expect the same from y'all. Thank you.

Why do I feel guilty of having intercourse with someone I dont really know?

Answer 1

potatoiswhoiam | 372 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Yoda

It's normal to not be into hookups. You are you, so don't let people tell you what's right and what's wrong. If you don't find it right for yourself, then don't force yourself to make it seem right. Chances are you're just gonna feel bad about it.
Also if you really care about finding that long term partner who has the same view on sex as you, then you need to stick to your beliefs.

Answer 2

shreya_shiry | 4.2K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Guru

why you need to make such a big deal about it. if you are not in to hookups then dont do it and dont think about it. its not a bad thing to want to be intimate only with someone you love and its nice that you want it to be special.
( liked the pic. its really sexy and sensual)

ashok11

11 mo
Shreya can we hookup?
shreya_shiry

11 mo
Not enough. Try to be more creepy and keep proving that it's right what others say about Indian guys

Answer 3

ashok11

Shreya can we hookup?

Answer 4

shreya_shiry

Not enough. Try to be more creepy and keep proving that it's right what others say about Indian guys

Answer 5

BlacqueSupaMane

Xper 4

I think the topic thread has really given the best advice and great responses. Don't do it unless you really want to, but saving yourself for that special someone would be the best gift for you both.

Answer 6

boggboss | 5.9K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

Ofc some people will feel like this but most guys don't lol

Answer 7

btbc92 | 1.4K opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Master

If they want yo how around let them. Stay out of that environment and find new people to hangout with. Wait for marriage to have sex. Resist the devil and he shall flee.

btbc92

11 mo
Also, you feel bad because you want to fit in and you don't know why can't others just respect that premarital sex is not something we should do. You feel alone in this and that your turning down intimacy with others. It's not intimacy. To them it's just sex. People like that are just miserable sexually. Your a sensitive people. We tend to feel guilt over everything basically. Sorry to say. But other who aren't HSP, wouldn't get it or understand.

Answer 8

btbc92

Also, you feel bad because you want to fit in and you don't know why can't others just respect that premarital sex is not something we should do. You feel alone in this and that your turning down intimacy with others. It's not intimacy. To them it's just sex. People like that are just miserable sexually. Your a sensitive people. We tend to feel guilt over everything basically. Sorry to say. But other who aren't HSP, wouldn't get it or understand.

Answer 9

gibgabbs | 358 opinions shared on Sexuality topic.

Xper 5

"Directly after copulation the devils laughter can be heard

gibgabbs

11 mo
- Arthur Schopenhauer

Answer 10

gibgabbs

- Arthur Schopenhauer

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