Why would guys want to be monogamous?

[Anonymous]

I watched porn with my boyfriend the other day and we saw all these videos of gorgeous women with amazing bodies. He also showed me his favourite porn star. I don't mind that he watches porn of watching it with him, it just makes me wonder why he would want to be exclusive with me. There are so many beautiful women out there willing to have sex and he could be everywhere if he wanted to in stead of being loyal.

Don't get me wrong, though. My boyfriend is sooo appreciative of me and loves my body. He says I have the same body as his favourite porn star etc.

My boyfriend also has a busy past. He is 24 and told me (when I asked him) that he has been with 12 people. Again, it doesn't matter.

Still I wonder why men would want to be in a relationship when they can mess around all they want. What do you guys think?

[MrOracle]

Sex is great and as a guy, we have a desire to have sex with many different women. Still, as good as that is, for most men - perhaps nearly all men - it's ultimately not as fulfilling as being in a real relationship with an emotional connection to someone. And most men, sooner or later, realize that, and want a relationship IF they can find a partner who is a good match. That last part is the challenging bit.

And, no, that won't completely remove his desires for other women, but if he has strong feelings towards you, then those desires won't be nearly as strong and he'll be able to manage those desires without too much difficulty. Hopefully, he really values the things that you bring to the relationship (and hopefully you bring more than just sex to the relationship!), and if so, there's no reason why you can't have a successful long-term relationship.

[ecfresh]

Because he’s a better version of himself when he has you. Certainly if life was all about sleeping with various people and always going for the next new sexual partner then monogamy seems silly. But the accountability, trust, intimacy, reliability; and many more reasons show the benefits of monogamy. Couples who have been married for a long time still have healthy sex lives and still have fantasies, they have just learned to incorporate certain fantasies into their own intimate activities. So keep watching porn with him and use it as a tool along with other things to get busy making love to him.

[Davey2019]

Porn is just fantasy. Guys like to fantasize. He treats you well and he loves you. there's no indication that he wants any other girl in real life.

[ZELLxoxo]

Every guy will have a different answer to this.. ask your boyfriend.

[PondyPand]

Porn isn't real life.

[perfectchaos]

Some things you just can't get from messing around.

[R4vedave]

Because sex doesn't fully fulfill most people. I need intimacy, compassion, and warmth from a relationship that I'm not going to get from just fucking around. I want to settle down with someone because I want to share my life with my partner, there's no better feeling in my opinion.

[BrexitAteMyLobster]

Sex doesn't fulfil every need, that's why. Yes, it's fun and it feels good but life is about more than that. Some guys can just stay single and fuck around, but most people want a companion at some point. They want to share things and commit to something.

[boggboss]

Because life is not sex lol yes he probebly could get sex from many beautiful women but that just raw pleasure past that guys want affection they enjoy that feeling of being invested in a person and knowing that person loves them but it was only about sex why would guys show affection

[FakeName123]

Because many men don't just want to get laid (which is rather easy to be honest, just a numbers game) - but also companionship and genuine affection.

[RLovesD7792]

well for one thing the women you see in porn are fucking assholes complete pieces of shit. How do I know because I used to talk to a lot of them first hand years ago and majority of them were complete scumbags. They would lie about their marital status all the time saying never saying they were married but yet still talked to me continuously or letting me know they had a boyfriend or were pregnant or god knows what. They withheld so much information from me that when I found out they couldn't deny it and got pissed because they couldn't screw around with me anymore. I could go on about the kind of jerkoff women that work in porn but I won't bother you with the details.

by the way just out of curiousity how old are you?

[Thatsamazing]

Because he can't fuck a girl through a computer screen.

[MysteriousDarkness]

It's not as easy for most as you think it is to find someone just to have sex with. A relationship is usually meaningful where sex with random people can be fulfilling for the moment but more likely have an emptiness inside because of the lack of love and care.

[COMMODOREII]

Why not?

[Shamalien]

How can one explain? A meaningful connection is worth more than random dumb sluts. They are exhaustingly vapid, difficult to be around

[navyP]

I've been asking myself that's question for. years the world is a buffet and I want to try them all

[Twalli]

A relationship is different. Sex is meaningless and not that good without a relationship. Cumming feels better when it is done with, in, or on a person who wants you to do it with them because they care about your pleasure

[KrakenAttackin]

At our core, we all want to be monogamous with our "soul mate". The problem is finding that soul mate and hoping they have not already found someone else.

[TienShenhan]

Because there's more to life than sex? You'll realize that eventually, guess you're just young

[bklynbadboy1]

You have to learn that everything that glitters isn't gold lol

[Clarke498]

That's where the personality comes in. The outside lures them in, the inside keeps them from leaving.

[Plitty-Tank]

Because people get jealous.

[Russwill]

It not as easy as you think! Men get rejected all the time for many reasons! Its not like the women are walking up saying there's something about you i like lets have sex!

[Slim57]

Because one is good enough for me